Well, it's International Asexuality Day, during Autism Acceptance Month.

Maybe if I focus on that I can find the sudden, unexpected skyrocketing touch starvation pain I've been dealing with for a week now kinda really funny, instead of intensely overwhelming and destabilizing, causing me to be really angry about little things like accidentally brushing a friends hand. Which is also a funny state to be in.

*sigh*

#ActuallyAutistic #autismacceptancemonth #AsexualVisibilityDay #greysexual

If you see this, post your pride flags ✨

#Pride #ProgressPride #PrideFlags #Asexual #GreySexual #GreyAce #RubberPride #Aromantic #Aro

Hey lovely folks of fedi who are anywhere on the asexual spectrum 

A friend of ours¹ thinks they might be asexual, but they're doing the doubting questioning thing  (i.e., the thing we mostly all do with sexuality, gender, romanticity, neurodivergence etc.)

Please may we call upon your collective knowledge and experiences to share what asexuality means for you and help us bust some myths for others who might be questioning too?  

Thank you kindly in advance  

Boosts appreciated  

#asexual #demisexual #greysexual #graysexual #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #AskFedi

¹ Yes: we genuinely are asking for a friend! We are very much allosexual ourselves 😅😳

Edit: Changed the link, per a recommendation for a better wiki page 🥰

Edit 2: Thank you to all your varied answers so far! Please keep them coming! Hopefully this will help our friend and others who are questioning. But anyone wondering about us, your experiences very much confirm how allosexual we are 😅😳

Thoughts on being nonbinary.

2 years ago, at 50 years old, when the illusionary armor of my "manhood" crumbled into the dry dust that it was created from, I exploded in glitter and the desire for soft curves and smooth skin. The amount of emotional pressure that it took to keep all of those aspects in shadow was so great that I was thrown all the way into the full desire to embrace my "womanhood".
It was a very exciting, confusing, and exhausting time. My spouse was quietly supportive, but I could see that she was suffering as well. My therapist was a gloriously loving and supportive cheerleader and a steady voice reminding me to practice immediacy and mindfulness.
In these past two years of experimenting, shimmering, laughing, and crying, the practices of immediacy, mindfulness, and unconditional self acceptance have been my compass and guiding stars. Reading the journeys of others, many here in the fediverse, I slowly found my home in the universe of gender identity and sexuality.
As with everything else in my life, I found myself longing for the middle ground.
I know in my being that I am not "man".
I know I'm my being that I am not "woman"
I know I'm my being that I am neither/both/somewhere gently flowing in-between.
I am not hetero or homo sexual. When I am feeling sexual, it normally unfolds into a desire to connect and play on a physical level with another wholehearted being, their gender identity doesn't matter just the connection and willingness to play.
My relationship with my spouse has blossomed in the same way. The interesting thing about practicing unconditional self acceptance is that it doesn't stop there. It rolls onto everyone. It has entirely remade my relationships.

Recently, I was turned on to Alok Vaid-Menon and when they spoke of being truly nonbinary, not just in gender but in every way, it reminded me of the Buddhist principle of non-duality. Suddenly, it all clicked for me. I've been seeking nonbinary since puberty which is around when I first read Zen Mind Beginner's Mind by Suzuki and Sidhartha by Herman Hesse.
That's the story of my journey so far. Now, a little tea, take the dogs out, then a massage and reiki appointment.
You are all and each so very beautiful.

#nonbinary #genderfluid #nonduality #mindfulness #zen #greysexual #demisexual