People over 30, how are you taking care of yourselves?

https://lemmy.world/post/45118248

People over 30, how are you taking care of yourselves? - Lemmy.World

Are you eating better? Sleeping better? Getting in shape?

Making up a plan for how to take care of myself. As it currently stands, it entails:

  • processing childhood trauma and the symptoms that it causes today
  • learning how to affirm myself by learning how to give zero f*ucks about norms and expectations
  • Unless I deal with the above first, I don’t see how I’m going to find energy to do anything else, even though I want to exercise, eat well and whatnot.

    I eat better (when I had money). No fast food, I only drink alcohol every couple of months, and avoid harmful drugs. Going to bed early I see it as a luxury. I walk instead of driving. My go to beverages are ice water, cold brew black coffee, and occasionally soy milk.

    I’m fucking miserable.

    Sounds nice, except for the being miserable part.

    I’m fucking miserable.

    That’s the soy milk. Replace it out with uh… Diet coke 😁

    Hope you feel better, though.

    Why are you miserable?
    I don’t have either the time or the money anymore to eat properly.

    Stretch and eat fiber.

    It’s literally all anyone has to do to stay fit, but almost no one is willing to do it. It’s fucking weird especially as people get older that they don’t do either. Even if it doesn’t add “years of life” it drastically improves the quality of your years.

    Which in a lot of ways is even more valuable.

    Stretching every dang day

    I’ll be 44 on Easter Sunday.

    Lots of veggies. Lots of strength training, but nothing too complicated. Also, doing stuff with my kids like Little League and Cub Scouts keeps me moving.

    Echoing what other people said, your vices come to get you in your thirties and you have to either decide to give into them, or confront them.

    I still struggle with fast food and sitting a lot, but I work out regularly now at 3-4 times a week to counter it, stretch, and now I purposely try to not be sedentary. I walk and bike when I can, avoid endlessly driving or anything else that is just sitting. In the last 18 months there has a been a dramatic improvement to my health with all of my numbers being better than where they were before. I’ve learned that even a modest amount of trying will do an exponential amount of payoff.

    Someone said in a comments field “Why should I spend 30 minutes a day sweaty and miserable” (referring to working out). I’ve learned that for myself it’s not about the 30 minutes feeling miserable, it’s the rest of the day where you feel much better. I’m no longer winded going up stairs, I can carry things, I feel like I have some of my endurance from my teenage years back.

    Avoiding all ultraprocessed foods and eating an appropriate diet.
    Less alcohol, more fiber!
    Nope. I’ve never been into junk food and alcohol anyway.

    I use weed to cope with existential crisis and sociopolitical turmoil. Oh you mean physically? Heh… Heh…

    Real answer: I walk a lot, I’m grateful to live in a walkable city

    I use weed to cope with existential crisis and sociopolitically turmoil

    Same dude. Same.

    I also walk a lot as a form of exercise. I love eating an edible and then going to wander around. The edible hits mid walk and it’s awesome.

    This is my go to as well. Add in some music or audiobook and stroll all over town. Come back home and sleep like a baby. It’s a great combo and makes you feel good about getting that exercise in.
    Yep! It’s great and feels great. Go team stoned walkers!

    100%, I do the same while listening to music. On the best days, I’ll lose all sense of time until I find myself on the other side of town.

    I discover the best places that way, and I always pin them for next time I’m around. If I pass by an interesting looking place but don’t go in, I’ll mark it with a question mark in a list called “Sidequests”

    I love wandering aimlessly around town. So many cool places to see.

    Sometimes I’ll play a mobile game called Orna while I walk. It helps me get further out as I chase down monsters and loot.

    Go team stoned walkers!

    In the words of RTJ: Life’s a shitnado, the smoke’s my umbrella.
    Strange, I have weed stashed with me and two joints I rolled two months ago but haven’t been touched yet. Just never get in the mood.

    I quit alcohol completely last year, both for physical and mental health.

    Stick to a consistent sleep schedule.

    Signed up for swim classes recently and may add water aerobics. Having an autoimmune disease makes it a little more difficult to do high impact work outs, but it’s important to keep your body moving.

    Eat a balanced diet. Everything in moderation including moderation.

    I don’t drink much, just the occasional cocktail that I mix at home. I avoid most processed food, Blue Apron has significant helped with that and taught me how to cook healthier foods. It probably helps that I enjoy eating fresh veggies like bell peppers and tomatoes as a snack. I probably don’t exercise as much as I should, but I do go for walks or bike rides and in spring-fall, I spend more time outside in my little garden. Gotta get that Vitamin D!

    My biggest vice is I’m a stoner. I smoke more than my doctor would prefer, but it makes me feel better and has vastly improved my mental health 🤷‍♀️

    I eat like shit, and it probably wouldn’t hurt to cut back on the beer, so I kinda compensate through everyday stuff. Such as never using an escalator or elevator when it’s a matter of fewer than 3 floors, I generally walk when I can, and every other workday starts with 30 push-ups and 10 chinups.

    Almost 31. I don’t drink sugar anymore. I still eat fast food constantly and vape THC on the daily. I have a therapist now, though, and sometimes exercise.

    I struggled to gain weight for most of my life, but I finally managed to put on some muscle via figuring out that I need to eat a ton of food alongside activity. Doing woodworking, drumming, and general housework has been enough exercise to keep me from getting fat and actually have an okay physique.

    Mental health is in the shitter, but I’m working on it.

    So I think I’m doing about as well as everyone else my age.

    I still eat fast food constantly

    Which fastfood?

    Like McDonalds?

    I feel like fastfood quality of taste went downhill… maybe its just my area… 🤷‍♂️ (that’s on top of the related health issues)

    Just about all of it. I drive around all day for work, so it’s the only convenient and cheap way to get a hot lunch. I bring my lunch sometimes, but not as often as I should.

    I’m also pretty tired after work and all out of executive function, so i don’t make dinner as often as I should, since other things get prioritized. Will hopefully be moving to a place with a dish washer soon, which will hopefully help me stop avoiding cooking so often.

    Quality has gone down for some items and locations, up for others, imo. Prices all suck, but so do grocery prices at this point. You can still get a meal pretty cheap if you are willing to just eat whatever is on promo.

    Which do you like?

    I kinda like the Bacon Cheeseburger at Five Guys

    Idk about “cheap” tho…

    Five guys is good, but it’s insanely expensive for what it is. I feel like you get an equally good burger for a more reasonable price at Whataburger.

    Braums does a good job with chicken strips and cherry limeade.

    Taco Bell’s boxes are the only thing approaching a decent value at this point, and they change them decently often.

    I try to eat local if possible, though.

    After i turned 30, i was rapidly confronted with consequences for my unhealthy lifestyle from my teens and twenties, you learn quickly that things need to change after glancing at death a couple times and at hospital stays.

    Thankfully i have the motivation to keep living, and that began to drive my actions after that

    Eat healthy less processed foods made in your kitchen and bought from farmers and markets

    Gym and active hobbies like hiking and dancing at least three times a week

    Hygene routines solidified, brushing teeth twice daily, non negotiable, thorough flossing and even tounge scrapping daily, fresh clean towel after the daily shower - its worth the extra laundry imo

    Skincare, especially daily sunscreen, non negotiable - face, neck, and exposed arms - brimmed hat when on a daily walk, upf 50+ clothing if outside for more than an hour doing chores of on hobbies - in the morning vit c on the face, and in the night a retinol (vit a derivitive)

    Hearing protection when at any music shows, wear them so you can keep hearing shows for the long term and not be that guy that says “WHAT?!” at every sentence. Genuinely, i prefer to go with good earplugs now than without

    Keeping hold of and scheduling meets with friends, family, and neighbors - as you get older it gets so easy to drift a part, we are all busy, and that 3 minutes spent texting to say “hey lets hang out, does thursday evening work?” makes good friends into best friends - lonely people die faster - be that family, friends, neighbors, and yourself

    As i get older and take care of myself, its easier to love myself, and thus, its easier to love other people and receive their love too. Get philosophical about it, it also takes care of you.

    As i get older and take care of myself, its easier to love myself, and thus, its easier to love other people and receive their love too.

    Really well said.

    I too started to face the consequences of my lifestyle in my late 20’s. I was fat, sedentary, ate junk, smoked, drank and my back started to hurt. I can’t really tell what motivated me to turn my life around. Could be I wanted to live a long and healthy life out of spite. Anyway, I’m way healthier now than I was 10 or 15 years ago. The effort is worth it.

    42 and I am not, nothing the live long for. Just gonna enjoy the time I have left enjoying myself.

    Being single helps a lot. I don’t have anyone draining my energy and money and blaming me for their problems.

    I have a great job, I eat right, and I exercise a lot and have engaging hobbies and volunteer work outside of my job.

    I do struggle with sleep but that’s something that has been true my entire life.

    I eat whatever i felt like that day, work has been very rough on my body and mental health so sometime i skip dinner because of indigestion.

    Sleeping wise, well i find it hard to sleep early because i loath tomorrow.

    I’m getting out of shape because of the stress eating lately, but i also been baking cookies quite a lot so maybe that’s the cause as well.

    Also everything hurt. Back, knee, hand, finger.

    Mentally i’ve adopted 4 cats and 1 hamster, and also do some gardening, and yes it definitely help coping with whatever problem i have right now.

    Started doing PT for an injury I sustained in my 20’s, and then largely ignored. Its made a huge difference. Probably going to quit one of my business (sell my stake) and take a lower paying role so I can focus on building up my vanilla operation. In my 20’s I focused on living in a manner consistent with my values. In my 30s I thought I could “get ahead” and took a corporate job, then started my own company. Now in my 40’s, its time to get back to my roots while I can still push it physically.

    I’ve cut way back on the sugar and carbs I consume. I’m also consuming far more protein than I used to. My current favourite protein is Lactantia Ultra filtered milk, 4 grams of sugar, 20 grams of protein per 250ml. I still eat too much bread.

    I lift weights at home 4 times a week. I started about 18 months ago but didn’t make much progress in the first year or so. The last 3 months has been awesome because of a new routine and a better protein source.

    I’m 58, started lifting at 56 and have never had so much upper body strength. I do not skip leg day even with a bum knee.

    Not… No time…

    I eat vegan now (at least at home) and low fat. It made my cholesterol go from borderline hypertension to 100% optimal/healthy.

    I run a couple times per week. 5K in <30min in a city. Not record breaking, but pretty okay for a non-athlete approaching 40. I also cycle everywhere, walk everywhere, no car, so carry my groceries home.

    Sleep is hit and miss, most nights 8 hours, weekends up to 10 hours.

    Fiber. I started biking years ago and have been doing bodyweight exercises off and on since college
    Stopped drinking, exercising frequently (strength, running, cycling), eating better, sleeping better, just generally trying to improve my situation little by little.
    I stopped all those things too!
    Reducing the amount of carbs in my cooking. Plenty of walking with the dog. Riding my exercise bike at home with this nifty app that shows a video of a route and adjusts the pressure according to the typology since health issues prevent me from biking anymore.
    Over 70. Exercise every day. Eat a variety of foods. Limit screen time.

    35, intermittent fasting (since I am incapable of eating normal portions per meal), 3-4 session of cardio a week (cycling), climbing twice a week including short gym session afterwards to build up muscles.

    Only thing I need to fix is sleep, I usually only get 7h a night and I feel like it should be 7:30-8.

    27M. I sleep enough, I do not drink coffee or alcohol. I eat too much. The food is relatively healthy, but I eat too much and I do not exercise.
    Second half of 40s. 30 minutes of cardio followed by 1 hour of yoga twice a week. I would love to for in another activity for 3x per week, but haven’t managed yet. Eat 95% vegetarian, low on dairy. Otherwise I don’t pay much attention, definitely snacking too much. In summer I bike a lot. Using a sit/stand desk regularly at work. Should do more, but it’s gotta be enough for now.
    Diet and exercise are a priority for me. I schedule my days around the gym. I’m lucky to have a gym at work and at home, but even if I didn’t I’d make it a priority (as I have previously).
    It feels harder, where I live now. It feels like I’m getting so much older so quickly.
    Surprisingly worse. Same sleep habits, like 6 or 7 hours. Starting to get back to it but if I’m being honest with myself its a half assed effort. Difficult to focus with everything going on.

    36, having consistent existential crisis issues. Living in the most boring ass capital of possibly the most boring-ass state I’ve ever lived in besides Kentucky. Like, I love the moderate pace, nothing too extreme and nothing too slow. But, it kinda drags for so long that everyday feels like forever, worse when I’m working.

    I kinda am in the “who gives a fuck” part of my life. Where, I’ve let myself go because it’s been 4 years since I’ve been with someone and I’ve been processing the reality that I probably will not get anyone again because I’m too specific and everyone, I don’t know, feels fake and artificial when put side-by-side against what I’d like to see and have in a person.

    So, I’m a tad overweight, not caring what I eat some of the time. I know what I have to do to get the weight down, it’s a matter of caring. Everyday is almost the same old shit for the past 4 years I’ve lived here. And I’ve got zero clue in where I want to take things.

  • I cycle 1 hour a few mornings a week and try to walk at lunchtime, but my job is sedentary. Truth is I’m pretty overweight. I try to eat well, but I eat crap as well. I drink at the weekends. My worst vice is a couple of ciggies a week. Ok, a day. I try to vape instead, which is better for me but a ridiculous habit at my age. I will stop.
  • On the up side I live rurally in Scotland and have a family I love and a job I don’t hate. I’m hoping to get healthier for a holiday in October. But I have shit will power. Onwards!

    The weather doesn’t help with trying to get cardio which is mostly outdoors.

    100%

    I signed up for a cycle to work challenge to use the bike every day in Feb. Managed 2 trips.

    I did a step challenge in February to try to get it into my life. I did it but I barely left the house in March. I’m in Ireland.

    Meh. Eat what the fuck you want, do whatever, you either enjoy life or be miserable like MisterNeon :)

    I dunno honestly, I just try to exercise, avoid shitty food and eat what I enjoy, and little things like that. Nothing specific or routine like that

    When I want ice cream… I eat ice cream.

    Mid 30s.

    Work, sleep, work, sleep, energy drink, work, sleep, energy drink, work, sleep, energy drink, work half a shift, 2nd energy drink, with 2nd half of shift, fucking crash into a vegetative state for a weekend.

    Typical week.

    Not doing great. >_>

    Im not… That’s the retirement plan.
    Margaritas and a vegetarian diet