All went well with my coming-out to my colleagues. Reactions were neutral to positive, but they were all supportive. The thing is I really don't like the feeling before you come out to someone, especially if you want to do it at the end of the day and the wait is ripping you apart inside. But yeah, another big step for me in my transition I guess. 🥳🏳️‍⚧️
#trans #transgender #comingout

I hate coming out to people so much, especially if it's more than one person. I hate being the center of attention. I hate sudden changes. There are some many things I hate about this, but I need to do this.

Tomorrow I want to come out to my team at work and I'm scared. Not even because of their reactions, but I cannot imagine what will change between us. I work with them every single day, so it's a bit different to other coming-outs. I have a knot in my stomach and I don't know how to best handle this.

Being change averse as a trans person fucking sucks.
#trans #transgender #comingout

‘… you call yourself a trans woman, but why do you like it so much, why now?’
‘Like is way too mild a term, I like chips, the odd steak, wine and a few people. Becoming a trans woman is much deeper and more profound.’
Having been used to seeing me as a man for forty years, I guess this is quite a change. He looks up and makes another attempt. ‘Well, can you tell me why it’s so impactful now?’
https://medium.com/prismnpen/telling-an-old-friend-im-transgender-2bd328e84aef

#LGBTQ #Transgender #ComingOut

Telling an Old Friend I’m Transgender

Trying to explain the importance of congruence

Medium

I am Wendy. This is my house of pain. And I finally live here willingly, each room a testament to survival, each window letting in whatever light I can find, dust motes dancing in sunbeams that finally reach places long kept in darkness, illuminating corners that had never known anything but shadow.

https://thistleandmoss.com/p/my-house-of-pain-epilogue
#trans #queer #lgbtqia #nonfiction #reading #writing #author #biography #translife #comingout

My House of Pain: Epilogue

Wendy The Druid

I was born twice.
The second birth came late — after a long marriage, raising children, and decades of quiet unhappiness that no amount of “doing the right thing” could fix.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/roads-we-never-thought-wed-take-1dfbf2bbf3c9

#LGBTQ #Transgender #ComingOut #Marriage #Family

Roads We Never Thought We’d Take

To our gender transitions in our 60s, a lavender cottage by the sea and a wedding beyond our dreams

Medium

When changing my child's diaper, I was asked...plainly......

"Where did you learn that?" Mary asked, watching from the doorway with a mixture of surprise and something else—something that looked dangerously like understanding.

"Just instinct, I guess," I mumbled, but the lie tasted bitter on my tongue.

https://thistleandmoss.com/p/my-house-of-pain-the-love-that-survived-my-worst-betrayal
#trans #queer #lgbtqia #nonfiction #reading #writing #author #biography #translife #comingout

My House of Pain: The Love That Survived My Worst Betrayal

Wendy The Druid

You know this isn't you. Stop pretending. Let me out. Wendy's voice, always there in the darkest corners of my mind, whispering truths I couldn't bear to hear. For years, Id put headphones, earbuds, or just speakers in my office dungeon, cranked up, to drown her out.

https://thistleandmoss.com/p/my-house-of-pain-the-wounds-i-inflicted
#trans #queer #lgbtqia #nonfiction #reading #writing #author #biography #translife #comingout

My House of Pain: How My Kindness Became the Cruelest Weapon

Wendy The Druid

Walt’s fists—always closed, never open—were meat mallets tenderizing whatever flesh they found. They left constellations of purple-black galaxies blooming beneath my skin, each bruise a dark star born of violence. Whatever he felt comfortable using on me, he used without hesitation or remorse.

https://thistleandmoss.com/p/my-house-of-pain-blood-versus-beast
#trans #queer #lgbtqia #nonfiction #reading #writing #author #biography #translife #comingout

My House of Pain: Blood Versus Beast

Wendy The Druid

At night, I'd watch her through cracked doorways, her silhouette hunched and trembling, and wonder which version of my mother would greet me in the morning - the one whose fingers would gently brush my hair, or the one whose hands would clench into fists at the slightest provocation. The uncertainty gnawed at my insides like hungry rats.

https://thistleandmoss.com/p/my-house-of-pain-the-devil-you-don-t-know
#trans #queer #lgbtqia #nonfiction #reading #writing #author #biography #translife #comingout

My House of Pain: The Devil You Don't Know

Read After: The Woman a Child Once Loved

Wendy The Druid