Mastodawn

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)20h ago

As a Chinese American, if I wanna travel internationally, is it better to just say I'm American, or pretend to be a Chinese National (to hide from Anti-American sentinments)?

https://sh.itjust.works/post/57045274

As a Chinese American, if I wanna travel internationally, is it better to just say I'm American, or pretend to be a Chinese National (to hide from Anti-American sentinments)? - sh.itjust.works

I’m talking about after going through borders and I put away the US Passport… And the average everyday people ask me “where are you from?” Like if the place has anti-American sentinments, could I just pretend to be… not American… cuz you know… the US has been getting a bad rap recently due to ahem a certain person in Capitol Hill… Like most people in the world falsely assume “American” = “White” anyways… They’d never suspect a thing… would they? I can speak Cantonese and Mandarin… I can try faking a Chinese person’s accent when speaking English. Or pretend to be a Hong Konger (via the Cantonese). Or pretend to be Taiwanese (most people can’t tell the difference between the sound of Mainland Mandarin vs Taiwan Mandarin). I heard that there are people who hate Chinese tourists… so is this actually gonna backfire? But then again, I might also get hit with the double-whammy of “looking Chinese” while “acting like an American”. So this is basically like code switching… but with national identity… Is this morally okay? Or am I like crossing some ethical line here? Is this like the “cultural appropriation” thing where it’s inappropriate to do?

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)21h ago

Laws basically treats your mind and your body as two separate entities, since suicide isn't treated as an excercise of free will and self determination, but as an assault by the mind against the body.

https://sh.itjust.works/post/57044294

Laws basically treats your mind and your body as two separate entities, since suicide isn't treated as an excercise of free will and self determination, but as an assault by the mind against the body. - sh.itjust.works

Lemmy

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)1d ago

My mom tells me if I take medications for depression, I'm gonna end up relying on it even in old age... I mean I guess the alternative is being unmedicated and dying young lmao...

https://sh.itjust.works/post/57032948

My mom tells me if I take medications for depression, I'm gonna end up relying on it even in old age... I mean I guess the alternative is being unmedicated and dying young lmao... - sh.itjust.works

Original wording (Cantonese): "你一食葯就会食到老嘅啦“ (Once you start, you will need to continue till you get old (aka: till your death)) Oh okay mom… “唔食藥而家死咗就唔使到老囉” (If I don’t get medicated, I die now and no need to get old) (didn’t actually say it, but really want to) This culture is gonna kill me 😭

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)1d ago

Am I right to be afraid of germs / is my family disgusting or am I overreacting and this is germaphobia? (read post)

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56988457

Am I right to be afraid of germs / is my family disgusting or am I overreacting and this is germaphobia? (read post) - sh.itjust.works

So my parents take the trash can and put it TOUCHING the table where you put food… in order to clear the table, and sometimes they FORGET TO WASH THEIR HANDS after TOUCHING THE TRASH CAN and then start touching other stuff… sometimes even cooking stuff… one time I even saw the trash can ON TOP OF THE FUCKING TABLE so its supposedly easier to put the stuff into the teash can… And even if they wash their hands… they often times (most of the time) DO NOT USE SOAP… Sometimes they take the trash can and move it around to collect trash WHILE INGREDIENTS ARE LYING AROUND… like what if you accidentally stuff from the trash can just like… hops over the gap and contaminate stuff? Like dont fucking get the trash can so close to food FFS Also they sometimes (VERY OFTEN) don’t wash their hands after using the bathroom… I hear them touching the bathroom lids… Also they put used toilet paper in a trash can… sometimes I hears mom touch that trash can withou t washing hands… My parents tell me I’m being germophobic… I’m not crazy am I? Is this just how most people life? The fuck?

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)2d ago

“伟大的祖国”

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56948460

“伟大的祖国” - sh.itjust.works

那么伟大为什么这么多人出国呢？爱党的人，真是神经病，有毛病。

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)2d ago

原生家庭。。。

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56944974

原生家庭。。。 - sh.itjust.works

我都不知道为什么我出生在一个华人家庭。难道所有的华裔父母都这样的吗？ “我骂你是因为我‘关心’你” 关心个屁难道你们忍不的看着你们的儿女被你们的一举一动被逼上死路你们才满意了吗？难怪到了第二代，第三代，的华裔移民后代，就把中文忘了。这样恶毒的所谓“文化”，有谁能忍得到。

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)2d ago

我的来源。。。

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56944675

我的来源。。。 - sh.itjust.works

我出生在一个暴政，极权主义的国家，叫中华人民共和国。我是在一孩政策的时代出生的，我是我妈的第二胎。共产党差点灭了我。我本来不该存在这世上的，但是老天爷可怜了我，救了我一命，所以我活了下来。我八岁的时候跟我家一起移民到了美国。那难忘的一天，在纽约 JFK 机场降落，那一刻，改变了我的命运。

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)2d ago

Chinese parents love to dismiss mental illness, but simultaneously love to threaten to "send their 'misbehaving' kid to a mental hospital".

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56935289

Chinese parents love to dismiss mental illness, but simultaneously love to threaten to "send their 'misbehaving' kid to a mental hospital". - sh.itjust.works

Schrodinger’s Mental Illness Seriously I wonder how they’ll explain their child’s absense to relatives? “Oh they’re at college”? “Oh they got a job somewhere”? Cuz surely they aren’t telling their relatives they call the police on their “crazy” child right? The “Face Culture” and all. Sometimes I just wanna make a social media account under my real name and just start posting all this shit… I feel like I don’t care about “privacy” anymore… fuck this…

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)3d ago

Is it weird for parents to keep saying "I love you", then asks "Do you love me?"

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56918352

Is it weird for parents to keep saying "I love you", then asks "Do you love me?" - sh.itjust.works

I dig through my memories and I remember this was a thing since I was a kid. Like I remember my mom just constantly saying “We love you a lot, do you know that?” and then straight up asking me: “Do you love your mom and dad?” (speaking in 3rd person for some reason) then followed by “Do you love mom or dad more?”… and I remember always just answering that: Yes I love them, and mom more than dad… (I remember that is probably just honestly how I felt, I never lied about it) I don’t remember dad ever asking this… Sometimes (when I was younger) mom asked me: “If mom and dad got a divorce, who are you going with?”… wtf mom And like sometimes they argue then threaten divorce… So… mom has higher income so I feel like at the time I just told her I’d go with her solely because of the financial stability… (I mean dad also doesn’t really show affection… 🤷‍♂️) (This was many years ago, during my teenage years. The divorce thing never happened, empty threats…) … Now as a young adult, I’m dealing with depression and she still says this… and like I feel very awkward when she asks me “Do you love me?” I do feel an attachment towards her, but idk if you can call it “love” per se. So sometimes I stay quiet… so it just ended with an awkward silence… Then mom was like: “Do you you not love me? Do you hate me?” No wtf mom, that’s not what I meant… Do parents just do that? Are they seeking validation about their decision to choose to have children? Cultural Context: My family is ethnically Chinese.

「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma)5d ago

I kinda just realized how massively different my culture is... literally no one in my entire extended know about the fact that I have depression... well except like a few... its treated like its shame

https://sh.itjust.works/post/56769351

I kinda just realized how massively different my culture is... literally no one in my entire extended know about the fact that I have depression... well except like a few... its treated like its shame - sh.itjust.works

It’s treated like its shameful or something… So my Paternal Grandmother died like 1 or 2 years ago… and I didn’t feel like going to the funeral… cuz I’m already dealing with so much shit as it is… So they came back and told me they told everyone that I was “studying in college and had an important class I cannot miss” never mentioned the depression… I already withdrew from college at that point… Like… Its depression… not like schizophrenia What the fuck is this shame? I didn’t even process that fact till like now… Just remembered they said that “we didn’t let any one know because once they know they’ll forever treat you differently” Well fuck that… this is America… people have literally published memoirs about their experience in a psychiatric hospital… and people make youtube videos about it… Sorry for yet another rant… this depression is killing me