Interesting read:
"wanting more of this and less of that. Even when things were going well, I was unsatisfied with everything I did and hyper-sensitive to criticism, especially when I made a real mistake, which I often did. This made me hard to work with. I often acted foolishly. I hurt people who deserved better from me."
https://aeon.co/essays/let-me-tell-you-about-my-journey-through-35-years-of-zen-practice
How on earth do people cope with wanting something that someone else has control over?
Every time I have to apply for a house rental or do a job interview, I feel like I have to invest so much. I have to imagine myself living there or working there, & then... I have to wait in a Schrödinger state, hoping it'll be a Yes but mentally preparing myself for a No.
Thank God I don't have to date. I don't think I'd escape with my soul in one piece. 😭
And at first I thought: "You can't do anything, what gets in my way is a 'me-problem.'"
But then I actually thought for a sec before answering, and my brain shocked me with a really important insight.
I realized, what would help me the most is to hear positive feedback or encouragement if/when I do something that's actually good, or that represents progress (at any time/stage).
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Neuer Blogpost: Leben mit emotionaler Dysregulation und Rejection Sensitivity
https://anders-produktiv.de/leben-mit-emotionaler-dysregulation-und-rejection-sensitivity/
Content Notes: emotionale Misshandlung, (generationsübergreifendes) Trauma, Erwähnung des 2. Weltkriegs, Meltdowns.
Ist ein ziemlich persönlicher Artikel geworden …
#emotionen #gefühle #adhs #emotionaleDysregulation #RejectionSensitivity #rsd
but if you read that and you're like "OMG how," you are my people and the answer is I have a great therapist and a ton of social support and have put together the most amazing and affirming team to help me get through this process without letting rejection-sensitivity win.
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. For me, it’s the most painful part of ADHD. It invokes intense loneliness.
If you’re neurotypical, know that some folks are feeling things you don’t understand. Things that seem unreasonable and absurd. But they’re very real. Please be kind.
https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/
#ADHD #Neurodivergence #Neurodivergent #RSD #RejectionSensitivity #Loneliness
Rejection sensitive dysphoria, or RSD, can mean extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain for people with ADHD or ADD — and it may imitate mood disorders with suicidal ideation and manifest as instantaneous rage at the person responsible for causing the pain. Learn more about ways to manage RSD here.
Hier in Hessen sind noch Ferien 🤩 - das kommt meinem Blog zugute:
https://nichtvondieserwelt3.wordpress.com/2024/01/08/rejection-sensitivity/
Heute habe ich mich dem Thema Rejection Sensitivity gewidmet und ein bisschen was aufgearbeitet.
#Autismus #RejectionSensitivity #rsd #neurodivers #ablehnung
I tried to start a support group for people with rejection sensitivity, nobody wanted to join, and I was absolutely devastated : P
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