I suspect there may be many people out there, who just don’t like sex that much, or (like me) not AT ALL, but due to the cultural expectation that "everyone wants and likes sex!", they feel pressured into living a false life just to "be normal".
In discussions I learned many out ace ppl figured themselves out surprisingly late in life.
Aphobic tropes cannot die FAST enough.
One of the BIGGEST aphobic tropes is the idea that #asexual people are "broken" or are doomed to be sad/depressed, as if they "lost" something important in life for being asexual.
To me, this is completely ironic. There was a time where I falsely thought of myself as heterosexual and I felt pressured into being someone who I wasn't.
But once I realized I was simply asexual, all those worries DISAPPEARED, and I’m actually HAPPY to know my true self. 🙂
#Aphobia is bigotry against #asexual and #aromantic people.
Aphobia is different than other forms of #queerphobia. But it still SUCKS.
Common aphobic tropes include:
👎 Denying that asexual/aromantic ppl exist
👎 Dogmatic ideologies that claim that "everyone" must like/want sex and romantic love
👎 Framing asexual and aromantic ppl as "broken" or "inherently depressed"
Today is the yearly reminder that:
#Homophobia 🤮 ,
#Biphobia 🤮,
#Interphobia 🤮,
#Transphobia 🤮,
#Aphobia 🤮,
#Lesbophobia 🤮,
in short: ALL forms of #Queerphobia 🤮
STINK and are GIGA-#CRINGE. It’s not LGBTQ+ people who should feel embarrased. Queerphobes should feel embarrassed instead.
#LGBTQ+ people just want to be themselves and don’t give a SHIT about hurt queerphobic feelings. Don’t be a queerphobe, it’s CRINGE.
Since it's ace week, I would like to use this opportunity to say that claiming that a fictional character who is ace can never be interested in sex is aphobic. It's erasure of a whole range of ace identities (such as demisexual, grey asexual, cupiosexual, etc.) and general oversimplification of ace people's experience.
There isn't much ace rep out there as is and it's gross when people deny others rep.
If you're ace and you absolutely don't want to see an ace character in relationships - that's absolutely valid, but please don't act like your experience is the only one. Telling aces they can't put a fictional ace character in sexual situations is still aphobic, even if you're ace yourself. Same goes for the aro counterparts.
A good example of this behavior is the Murderbot Diaries fandom, who are ready to harass anyone, including aroace people, over shipping Murderbot with anyone, despite the fact that even sex and romance repulsed aroace people can and do have sex or relationships IRL.
Next, can we stop assuming that characters are aroace when only one part of this identity is confirmed? It's absolutely valid to headcanon them as such, but I've seen people harass others in such instances. A good example would be Alastor from Hazbin Hotel. He's canonically asexual, but his romantic orientation has not been confirmed, meaning he could be aroace or he could be allo ace. Despite this lack of confirmation, people who shipped Alastor with other characters got tons of harassment. Not only do the previous points apply, this is also a case of allo ace erasure.
Asexuality is one of the most marginalized identities, with ace people being shunned by both cishet and fellow queer people. Which is why it's extra heartbreaking to see aphobia within the aspec community. Especially over fictional characters. Come on, we can do better than that!
"Acephobic conspiracy theories have transphobic and fascist roots"
Yes.
https://prismreports.org/2023/01/13/acephobic-conspiracy-theories-transphobic-fascist-roots/
(acephobic = being bigoted against asexual people)
I can personally confirm this. Many of the loudest acephobes I saw online are also very loud transphobes.
I recently listened to an interview w/ Jasmin #Benoit about a study on neg. opinions on #asexuality in the #UK from February 2025.
It’s the same study that found that 31% WRONGLY believe asexuality can be "cured" (🤮). (https://www.kcl.ac.uk/policy-institute/assets/asexuality-in-the-uk.pdf)
Interesting to listen to, explains a little how studies are made. And asexual #research is RARE.
The funniest/saddest part is that researchers expected that aphobes would hide their #aphobia. No, they don't.
▶️ Listen: https://theacecouple.com/episode177/
People who are asexual are not simple loners who want nothing to do with anyone else. #Asexual people are perfectly capable of having fulfilling friendships and even relationships with others, contrary to these prominent acephobic myths.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/how-to-understand-and-be-an-ally-to-asexual-people-in-2025-28a6aac21f39
The Easter long weekend is my yearly spring-cleaning time.
This year, I'm going to focus on de-Rowling my flat (#FuckJKRowling, am I right?!).
I've come to realise I've gained a lot of HP housewares and clothes over the years, which'll all get boxed up and dropped off at a local charity shop.
Not sure about my 2 Funkos though. Should I try to flog them on eBay, stuff them in a box in the attic for the future (💰), or include them with the charity stuff? 🤔
It would appear that Miss Joanne Rowling has once again shown that she is completely ignorant of something relating to the experiences of #LGBTQ people. A shocker, I know.
https://buff.ly/ZLbYKrg
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