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BrianKrebsMy wife and I have gotten into the habit of asking each other at dinner what was the best thing that happened to each other that day. She now likes this tradition so much she's expanded it into three things, which I contend makes the whole thing more of a mental exercise, but I usually manage. I have found though that it makes me take closer note of the good things that happen during the day, so I'm not left with "uh...." when it's my turn. It also helps punctuate the positive at a time when there's a whole lot of the opposite.
Cali@briankrebs I love that.. can you share what the other things are? Might start that tradition at our table
@Cali well they change every day. last night's 3 things were 1) grateful that a seeming cold coming on did not 2) dinner was one of my top 3 favs 3) I got to sleep in luxuriously that morning.
gh0sti 
@briankrebs as a reporter of mostly bad news and a reader of mostly bad news it can be really a challenge to find those best things that happened in each day.
Kik@gh0sti @briankrebs “we didn’t get get hacked in a blatantly obvious manner” will have to do 😁
@kik @briankrebs ignorance is bliss.
Negahyphen@briankrebs Damn. If I only had two dogs instead of three, I'd be totally screwed.
Kim Scheinberg@briankrebs
We did this throughout our kids' childhoods. The two dinner table mainstays were:
Three good things
Three things you learned today
Gratitude is a magic bullet. For sustained well-being, nothing can compete with it
Ellen@kims @briankrebs I've been doing something similar with my children since they could talk:
1. What was the best thing that happened today?
2. What whas the nicest thing you ate?
3. What went well?
Bonus: they told me more about their day than 'it was okay'.
🔗 David Sommerseth@isisevrinen @kims @briankrebs
I've seen kids which gets these questions regularly start to appreciate everyday life much more.
They also start to automatically express their gratefulness in the moment they experience something nice; saying «Thank you», cheering for others who do good stuff. Even going to their parents expressing their love to them out-of-the-blue.
These questions makes a real difference!
@dazo @kims @briankrebs Plus, it helps to end every day on a positive note, even days which weren't that nice.
entropealabs@briankrebs We do it with the whole family, but we call it "peaches and pits", so best and worst thing for the day
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HTTP 1.1/418 Clean on Teapot OpSec@briankrebs A thing $spouse and I started doing is "Three things" but it's "A thing I liked about my day; a thing I like about you; a thing I like about me," alternating back and forth.
Considering our natures, a lot of the time the answers to the last two are "[your/my] nerdery"
Binsk 
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@briankrebs early on in our marriage, my wife made me say "five nice things" in the car if I'd been concentrating too much on the dumb things people inevitably do in traffic. it actually works pretty well to refocus on the positive things that are all around us at the same time. I think it teaches if we focus on the negative, we'll surely find it, but so too with positive things.
ChefRaven@briankrebs I purchased aqua notes which are waterproof little sheets of paper, which you can stick on your shower wall. It comes with a pencil. Anyway, every morning when we take a shower, we leave each other a note that says one thing we’re happy about or grateful for. I have all the pages since we started doing it in 2017. One year I went so far as to print out a bunch of pictures that corresponded and put them in a photo album with the pages.
Yvonne ‘looks undocumented’@chefraven @briankrebs I just teared up reading this.
happyborg@briankrebs
I used to ask my kids for the highlights and lowlights and it was a great way of understanding how things were going for them.
I used to ask my kids for the highlights and lowlights and it was a great way of understanding how things were going for them.
Nicolas Pettiaux@briankrebs good idea. Thanks
k3ym𖺀@briankrebs this is awesome. We do something similar with our littles (3yo and 5yo) at the dinner table. We call it “highs and lows.” We go around the table and ask, “What was your high? What was your low?”
It’s so important to take time for intentional connection amidst the chaos of life. I also want my kids to know that just like it’s okay to talk about and celebrate the “highs,” our family is a safe space to talk about and process the not-so-great parts of the day.
shellsharks@k3ym0 @briankrebs A good ol' game of "high-low-buffalo" is great with the kiddos
(Buffalo is something "surprising" that happened that day)
Phogna Bologna@shellsharks @k3ym0 @briankrebs we're buffalo types over here too, although his Uncle changed it to happy, crappy, buffalo chip and it nearly stayed that way
CrazyDogLadysezBreatheWithMe@k3ym0 @briankrebs It also teaches them to reflect regularly on what they’ve done and seen.
RiaResists@briankrebs it’s so good for you.
Gratitude is free yet worth so much
Gratitude is free yet worth so much
JamesWNeal@briankrebs I think it might force me to make more good things happen, so I'd have something to "report." Not really a bad thing. You know, to try and create good things.
Clark Breyman (he/him)@briankrebs - The curse of intrinsic motivation. You clearly want to accomplish something.
Everyone that comes away from your writing better informed about the threats we all face is proof that you are accomplishing something.
Allan Chow@briankrebs so long as "the cute barista gave me a nice smile" doesn't exist your lips you're fine
funnymonkey@briankrebs We started something like this a while back - we call it "the moment of joy"
And yeah - it's really helpful as a punctuation when things are, well, **waves hands and points around**.
Emory@briankrebs i do this too! MBT with my kids especially! i don't remember where i got it.
Michele Adduci@briankrebs nice. I've tried to establish the same ritual at home, also including kids, but never took flight
GogglesDon't give up! Try again and again. It's a habit needing to be trained up. It makes a real difference in the longer run.
FC@briankrebs we do the same with our kids. Only way to get to know what they are up to :)
Anthony Sorace@briankrebs @darthnull With our family we do (1) what was the best part of your day, (2) what was the worst part of your day, (3) and what were you most grateful for today. It’s especially good with the kids, but I like doing it with my partner when the kids are being weird about it.
bookworks Harris Walz💙@briankrebs Believe it or not, we did this right through high school with our kids. Actually managed to sit down for dinner quite a few nights per week. I know it “stuck” because as adults with family for holidays, or just dinner at our house, one of them would surprise us and suggest to the group. We call it “one good thing”. And to change it up a little when they were older we instead took turns choosing a word from the dictionary to share. (Thanks! Writing this made me smile). #tradition #words #OneGoodThing
Joe Crawford@briankrebs When I was still a stepfather the tradition was "highs and lows" - share the best thing(s) and the worst thing(s) that day. A great way to reflect and learn.
@briankrebs Not quite the same as your admirable practice but at least once each day, usually on reading the daily paper, I stop and remind myself that unlike many people in this world (a) I have no lethal or crippling illnesses and no-one is shooting at me (b) I have a roof over my head (c) I have a stable income and enough in the bank to afford occasional modest pleasures (d) I have enough to eat (e) I have several friends and no enemies (that I know of).
AllinrepGuess what @briankrebs that's a thing here on Mastodon! We call it #threegoodthings #3goodthings #3brasaker 😊
Mark P.We do this as a simple “what’s 3 things that went well…”
Somedays harder than others but everyday is a better mindset as it’s not all “good” - just what went “well”.
D2@briankrebs every time we come out of a theater or activity, we’d ask kids what their favorite parts were. It continues into their 20’s. Folks sneak in ‘xyz was a total train wreck’, but we mostly chase the fun, especially if subtle
Wary Jerry@briankrebs “got mentioned by Brian Krebs in a public post and it wasn’t because of a data breach” was mine the other day
SecCatHerder@jerry @briankrebs Can we say we knew you when...?
Joe O’Connor@briankrebs We found the best way to get our sons to talk about their schooldays was to ask them, “What made you laugh today?” Heard about doing that from another parent and it’s been a really great way to get the kids to open up. Sometimes it even led to finding out about the “less fun” parts.
Yordi@briankrebs here in the Netherlands there even was an entrepreneur with exactly that idea: writing down three things you are grateful for each day.
He made a "Dankboek" (Gratitude Book/Journal) for that purpose:
HardWired@briankrebs gratitude is a healing thing. #gratitude
Sebastian Hans@briankrebs That's a great habit! In my family, we do something similar. At dinner, everyone gets to tell what they particularly liked that day. Sometimes, it's one thing, but often there are several. (We started off with what we liked "best", too, but decided to change the wording to avoid forcing a ranking between things like a game with the sister and a visit at Grandma's.)
Zoarial94 
@briankrebs I have some friends who share their 'rose, bud, and thorn'. The rose was something good that happened today, the bud is something you're looking forward to in the near future, and the thorn, is well... a thorn from today.
Tim Lavoie@briankrebs My wife uses "three good things" as a thinking point when she is getting stressed. Sometimes she'll ask me for some, when she's spinning too hard to come up with enough on her own.
Stefan 
@briankrebs oh this is wonderful. I‘m not sure when we started the same but every couple of dinners during the week my son (4y) , wife and me are also telling us what was the best thing of the day.
Makes a good mood and recap of the day. It‘s also quiet interesting to learn about the loved ones.
Makes a good mood and recap of the day. It‘s also quiet interesting to learn about the loved ones.
David - Forking Mad@briankrebs what a great idea. I'm gonna try that.
Willow 🏳️⚧️🏴@briankrebs i started doing that with my kid before bed. i ask her few questions somewhere along these:
”how was your day?”
”did something bad/annoying happen?”
”what was the nicest/funniest thing that happened?”
”do you want to tell me something else about your day?”
usually if answer to one or more questions is ”idk” i ask the last bonus question.
DistroWatch@briankrebs Have been doing a similar ritual for a few years, usually at bedtime, and it is a nice way to finish the day.
Benack OBenaWhen my kids were younger we used to have an immutable table dinner where we'd go around and do best and worst (with a rule that noone can say the worst thing about their day was someone else at the table 😂). This expanded into extended family meals and friends and friends kids. It was really lovely, but it petered out when they got older and didn't want to do it any more and I miss it a bit. So I loved seeing this and think it's lovely. Power to you both. X
europlus 
@briankrebs when we had our great nephew living with us for a couple of years (10-12yo, not a great home situation), we used 5 questions our Canberra friends asked at every family meal:
1. What did you learn today?
2. What happened today that you are grateful for?
3. What did you do that was kind?
4. What did you see that was kind?
5. What could you have done better?
You can mix the order, and maybe leave some out.
Just depends how you’re feeling any given day.
xek (👻🏴☠️👻)@briankrebs In the same vein: I've been trying to ask myself at the end of the day "What did I do today that I'm going to appreciate tomorrow?" I usually try to think about it a while before bed, so I have a chance to do something if I haven't yet.
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staringatcloudsConan the Barbarian: "I crushed my enemies, I saw them driven before me, I heard the lamentation of their womenfolk ... pretty good day really
How was your day dear ?"