A perfect encapsulation of living a #neurdivergent lifestyle. 🤣

Suggestion by me, then my daughter did the sorting … twice.

Ooh, I missed the anniversary of the beginning of my Autism journey on July 18th.

This marks the date when it first clicked in my head that I might be Autistic. I came across a video of an Autistic kid stimming by flapping his hands, and it was the first time I'd ever seen another person flap their hands like I did as a kid. Suddenly I felt less alone.

This year marks 2 years! 🤯

#ActuallyAutistic #Neurdivergent #ADHD #AuDHD #Autism

I could use some help. I had a neurdevergant person ask me how he could plan work in sprints.

Any help would be appreciated.

#agile #neurdivergent

Tip if you have autistic friends*:

You know that thing where you're talking about wanting an orange, and they suddenly start rambling about status symbols in ancient Rome?

Info dumping is a display of trust and affection. Many autistic people have been repeatedly punished for being their true selves, often to the point of serious trauma. If they're letting you see into their very minds and sharing what they care most about, it's an act of vulnerability and trust.

Info dumping can also be because their brains are just full of stuff they've been obsessing over, and getting it out is their way of giving up what they love to make space for your conversation.

So, if you REALLY want to make their day, return the favor. Focus on their conversation instead of yours. The magic words are: "Really? Tell me more."

Just make sure you mean it. Authenticity matters. Then, sit back and enjoy a random TED lecture.

#ActuallyAutistic #neurdivergent #autism

* Disclaimer: If you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person. Won't apply to all, but probably to most.

I have a son turning 18 tomorrow. He is #autistic, #aspie, #bipolar, and has #tourettes. It's a beautiful combination of conditions, but as you can imagine, it doesn't set him up for success in the social skills department.

Now he's turning 18 and has very few people turning up as his party. What can I do as a dad to help? There's the "fix it" side of me that wants to get creative on ways to get people to his party. But I don't know if that will make things worse.

I'd love to hear from others #neurdivergent and #actuallyautistic folks.

EDIT... Sorry I forgot to mention that my son has complained about how few people are coming. So I do know he wants more people.

Let’s talk Autism Acceptance.

Acceptance is taking some one as they are
Acceptance is wanting to understand
Acceptance is encouraging growth
Acceptance is a 24/7 commitment

#AutismAcceptance #Autistic #Neurdivergent

Folks, this is a PSA post, really.

I just want to give you some info about consulting with a coach and making sure they are the right coach for you.

I want to be super clear that I'm not perfect and I make mistakes and I am not the right coach for everyone.

However, I always try to build a professional connection with a client during a consult, try to learn about them, and ALWAYS check in with mental health and make sure that coaching is safe and appropriate for the person.

This is what I think is right and what my professional code of conduct requires.

I had a consult for myself for some coaching recently. The call was 10 minutes long. The coach went in talking about how much it would cost as the first thing straight out of the gate.

I was patient and didn't curtail the conversation as I understand different brains have different priorities and like to know the practicals. However, I determined that this approach did seem to be part of that coach's style and disposition, and that would not work for me.

They also asked me NOTHING about my neurodivergence, and made no checks on whether coaching was safe and good for me at this time!

The relationship between the coach and the coach is proven in research to be either the biggest or one of the top three factors in whether or not coaching works.

Consults are so important for you to work out if the coach is right for you. If they come at you straight away about money, this might make you slow down and try go gauge just how interested they are in who you are, what you need, and what is appropriate for you.

I hope this advice is useful - a good coach will always give you 30 mins or so of their time to check the fit is good.

If want a consult with me, I am not taking more clients until end of April but feel free to reach out and set up a chat.

http://thequirkybrain.coach

#Autism #ADHD #Neurdivergent #Coaching #AuDHD #Neurodiversity