I'm not sure how to order these thoughts, so I'll just start.
I am not comfortable in any way being associated with Asperger's or Aspie, as a term, as a concept.
That's an I sentence. Judging such a thing for other people who have habit and context that I don't is outside my scope.
I'll tell you why, though.
Fuck a hierarchy.
There are certain words that give me the squigs because, at their inception, contained "better than" in the definition. Mahayana is another example.
I can't, for myself, imagine reclaiming a word that exists only to wedge a marginalized group.
I am #ActuallyAutistic . So are many other people with very different presentations to mine. I am human. So are other people with different presentations to mine. I'm not comfortable with any "more capable [of what, exactly? fuck you.] than other humans" labels, either.
I give no fucks about what pronouns people address me with. I'm not going to say others shouldn't. It's different things that pluck my strings and make sweet or discordant resonances. Same as anyone.