How positive psychology deceives us
Strategies and scams used by the happiness industry to take our money
Transcript of the post by conducteam
https://healthselfdefense.substack.com/p/how-positive-psychology-deceives
CLAIMING THAT POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY HAS SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE
1) Self-help books endorsed by positive psychology are not scientifically proven, and most of the terms used, which come from neuroscience, are imprecise and lack rigor.
2) Self-help books only offer very specific solutions, under very specific circumstances, providing at most slight, momentary relief.
3) It is a cheap product to produce, easy to distribute, and generates enormous economic benefits for everyone who offers it.
Don’t be fooled by arguments from authority!
PRESENTING HAPPINESS AS AN UNREACHABLE GOAL
1) Happiness is presented as an insatiable quality, since we can always be happier than we are. If we are asked, “When are we happy enough?”, the answer would be: never.
2) Happiness is sold as “something we need to exercise continuously.” If happiness becomes a “muscle” we must train, we need specific happiness coaches and supplements in the form of books or other products.
Your goal is to feel good, not to be happy. They are not the same thing!
CONVINCING YOU THAT YOU POSSESS A VERY POWERFUL STRENGTH, THE “POWER TO BE HAPPY”
1) Positive psychology deceives us by offering simple, individual solutions that require very little effort to solve complex problems. It is very tempting to claim that “the secret to solving a problem lies within us,” because of the enormous sense of control and power it generates.
2) If happiness is solely our own doing, then being well will be our own merit, but being unwell will be our own fault. There are more negative than positive consequences to this.
CREATING A TRAINING SYSTEM FOR “PROFESSIONALS” WHO TEACH HAPPINESS
1) They not only deceive us by claiming that “happiness is learned,” but they also confirm that “happiness is also taught.”
2) It would hinder their scam if this weren’t the case, since, if happiness isn’t learned, it would be difficult to link it to constant training, and if it isn’t taught, they couldn’t justify the profession of “wellness expert,” nor the existence of products that give their clients “guides and steps to be happier.”
CONVINCING YOU THAT PURSUING YOUR HAPPINESS DOESN’T HARM ANYONE
1) The happiness business is not without paradoxical and harmful effects. The individualism they sell ignores the fact that there are people with dreams that are dangerous for others.
2) Regarding ourselves, the more we strive to be happy, the more we suffer when we don’t achieve it. Regarding others, studies support the idea that cultures that place great value on happiness are associated with dissatisfaction, anxiety, and suffering.
PERSUADE YOURSELF WITH “THE PROBLEM IS THAT YOU’RE NOT HAPPY, NOT YOUR ENVIRONMENT”
1) Focusing on your “happiness” is very useful for shifting the focus away from other issues such as inequality, economic uncertainty, or job insecurity, among other detrimental variables for the reader of positive psychology.
2) Solutions like mindfulness or contact with nature have a weak scientific basis. The solution is to improve the world, not to find useless ways to endure it.
"happiness CANNOT exist without sadness. Joy cannot exist without grief just like sunlight cannot exist without dark nights only illuminated by moonlight.
Yet, overwhelming sadness can crush our will to live so if sadness is actually good for us, then why are we decimated by it? Emotions are fundamentally relational, not individual experiences that emerge from within in a vacuum. We cannot truly FEEL anything in isolation. Feelings are the threads that connect us to our ecosystems (other people, beings, the land)- so how can we possibly carry them alone?
Sadness when solely felt in isolation is crushing & hopeless. Grief when carried alone without communal support is paralyzing & unbearably agonizing. The moments when I don’t want to be alive are the moments when I’m most alone. It isn’t the sadness. It’s the loneliness that is crushing. When I truly try to discern what the problem is, I see that grief is not a problem to be solved or a hurdle to be avoided. The problem is the isolation that capitalism inflicts on us. Grief on the other hand is life-giving… if it is processed, navigated & moved through in community. Our emotions are sources of information, critical feedback & pathways of connection that helps us grow, evolve & adapt in community."
Heavy, difficult emotions are important to face & only overwhelming when carried alone, Ayesha Khan
https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/heavy-difficult-emotions-are-important










