I've heard this type of situation called a "grey area" of US/WA laws around parenting, there's nothing grey about parental alienation.

Evidently one parent can run off with the child denying the other of contact without any legal reason to do so.

Now obviously it doesn't look great in court to do this, its a very childish dare to see if I'm -able- to spend money on court again.

My ex seemed to enjoy the reality that going BACK to court is extremely costly for me.

Children have a right to be loved by both of their parents! Alienating a child simply because a relationship didn't workout is a heart breaking thing to do to a child.

Thankfully there IS legal recourse, only problem is I need to spend even more money on lawyers to hold my ex accontable.

With the support of my community we can make sure my daughter is raised with a loving father in her life!

venmo / cashapp $nullagent

#MutualAidRequest #ParentingWhileBlack

I'm over 80% of the way to being able to keep my lawyer for another month.

I'd really appreciate if you're able to donate or share. Just $800 to go out of a $4.6k bill.

You can support me via chuffed, ko-fi(in bio) or directly:

venmo/cashapp/paypal: $nullagent

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#MutualAidRequest #BlackMastodon #Parenting #CourtWatch #Karen #Children #Family #FamilyCourt #ParentalAlienation #WA #PNW

#urgent #mutualaidrequest

Urgently need $700 for legal bill due today so I'm tracking this until we hit it.

$575 / $700

Venmo / cashapp / paypal $nullagent

#ParentingWhileBlack #BlackMastodon #mutualaid #helpfolkslive2025

I'm just $400 away from being able to keep my lawyer for another month. Only $400 to make sure my daughter is raised with a dad.

Anything helps

$575 / $700

Paypal/venmo/cashapp $nullagent

#MutualAidRequest #Urgent #BlackDadsMatter

Fell a tiny bit short of the goal yesterday. Thankfully my lawyer was flexible and a friend was able to loan me the remaining ~$150 needed to get the bill in on time.

Thanks again for the last minute donations that REALLY helped me get over the finish line on July bills!

Gonna take a minute of rest before I look at the August legal fees.

#MutualAid

Alright now that lawyer is covered for the month time to knocked out othere bills.

This month I'm back to being housing insecure and funds raised this month will help me get longer term housing.

I also had my laptop die on me this month and would like to replace it with another used computer.

So anything helps!

cashapp/venmo $nullagent

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#MutualAidRequest #HelpFolksLive2025 #BlackMastodon #BlackDadsMatter

#MutualAidRequest

Hey so things really suck economically & mental health wise rn.

I'm really struggling with not being able to see my daughter lately and because of throwing pretty much every dollar I had at clearing my false accusations so I could see her again so now I'm basically bankrupt and can't even afford lunch and groceries this week.

Anything helps

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If the average American can't afford an unexpected $400 expense, imagine the difficulty of staying afloat when a single Karen's false accusations can set you back nearly $20k.

The August bill just came in(or rather i had the spoons to finally look), its OVER $6k dollars.

One false allegation cost me thousands and now I have $1 fucking dollar.

How the fuck do I end this nightmare? I just want to go back to being a dad.

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#MutualAidRequest

After spending tens of thousands of dollars just to keep the system honest and winning its wild see the utter indifference of a lot of people for the massive economic and police abuses my ex subjected me to entirely over lies.

Every other week for the last 3-4 weeks my ex made false claims to cops that were rapidly thrown out of court.

I won, but I'm left homeless and destitute when I otherwise was heading towards stability. This is so fucked up.

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

Trying very hard to keep making progress on my projects which have made money in the past, working on a lot of apps and nerdy goodies.

Short term I need some help paying small bills and getting some quick snacks

🥑 Short term ✅ / $300

Medium term I've found several great housing situations but need some help getting initial deposit or rent together

🏘️ Medium $763 / $2k

Longer term after I'm more stable I need to catch up on legal bills so I can be their for my dauther

👨🏿‍🍼Long $0 / $7k

So as I was saying, anything continues to help and I absolutely could not have navigated this unexpected drama without the support of my community.

cashapp / paypal / venmo $nullagent

https://ko-fi.com/nullagent

A great start this week, we hit my short term goal! So know I can think a little bit more about the medium and long term:

Medium term I've found several great housing situations but need some help getting initial deposit or rent together

🏘️ Medium $763 / $2k

Longer term after I'm more stable I need to catch up on legal bills so I can be their for my dauther

👨🏿‍🍼Long $0 / $7k

cashapp/paypal/venmo $nullagent

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#MutualAidRequest #BlackDadsMatter #PNW #Housing #homeless

Over the past week my ex filed an "emergency restraining order" attempting to rehash their false DVPO which was already thrown out of court.

This too was thrown out of court again today on so many reasons all I can ask is that one day they just stop lying, delaying, harassing and acting like a karen. And let me see my daughter.

I can't even recount the abusive racist ways that my ex is weaponizing the system, it'd be a book.

Today's take away is that around 60% of our local civil court judges do infact remember when someone blatantly lies and Karens in their court rooms.

All of the judges in this latest round served in previous court interactions and my ex's deeply unprofessional interactions have clearly not be convincing.

This isn't really due to the dilligence of the judges, or me and has everything to do with how blatantly abusive my ex has been in court.

#ParentingWhileBlack

Despite this 2nd massive win, my ex was successful once again in wasting MORE money and time crying wolf that could've been better spent directly supporting our daughter or negotiating in good faith.

Bc of how wasteful this has all become my lawyer has encouraged me to prioritize fund raising for housing needs for myself 1st and foremost.

So this month I'm focused on raising about $2000 to secure new permanent housing for my daughter & I.

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#Homeless #MutualAidRequest

Throughout this month my ex has continued to illegally withhold my daughter from me. Every week or two I've setup a time for my daughter to be in my care and I'm open and able to do 50% parenting.

However, my ex continues to ignore my requests and to post a completely false narrative of abuse or my disinterest in being a parent. This is completely false.

It sadly may take months for me to legally force my ex to stop harassing me and alienating my child from me.

#parentingwhileblack #karen

I've found several great housing situations but need some help getting initial deposit or rent together before next week!

🏘️ $790 / $2k - Due Oct 1st

With a little #MutualAidRequest help I can continue to remove all of my ex's possible excuses for withholding my daughter.

cashapp/paypal/venmo $nullagent

Recurring donations can be made via ko-fi

https://ko-fi.com/nullagent

#urgent #blackdadsmatter #parentingwhileblack #blackmastodon #pnw #familylaw #karen

With the very notable growing anti-Black sentiment in the US, the growing active racist harassment of Black Americans(of which I typically get weekly or monthly hate mail on here for being Black) and now the death of the namesake of my daughter....

I personally am just not ok with how I've been treated by my ex, Seattle DSA and by a number of individuals and moderators here on mastodon.

The fascist racist undercurrent my ex continues to harness is shameful and shocking

https://partyon.xyz/@nullagent/115271937094499670

I'm sadly not very close to hitting the target I need to get into stable housing.

This is pretty urgent sadly, anything helps

🏘️ $890 / $2,000 - Due Oct 1st

Venmo / Paypal / Cashapp $nullagent

https://cash.app/$nullagent

https://www.paypal.me/nullagent

#urgent #MutualAidRequest #housing #homeless #blackdadsmatter

This entire situation is absurd and even the judges know it. This is the first ruling regarding my ex's false claims.

The problem with the court, even when you win, is that the state makes no effort to repair the damage:

- $15k in legal costs and debt
- Being separated from my 1yo daughter for 80+ days
- Losing my housing immediately
- Friends & Family Receiving death threats from my ex's friends
- My ex constantly spreading false and unspecified accusations of "DV"

#ParentingWhileBlack

I did not make my fundraising goals and now I'm absolutely buried in bills and am now completely into the negative.

Anything helps

🏘️ $915 / $2,000 - Due Oct 1st

Venmo / Paypal / Cashapp $nullagent

https://cash.app/$nullagent

https://www.paypal.me/nullagent

#MutualAidRequest

The good news is that fedi donations have helped me not have negative money.

The bad news is that this is still pretty far short of the support I need to stay on track to being stably housed long term.

I'm going to be 25 days late on important bills that were due the 1st of October, anything continues to help.

Thanks again for the shares and support!

🏘️ $915 / $2,000 - Due Oct 1st

Venmo / Paypal / Cashapp $nullagent

https://cash.app/$nullagent

https://www.paypal.me/nullagent

#mutualaidrequest

Today's nightmare is that I need about $340 before the end of today or my storage unit goes to auction.

If you've been following at home, my ex still has their things stored in the shared storage space and refuses to cooperate with paying their fair share, collecting their things or just being you know a reasonable person.

Anywho, its still in my best interest in court to keep paying for this crap despite them not cooperating

And frankly I can't afford this continuing abuse.

Fedi, thanks again for helping my family.

We're under $50 away from keeping our storage unit.

https://cash.app/$nullagent

https://www.paypal.me/nullagent

#Urgent #MutualAidRequest

What a day, definitely a good news and bad news kinda situation.

First the bad news is my ex today filed a THIRD round of false allegations in civil court. They seem to be avoiding actually going to family court for some reason.

So we'll have yet another hearing now on November 6th. I still have not been able to see my daughter for months.

🏘️ $915 / $2,000 - Due Oct 1st

Long term fundraiser below 👇🏿

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#ParentingWhileBlack #MutualAidRequest

Now the good news, thanks to mastodon friends I've been able to keep our family storage unit for the time being!

It's still urgent that I hit my initial goal but this really takes A LOT of the stress off. Thanks again.

Continued donations help me prepare for court -AGAIN- and being prepared for childcare costs when I finally am allowed to co-parent 50% of the time.

🏘️ $915 / $2,000 - Due Oct 1st

Venmo / Paypal / Cashapp $nullagent

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

It's legal groundhogs day over here.

I'm reading the latest filings and its wild to have to face the exact same series of already defeated false allegations a THIRD time in court.

Triple jeopardy belongs on TV not in an American court room. I thought there were laws against double jeopardy, yeeesh.

#ParentingWhileBlack #PNW #CourtWatch #FamilyLaw

It's pretty clear the ONLY thing my ex has to stand on keeping me away from my daughter is that my professional projects do not make comfortable consistent income.

Instead of just saying that and only that. My ex continues to push a false story of DV.

But in court filings the DV is only the fact that I didn't make as much as my as would like, "financial abuse".

And they also literally simply said I tell my daugher "no sometimes".

That's the ENTIRE original DV argument.

For some reason my ex has for the 3rd time made the EXACT same "financial abuse" arguements. While sprinkling in "he talked about guns a lot".... you know while leaving out the fact I'm normally talking about how heinous some gun crime was OR debating how we can solve many crimes(gun related too) simply with reducing police and increasing investing in community instead.

You know... basic ass 2020 Black Leftist positions on gun rights that they knew damned well I held before ever dating me.

So anyways, since I'm such an anti-capitalist menance to society please consider donating and supporting my professional projects 👇🏿

I'm super, duper slow with updates BUT I'm building a ton of cool cybersecurity and ameatur radio tooling lately if this chaos weren't going on I'd be making a lot more content.

So bear with me, have a ton of projects getting close to release this fall/winter.

https://ko-fi.com/dataparty
https://ko-fi.com/nullagent

Hell yea, I just submitted the latest round of court filings!

This shit sucks but my cadence of responding is only going to keep getting better, faster and less ashamed to defend myself from these wasteful false claims. My docs have been complete since Tuesday and I've just been obsessing over them all week.

Excited to be done for now!

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

#MutualAidRequest #ParentingWhileBlack #PNW #FamilyLaw #CourtWatch #Family #Relationships #Parenting

I posted a short update to the fundraiser and made some fliers if you'd like to help me get back on my feet.

Thankfully my lawyer is very confident in my case and has already agreed to a long term payment plan. Meaning all of your donations go directly towards supporting my daughter and I getting back on our feet and do not go to my lawyer at this time!

So please feel free to share and send words of support!

Thanks again everyone for all the support so far.

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

Last month I barely got to 60% of my fundraising goal.

That's tremendous and I appreciate the support! But it means a lot of important things I needed to do to control costs and prepare for 50/50 parenting got delayed.

Short term I need some help paying small bills like bus pass and phone:

🥑 Short term ✅ / $250

Medium term I need some help staying ahead of housing costs and getting baby supplies

🏘️ Medium $52 / $2k

venmo/paypal $nullagent

https://cash.app/$nullagent

#MutualAidRequest

Instead I got served hundreds of pages of documents over the last week and this week that cement the fact that we'll be in court possibly years now.

All literally my ex throwing anything at all that will stick at the wall to keep my daughter from me and prevent me from being a dad.

All while my ex claims they are not a controlling person.

If they're not controlling, then they can prove it by just letting me be a dad to my daughter.

I know I'm probably saying something super evil and toxically masculine....

But what IF, we just worked together for the best interest of our child?

Ground breaking I know.

Instead my ex is literally trying to use my car accident earlier this year, which fedi helped us recover from, as a reason to keep my daughter from me.

I wish I were making this up.

First they said I hit my head in the crash and it made me a big scary DVing Black man.

Tried that lie 2 times didn't work.

Now they claim I got my "license revoked bc of the crash and drove on a suspended license with my daughter"

What. On. Earth?

Can my ex please stop lying and using the state to abuse me?

After hurling 3 rounds of false accusations they do the whole Karen "see look, he's fixated on me!", you know without acknowledging they started it all.

And I'm just like... have you even seen how cute I am?

Your honor, I promise there's far too many cute, sane, easy going queers, humans and even codebases that actually like me.

I truly do not have time to think about my ex in any context other than their deliberate acts of parental alienation and racist weaponization of courts + cops.