When we release the need to criticize others, we free ourselves as well.

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Everyone has a story we don't know and reasons why they act the way they do. Perhaps if we knew everything they'd ever thought, felt, and experienced, we'd understand.

Instead of judging based on our own experiences, what if we could feel compassion anyway?

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The tendency to judge others offers an opportunity to understand ourselves better.

Today's mindfulness challenge is to pay attention to thoughts like, "That person shouldn't be doing that."

Notice, stop, and reflect. We are bothered for a reason. What is it? Perhaps we do the same thing in a different way, and this is a reminder to change our own behavior.

By practicing nonjudgement, we become more compassionate and accepting of ourselves and others.

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Just an observation. No judgment. I'm not telling people what, or how, to post.

I do believe in #FreeSpeech

Though. My observation. Is it me - or has the politeness ratio shifted on here.

Is this is a new wave of it?

My local and federated threads seem like there's much more holding onto and projecting aggression lately.

As an empath that doesn't feel good and I can't imagine it feels good to those in that space.

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It's okay to set limits, decline invitations, and make our interests a priority. A feeling of resentment isn't anyone's "fault," only a sign that a stronger boundary is needed.

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I wrote this line last night in the (as yet, unnamed) fifth book in The Stain series for a situation where words of encouragement might have felt like a condescending "I told you so," to the listener. Cassandra chooses to provide silent support instead.

Today's challenge is to pause before we speak to consider how our words might feel to the other person.

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When I work with you one-on-one, I'm not here to judge your choices in your own life. I don't care if you go left or you go right. It matters not to me. My goal is only to show you why you ended up there, why you made that choice, and what that choice is offering you now that you've made it.

I am a tour guide. I am not the bus driver. You are still in control of your own life every single time. I am not here to judge you in your own life. I am not here to beat you up for the choices you make or have made in your own life.

Remember, I don't beat me up. I don't take a hammer to myself anymore. Why the heck would I do it to you?

If you come to me and you ask me what I think you should do, I will tell you. Do my feelings get hurt if you do the opposite? No. Is my ego bothered because you didn't take my advice? No.

I'm going to show you what your choice is offering you. I'm going to show you where the pain is, where the cycle is, and how to manage what shows up. Ultimately though, your life remains up to you. I can clarify your experience for you but I can't tell you what your experience needs to be or which direction you should go in.

Here's the thing, because I'm just following the breadcrumbs the Universe is offering you, when you make a sharp left out of nowhere, the Universe just re-routes you. I just follow that lead. I don't question that. I'm happy with the breadcrumb trail because I trust what shows up.

When I question things, it's not because I'm judging them as good or bad. It's because I'm looking to see what the energy is behind what you're doing. Where's the fear? Where's the pain? Where's the habit? What's the cycle? Those are the things I'm looking for.

If in the week between appointments with me you break up with your partner, pack up your house and move to Siberia, it's fine by me. I'm not here to question that, at least not in that judgmental way that most people do.

For me it's more like, "Well that's fun! What brought that on? Plot twist!" And we go from there. I'm just looking for what caused you to blow up your life.

Intuitively I'll get different guidance, things will shift, and it's all the same to me in the end because the breadcrumb trail reappears and we just keep going.

I'm not here to be a giant hurdle for you to get by or make you change anything. You don't need my approval. You have veto power. You have control. You get to decide what you're doing. I'm only going to show you what happens when you do things. It's all about being aware of yourself within the experience. I'm just showing you what that is and how it works.

It's your life and you have to live it. I'm just trying to help you be more comfortable in it. That doesn't always have to mean massive upheaval. Sometimes, it's more important that we get comfortable in the chair we're in first. It helps us make better choices later so that we're not just creating more pain.

Love to all.

Della

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"I'm not a fat person."

I had a client tell me this the other day straightaway, within the first few seconds of our first phone call.

I had already seen their body measurements & knew they were athletic & lean with a healthy body fat range.

They were far from obese.

My question for you, no matter where you are on your health journey, is:

Do you call yourself names?

If so, why?

(Hint: you may be too hard on yourself.)

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Most people jump to 'limitation' or 'restriction' when they think about diet or weight loss.

However, limitation is actually 'Level 3'; not Level 1 or 2.

Level 1 is expansion & inclusion - the opposite of what most think, and where most are.

Level 2 is about refinement. Ex: adjusting macros.

Level 3 requires restriction & limitation.

There's a 95% chance you are *not* on Level 3.

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You can combine the benefits of exercise and low-level, early morning sunlight.

Both are free gifts for all. Just get outside.

Merry Christmas!

- Coach Matt

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