@Daojoan
There was a Polish social campaign that stated “You don't read I'm not going to bed with you.”
(Supposedly based on a John Waters quote that I couldn't find a primary source for on a glance.)
Edit: I misremembered the exact slogan of the campaign having “books” in it.
Referring generally to reading, not just books, is a better stance.

Kochamy książki miłością prawie że fizyczną. Chcemy zachęcać do odkrywania czytania na nowo – tym razem w kontekście nieco erotycznym. Bo przecież nie ma nic bardziej pociągającego, niż fajna osoba z dobrą książką, w odpowiednio dobranej pościeli.
@Daojoan It did that to a lot of things that I imagine we'd consider indulging in the arts, whether as a first-party or third-party enjoyer. It used to be such a mindful activity. Now it feels like everything wants us to see art as work. Both the initial creation as well as our interactions with art.
I long for society to remember to be mindful and intentional again.
@Daojoan "finishing books is a competitive sport".
Interesting, I hadn't even heard. Are there prizes?

BookTok influencer Jack Edwards motivates himself with reading goals – and he’s not alone. Authors and avid readers discuss the rise of metrics, and reveal how many books they finished last year
@proseandpassion @Daojoan
My phone cut that off leaving me to anticipate an alternate article that would be interesting to compare, “Last year I read One book”
Reading books isn’t always a mentally or physically healthy activity
Just like going to the gym all the time isn’t
I don’t keep count but can definitely say if I read a few less books and took a few more walks it might be a better balance
Readers with dogs likely don’t have those problem

@Daojoan I think you are right about this. Some people do benefit from modest goals, say 12 books a year, or to read more books from marginalized authors, but Netgalley* was all I did for a while, and I had to quit. I was reading 200 books a year. I needed to slow down and make time for other things. It feels much better to let go of reading goals and just have the goal of reading remarkably, no matter how long it takes.
Thank you for saying this.
*a website that allows reading of books before they are published, in exchange for review.
@Daojoan @briankrebs I love this <3
I do think it can be beneficial to see reading & thinking as a practice - until recently I had fallen out of reading books & had a fear that I was somehow left behind. Especially when seeing lists and recommendations that seemed so far beyond what I had time or energy for.
Lately I've been reading whatever makes me keep reading, and I'm not focused on a number of books, rather I want reading to be something I do most days and something I do to relax.
Me: I just finished "War and Peace" last night!
Gimli: Still only counts as one!
Before the internet, I used to read at least 1 book every week or two.
At some point in the mid to late 2000's... That slowed to just a few a year.
Then in the mid to late 2010's... I started reading a little more again... at least one book a month on avg.
I still read a lot... but it's articles online now that take up a large chunk of it... I switched to reading books on a tablet sometime around 12-13yrs ago
@Daojoan I am teaching an afterschool "Immersive Book Club" this semester for my 3-5 grade kids. We have a chart in the classroom that starts with "Its okay to give up on a book."
I cant believe how many kids found this concept to be shocking.
@vandenberglegs @Daojoan absolutely!
(I confess, its still kinda hard for me, but Im getting there!)
@Daojoan Thanks! I needed to hear that today.
In my pre-teen and early teen years, I would read so much that sometimes, I would be caught unaware by the morning light just to realize that I had read all night and now had to go to school.
MANY concussions later, I can't read a book. I can't connect the events on one page to the events on another, and sometimes not even to events earlier on the page.
It's as though my contemporary brain narrates books rather than reading them.
When I miss that feeling of reading, I usually open one of those books that I read when I was reading all night. Stories so ingrained in my brain that I can read them without feeling completely lost.
@Daojoan All while school generally focusses on what is measurable - grammar - killing interest and blinding children to the sheer joy of reading for pleasure.
Do no head teachers ever question teaching perverted by testing?
A Chinese boy I played Go with online loved chatting with me as conversational English was a profound release from intense grammar focus in China.