‘I’d like to be a member of a community some day. One of the reasons I didn’t go through with my gender change for such a long time was the certain knowledge that I would be an outsider. All the categories of transgender find a common ground in that they each break one or more of the rules of gender: what we have in common is that we are gender outlaws, every one of us. To attempt to divide us into rigid categories (“You’re a transvestite, and you’re a drag queen, and you’re a she-male, and on and on and on) is like trying to apply the laws of solids to the state of fluids: it’s our fluidity that keeps us in touch with each other. It’s our fluidity and the principles that attend that constant state of flux that could create an innovative and inclusive transgender community.
I really would like to be a member of a community, but until there’s one that’s based on the principle of constant change, the membership would involve more rules, and the rules that exist around the subject of gender are not rules I want to obey.’

—Kate Bornstein, “Gender Outlaw”, p. 69

#queer #trans #change #fluidity

A 2022 thesis from Abilene Christian University found that couples in mixed-orientation marriages report emotional fulfillment, especially when communication and authenticity are prioritized.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/beyond-binary-queer-resilience-and-the-refusal-to-be-boxed-in-6494223552cd?sk=7e4ca7ba9c1ba128a8e7de95d042e4a7

#LGBTQ #Relationships #Marriage #Queer #Fluidity

We (but also I; you'll see why in a moment) are proposing a new term for plurals everywhere. The term is:

kepholon (n.)

In the context of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), a kepholon refers to a self-state or identity that represents a dynamic integration of multiple, previously distinct alters, system parts, or aspects of self. A kepholon functions as a cohesive whole formed from some or all parts of the system, allowing for shared consciousness, memory access, and unified function.

Crucially, this integration is characterized by fluidity; the constituent parts within the kepholon retain their potential separateness and may dissociate or separate again under certain conditions (e.g., stress). It represents a state of integration without final fusion, where parts work together as one but have not permanently merged into a single, indivisible identity.

In this compound, keph- stands for the leading, directing, conscious, or executive function: the part that is currently "fronting," interacting with the world, or managing the system's interface with external reality. It represents the aspect taking charge or acting as the primary point of consciousness for the integrated state.

The -olon suffix connects the "head" function back to the broader holon concept (see below): an integrated entity composed of multiple parts that function as a cohesive whole but retain the potential for separation. It emphasizes that this "head" is not an isolated entity but the currently active face or director of that unified-but-fluid collective. The word "holon" was coined by author and philosopher Arthur Koestler in his 1967 book The Ghost in the Machine; from Greek holos (whole/entire) + -on (suffix denoting a particle or part).

🎵 I am she as you are he, as you are me and we are all together...🎵

I needed the word for me. Cuz I'm Ellis, and that's what I am, and these four motherfuckers want attribution or they're threatening to shatter me into four little tiny mes (which is them, so it's not really much of a threat, honestly 🤔 ).

Anyway, hi! My name is Ellis, and I'm a kepholon. 💙

#kepholon #plural #plurality #multiplicity #DID #DissociativeIdentityDisorder #DIDsystem #headmates #SystemParts #pluralpride #integration #DynamicIntegration #holon #fluidity #fronting #consciousness #psychology #neologism #terminology #etymology #NewWord #WordsMatter

🎵 I am the walrus, goo-goo g'joob! 🎵

I read and reviewed Relationship Material by Rachel Spangler. Fantastic! Check it out!

https://womenusingwords.wordpress.com/2025/07/01/relationship-material/

#wlw #romance #friendships #acceptance #lgbtq #family #love #nonbinary #fluidity #identity #flings #commitment #fallinginlove @rachelspangler.rachelspangler.com

Before I began my transition, I identified as 100% heterosexual — or so I thought. I had no interest in men and couldn’t conceive of anything attractive about them. Recently, a friend asked me if I had been trained to be heterosexual. What an interesting question, I thought.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/evolution-sexuality-trans-woman-story-6080960b3bc1

#LGBTQ #Transgender #Identity #Attraction #Fluidity

#Whispers of #Silk by Kaye Menner Wide variety #Prints & lovely #Products at:

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Curving, flowing lines blend shades of blue, green, and yellow, creating a dynamic sense of movement and fluidity. The design suggests a sense of depth and energy, reminiscent of waves or ribbons in motion.

#abstract #lines #curtains #fluidity #yellowbluegreen #movement #flowing #homedecor #giftideas #wallartforsale #Art #artforsale #BuyIntoArt #AYearForArt #Artist #FineArtAmerica