So a few things I didn't want to talk about too soon is the fact that my ex and accuser is absolutely crashing out.

I realized a few months ago that they are an abusive, fake and vindictive person that I simply can't be in a relationship with and began taking steps to leave.

I was working towards (and got!) a business loan that will soon allow me to build out @dataparty, a mega dream come true!

But most importantly I was looking forward to having a solid salary to leave a toxic relationship!

What made me want to leave?

There's A LOT of reasons. But mainly it was the fact my ex frequently cursed me out for little to no reason. Second it was the fact that they seemed to have zero understanding that I am infact a seperate human being with my own perspectives, boundaries, and needs.

I was finding none of my boundaries were being respected.

This got to the point that my ex literally had access to my fedi account and would post on my account and NOT respect my wishes.

The kicker tho, were the several occasions I awake to see my ex violently shaking or throwing my child while also cursing me out.

During one of these events they told me they wanted to commit suicide, and wanted to kill me and my child.

That's the day I realized I had to leave.

My ex refused to consistently go to couples therapy, they quit several times and refused to go back.

I set a clear boundary that I couldn't be in a relationship with a suicidal, homicidal person that won't do therapy.

I directly broke up with my ex around the week of April 13th.

Now why on earth does my ex's DVPO filing state that THEY broke up with me on May 23rd?

I have ample evidence to show that we were broken up for over a month already.

Yet my ex boldly reversed the breakup and using an absurdly racist claim that I a black man was so hurt by them breaking up with me that I would become violent and they needed the state to enact an emergency domestic violence order to protect them.

My ex had 4 claims in their DVPO which really all boiled down to a single claim:

They largely accuse me of DVPO by way of "coercive control" because I asked that they get appropriate mental health support and that I broke up with them when they didn't.

The only claim involving my child is that I tell them "No occasionally". Literally that's all my ex wrote specifically about how I'm abusive to my daughter.

How a judge signed on to this obviously frivolous DVPO I do not know.

To be clear for most of this year my ex told me they would commit suicide or kill our child if I left the house for more than 4 hours at a time 2 days a week.

I had a 2hr round trip commute to my co-working space.

Obviously I tried to be a supportive partner for as long as possible but if you can't be left alone for 4hrs or you're threatening to kill yourself, my kid or me.... that's clearly a job for professional mental health services.

So anywho, needless to say things were not workable. My ex eventually began to claim that they were perfectly healthy while clearly nothing had changed.

They continued to demand I not leave them alone for more than 4 hours at a time.

This simply was not financially workable and I needed to eventually focus on my own stability and earnings because clearly my ex was leading us in a direction we would become homeless.

I needed to begin returning to normal working hours to get a business loan.

So here's where things get pretty crazy.

My ex got the DVPO order, they used their friend and known abuser(Justin Gifford) in activists circles to serve it. This person gathered 8-10 DSA members to illegally serve and evict me at 11pm at night.

Everything about this service was illegal.

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When I pointed out that the service was illegal and that maybe DSA shouldn't be calling themselves abolitionists while evicting black activists at 11pm.... my ex called the cops on me.

My ex claimed it was illegal for me to video tape being served.

It's not. It's obviously perfectly legal to video a cop when they show up claiming to have a warrant etc. This is no different.

#urgent #courtwatch #familylaw #pnw

In the following weeks the person who served me, Justin Gifford, a friend of my ex began harassing people who had helped me move that night. He tracked down a friends mother and called her saying that her son was "supporting an abuser".

My ex & their friend Justin Gifford then sent death threats to a critical witness in an attempt to prevent them from testifying. Justin Gifford is a well known gun owner and ex military member, these are credible threats.

A lot of other bullshit has happened since then but I've had to stay quite until today.

The death threats and witness intimidation is just the tip of the iceburg.

Sadly my ex has filed at least 2-3 false police reports. Frequently for the simple act of asking people to attend #courtwatch for me.

Thankfully my ex does not know where I live currently so I have not had unexpected police contact despite their attempts to have me arrested.

Most recently my ex didn't like the judge's procedural ruling from our first hearing on June 10th. So my ex went and lied to another judge the very next day, claiming there was a need for another hearing.

The judge agreed and gave my ex a more favorable initial ruling.

However neither I or my lawyer were properly served or present for this hearing so it was a literal violation of my constitutional rights to have another hearing with NO notice!

My lawyer then had to do a firedrill to get an emergency hearing to have that ruling overturned. Which we prevailed on, because duh lol.

During that hearing the judge in no uncertain terms said that my ex had lied to him to obtain an invalid hearing and an unconstitutional ruling.

My ex appears to have lied about the timeline of the case, whether I was served and about there being any emergency at all.

The judge was not amused.

The very next day my ex retaliated by threatening to delete my 20yo phone number!

Two days later my ex deleted my phone number!

I currently have no phone service!

I had fully paid off my phone and my phone bill the day after I was served* with the DVPO because I knew for a fact my ex would eventually use any position of control in my life I'd given them to hurt me.

They deleted my number & closed my phone line at a critical time when I had court filings due to boot!

Each one of these little stunts my ex pulls ends up costing lawyer time, which means money.

They have torn me from my daughter, are constantly trying to gin up cops to harm me and are literally sending death threats to my friends and family!

Either way today goes there's sadly a lot of work for my lawyer to do.

Please consider donating a few bucks to help me keep my lawyer!

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Court is done for today, no arguments were heard and the case has been continued until it's next hearing on July 21st.

My accuser substantially changed key filings last week, submitted an extremely lengthy final reply and did not serve my laywer the new evidence they submitted only to the court.

So the judge ruled that I need to reply to those new documents and need an additional 2 weeks to do so.

Still wondering if I'll be able to see my daughter's 1st bday. 😭

#courtwatch #pnw #familylaw

I just opened the first invoice from the lawyer, it's ten thousand dollars.

That's how much it has cost so far to defend myself from this frivolous family court case for "parenting while Black" and setting reasonable relationship boundaries as a Black man in America.

This racist ass country always finds new ways to be a nightmare.

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$1357 / $4000

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I'm basically out of money because I spent $7000 out of pocket this month on lawyers.

I need to pay $3000 basically ASAP to continue having a lawyer for the month.

Update - I have a few weeks to pay

$1357 / $4000

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Look folks this is a major emergency!

1. I'm facing a false DV accusation
2. It immediately made me homeless and I'm still housing insecure
3. My accuser continues to actively make false claims and statements claiming to be a solo parent as if I'm guilty, we haven't even had the hearing yet!
4. I almost got arrested over an unconstitutional order my ex lied to a judge to obtain.

Anything helps!

$1400 / $4000 (due this month)

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#mutualaidrequest #legalfund

Today started off hella stormy.

My lawyer had missed a scheduled checkin yesterday and I was worried he'd already stopped work or would soon. The bill didn't have clear payment deadlines and I've typically found lawyers to be more of the immediate payment types.

I'm STILL paying a major bill that supports my ex and I have other expenses piling up and I was agonizing over the need to pay this lawyer as quickly as possible.

Just in the dumps, you know?

But went and knocked some errands out, finally got yet another phone service and have a working phone again at last.

Caught up with my lawyer to discuss the bill today and thankfully their payment terms are very flexible and they will not stop work until 30days passed due. Dude was just working so hard on the latest filings he forgot to checkin yesterday.

Cannot thank fedi enough for the unwavering support.

So anything still helps but I can see the storm clouds clearing.

$1400 / $4000

#Urgent #MutualAidRequest

Amazing, we're half way to my goal to cover part of legal expenses from June.

I've already paid $7k to lawyers which means finding an additional $3k is pretty tough. I need help paying the rest of the lawyer bill and covering my basic expenses. I also STILL pay for a storage unit used by my ex.

$3000 - June Lawyer bill remaining
$300 - Storage space for my ex
$700 - Bills, food, clothes

$1400 / $4000

Cashapp/venmo $nullagent

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Half way to my July mutual aid goal, but sadly bills can't be halfway paid so I still need some help.

Can you help me call this goal complete sooner rather than later?

$1400 / $4000

Cashapp/venmo $nullagent

#Urgent #MutualAidRequest #PNW #BlackMastodon #ParentingWhileBlack

It's Monday morning, I've been up all night getting court documents ready. Would you mind throwing me a few bucks so i can get breakfast and lunch and not have to worry?

It takes so much economic cost to even have a shot of complying with ridiculous court orders with actual paperwork. But to also make me homeless in the process is clear no one is expected to have justice.

$1400 / $4000

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Still trying to catch up to court expenses. I just pad $336 for the storage space my ex uses.

I can't actually afford these types of bills on top of the $3000 in lawyers fees they have caused me.

Anything you can do to help means more money for me to remain housed and able to work with my lawyer to resolve this seperation.

$1400 / $4000

Cashapp/venmo $nullagent

#Urgent #MutualAidRequest #PNW #BlackMastodon #ParentingWhileBlack

Back in court today, wish me luck!

If you're able to court watch at 9am PST I'd appreciate the support, linked below 👇🏿

I hopefully will find out if I'll be able to share my daughter's first birthday with her next month. Parenting while black in America is wild.

I'm still also working on catching up on legal bills of June and can really use any donations if you're able.

Venmo/cashapp $nullagent

Thanks again for the support!

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#CourtWatch #BlackMastodon

Curve ball, the judge today had a conflict of interest and needed to recuse herself so everything remains in limbo until we return to court on August 12th.

I'm STILL trying to rescue my 20yr old phone number before it expires and is resold. The judge today had to order my ex to return it and my ex lied to the judge once more claiming that they hadn't deleted it when infact my ex is the only person who could have deleted it because they are the sole owner of the phone plan.

The judge ruled that neither party can delete any other parties services, this is an extremely ordinary requests and I of course have abided this norm the entire time.

The only party who has broken the court order and threatened to delete any service was my ex.

The only party whose services have been deleted in violation of the order is me and my phone line.

With your continued donations I'm able to continue complying until the next hearing.

Thanks again for the support!

#courtwatch

#MutualAidRequest #LegalFees

Help urgently needed.

I'm still over $1500 short of my lawyer bill which is due on only four days!

$3000 - June Lawyer bill remaining
$700 - Bills, food, clothes
PAID - July storage bill (thanks, I was able to knock this one out with your help!)

$1856 / $4000

Cashapp/venmo $nullagent

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#PNW #FamilyCourt #ParentingWhileBlack #BlackMastodon

This feels like one of this NPR fundraising factoids but

If 10% of the people who see this post donate $10 I'd probably hit my #MutualAidRequest and you'd be materially helping a black father have better outcomes with the police state.

Complying with courts and cops costs money.

And when you run out of money they will try to put you in jail unconstitutionally.

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$1856 / $4000

#blacklivesmatter #mutualaid #helpfolkslive2025

Down to the wire on paying legal fees, anything helps.

I'd really like to be able to see my daughter's first birthday, please help.

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$1856 / $4000

#mutualaidrequest #blackparentsmatter #blackmastodon

Sadly I did not hit the fundraising goal for June family court expenses.

At the last minute a friend whose poor loaned me the remainder so I would not loose my lawyer this month due to being behind on bills. But now he urgently needs to be paid back and there's now also a $5k July lawyer bill on top of the $3k loan

I've already spent $10k out of pocket fighting these lies.

0 / $8k

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We now have hopefully the final hearing in this saga is happening now.

As usual I welcome court watch from friends, family and the public.

Observing out legal system work is critical to keeping cops and courts honest.

https://kingcounty.zoom.us/j/81505950030

#MutualAidRequest #CourtWatch #ParentingWhileBlack #Seattle #FamilyCourt #BlackMastodon

Good news, I've just won against these false allegations. 🎉 🥳

I'm facing a ton of economic fall out due to the cost of responding and complying fully with this process. I specifically refused to request legal fees from my false accuser bc that would only harm our child and empower the state even more.

Thanks again for the support and I should be able to be a father again in time for my daughter's birthday. 🎈 🎂

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Despite being found innocent I still have over $6k in outstanding legal debt, more bills coming and became housing insecure as a result. 😭

I'm thankful to have had significant support to be able to defend myself from these false accusations but it's sadly not over yet.

Please help me get back on my feet so I can get back to being a dad!

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Victory was short lived.

Throughout this week I texted my ex to try and find time to talk over our co-parenting plan and to find time for me to come see our daughter (her birthday is soon).

My ex ignored me all week then finally replied today telling me that despite the court order saying that my ex doesn't have excluvise custody they are illegally denying me access to my daughter.

Even just to visit for her birthday.

Needing more legal support 😭

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#MutualAidRequest

Had I not been falsely accused I would have EASILY been able to cover my half of rent for the rest of the year or all of rent for 5 months.

Instead I was forced spend all my money on getting a lawyer. I won in court but now will become homeless in 6 days.

The racism, abuse, and harassment I'm being subjected to should be illegal.

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I appreciate the support and donations on the recovery fundraiser so far! Still a long ways to go but you've already been a big help!

I just caught up on most of my small bills.

I still need to fundraiser quite a bit more to be able to keep pace with continuing court processes while keeping a roof over my head.

So anything helps!

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Really missing this tiny human. She just turned one this month and I was really looking forward to celebrating with her.

As soon as the court things were over I contact my ex to start working out our parenting schedule and to make sure my daughter could see her dad on her birthday.

Instead my ex told me no.

They told me to come back with a court order.

So now my ex is withholding my daughter from me and it will now have to take them to court to see my child.

https://chuffed.org/project/145522-help-falsely-accused-black-dad-get-back-on-his-feet

I've heard this type of situation called a "grey area" of US/WA laws around parenting, there's nothing grey about parental alienation.

Evidently one parent can run off with the child denying the other of contact without any legal reason to do so.

Now obviously it doesn't look great in court to do this, its a very childish dare to see if I'm -able- to spend money on court again.

My ex seemed to enjoy the reality that going BACK to court is extremely costly for me.