I've realized (and what a lot of you all on this site maybe tried to tell me or hoped that I would come to in my own time) that
#queerness encompasses so much more than just who I may or may not have slept with. That can be part of it! But it's a fully lived experience. It's more expansive than that. A straight person would not have gone through the inner struggles that I have, whether that was teenage me feeling a confusing mix of
#elation and
#shame around certain young women friends that I can now identify as
#desire and
#infatuation or adult me wrestling with certain questions or who I am and who I could be or could have been. Maybe these experiences aren't the idealized images of queerness we see in the media, but they are my experience of my own
#queer and
#bisexual identity. They are part of the queer experience because I am queer. They are part of the bi experience because I am bi.