@cyberlyra @Azzura from my own standpoint, the transfeminine experience is being read as aggressive, threatening, and taking up too much space by default. nobody is more eager to prove that you're a man than when you're AMAB and say that you're not a man, and so people hyperscrutinize us for signs of our supposed masculinity lurking beneath the surface.

many of us cope by making ourselves small, quiet, and deferential, essentially performing patriarchal femininity for others as a personal safety measure. that can include smiling at others and laughing as OP described as a way to paint ourselves as unthreatening.

in reality, even this is an exceedingly precarious position. all it typically takes is one single instance of something that another person reads as masculine for their attitude to shift, and all of a sudden we're treated as a deceptive, predatory male impostor.

I am a Gen X man. And I want to tell you how I realised and learned to identify the “survival laugh.”

First, I noticed it in a social setting. I saw a woman laugh at a dangerously unpredictable man, not from joy, but to disarm him. Then I slowly recognised it everywhere: the forced chuckle in a professional meeting, the charming smile in media. This was never joy. This was a survival tactic. She doesn’t enjoy herself. She is deflecting a blow. She is surviving.

So I started asking myself in all sorts of different situations “Would I be laughing right now?”. The answer was almost always no. I can’t help but wonder how other men don’t see it? But the answer is simple: patriarchy.

I do see genuine, unforced laughter or enjoyment as well. But when I see it, I see it more often than not in queer communities, where we all can feel free from those heteronormative pressures. That contrast makes the truth of the “survival laugh” all the more heartbreaking. To everyone who has had to laugh to stay safe, all I can say: I see you, and I’m sorry.

#randomthoughts #society #patriarchy #safeplace #queer #misogyny #survival

Thread aus aktuellem Anlass:
Edit: #le1701 #GegenJedenAntisemitismus #noafd erneut getrötet #DankeAntifa all #together #solidarity

#NieWiederCDU
#Widersetzen
#WannWennNichtJetzt
editiert & erneut gepostet... :

Stoppt die NeoNazis & deren Steigbügelhalter, Egoisten, Rassisten, Kleinbürger, "Untertanen", Ewiggestrige, Rechte ...

Sookee & Spezial K - "Zusammenhänge" :

https://youtu.be/3fS7bw0DwHo

#Antifa #together #FreeHanna #solidarity #platznehmen #NoPasaran #NoAfd
edit: Songtext: https://www.musixmatch.com/de/songtext/Sookee-feat-Spezial-K/Zusammenh%C3%A4nge

Ich habe eigentlich nichts mit #Python zu tun, aber das Rückgrat das die #PythonSoftwareFoundation zeigt wollte ich doch mit einer Spende belohnen.

Um die eigenen #Werte nicht zu verraten, haben sie sich aus einem Förderprogramm zurückgezogen. Das klingt für uns Europäer vielleicht nach keiner großen Sache. Aber in den heutigen USA? Mutig. Lobenswert.

Meine #Spende ist zwar nicht hoch, aber es geht mir ja auch um die Nachricht die ich denen (hoffentlich) durch das Timing sende. Und es wäre cool, wenn die Foundation in diesen Tagen ein erhöhtes Spendenaufkommen verzeichnen würde.

Vielleicht hat jemand Lust (und die Möglichkeit) es mir gleichzutun?

https://fosstodon.org/@ThePSF/115446659188615376

@ThePSF

#HaltungZeigen #Widerstand #Inklusion #FOSS #OpenSource

Für alle die sich gerade Fragen warum die Diskussion um die #Chatkontrolle gerade wieder so brennt.
Wir stehen kurz vor einer erneuten Abstimmung im Rat.
Der dänische Vorschlag ist das schlimmste von allen in einem (https://edri.org/our-work/denmark-council-deadlock-on-the-csa-regulation-are-they-genuinely-trying/)

Wenn dieser durchgeht kommt die nächste Phase des Gesetzgebungsprozesses der sogenannte Trilogue - hier müssen dann Kommission, Parlament und Rat einen finalen Text aushandeln.
Was wichtig ist zu verstehen:

So - ich finde, wir machen jetzt mal das Gegenteil von gestern:

Schreibt unter diesen Post ein (idealerweise deutschsprachiges) Science-Fiction-Buch (Fantasy ist auch okay), das einen progressiven Ansatz hat und Themen wie Feminismus, Queerness, Dis_ability, Neurodivergenz, Klassismus oder Rassismus gut thematisiert.

Ich reposte eure Antworten später.

Lasst uns die Aufmerksamkeit heute auf die coolen Sachen richten, die es in der Szene gerade schon reichlich gibt.

I think that Silksong's existence shows pretty conclusively that the idea that people need to struggle against not having their basic needs met in order to be sufficiently 'motivated' to contribute to society is bullshit.

Hollow Knight gave the members of Team Cherry generational-wealth levels of resources. They had no need to release another game in order to keep food on the table - they did so because they chose to, and they took their time around doing it, and by and large people are extraordinarily happy with the results.

The whole concept that people "need" to be threatened with starvation and homelessness to "keep them motivated" - something I've seen seriously argued many times in the past - is a traumatic narrative that the actual evidence (look at every single study on unconditional basic income!) counters.

The old web was decentralized:

- Newsgroups
- Personal Websites
- Bulletin board
- Email as a service, not a platform
- Internet relay chat (IRC)
- Early blogs

Then corporations arrived with money and lock-in, turning the internet into centralized ad farms (Meta, X, TikTok). Users became consumers, trapped in algorithms, tracking, and enshittification. Revenue more important than people.

The Fediverse is a way back: no ads, no algorithms, no dark patterns. People first. A web worth reclaiming. And open source is the engine of this transformation.

Take back the web. Decentralize again 💪 Bring people to the Fediverse, promote open source and build federated services.

#TakeBackTheWeb #Decentralized #Fediverse #StopBigTech #OpenSource #DeGoogle #UnplugTrump