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Your Autistic Life FR/EN/ESSo on Feeld I've been accumulating likes. I don't pay, so when someone likes me, their profile appears blurred.
Once in a while I can figure out who liked me, and I find that it is someone pan/bi but without a profile to speak of, or it is a "straight" man. 
I always pass on those.
But once in a while, some of those likes take care of themselves without me doing anything. I've had two that disappeared during the last 24 hours, a sign that these were likely scammers.
(It is not possible to retract a like on Feeld. So for a like to disappear, your account must be deleted, by management, or by yourself.)
Riley 🔞Well that lasted a *loooooong* time. For context, I'm blind and use a screen reader on my phone. Tried to make a #Feeld #dating profile. I get to the “This is your space to be unfiltered” screen... and I can't tell if I'm checking any of the boxes. I could troubleshoot this into the ground and find some fuck ass workaround but I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO! And I have absolutely no one in my irl life who I'd ask to help me fill this out, and again, I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DO THAT. This should be #accessible to #blind people and #ScreenReader users. #Disabled people date, have sex, and live all over the spectrum of lifestyles just like everyone else. Being disabled by places meant for people who are already #marginalized really sucks. And worst of all, I can't find a way to contact Feeld about this. Really discouraged. #OnlineDating #Queer #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Sex #ENN #Kink #Poly #Polyamory #BDSM
Oh, yeah, Feeld has been busy implementing new features, or maybe I should say new *anti*-features.
One of these anti-features is the hidden bio. You can hide a portion of your bio behind a button that people have to tap onto to reveal. They can tap onto it if they match with you.
You do you, but I'd advise against using it. I saw a person, who at first glance I appeared compatible with, but their bio was entirely hidden. 😕 To me, that's the same as not having any bio at all. I pass on those folks who cannot be bothered to write a bio. I passed on this person.
Even if the entire bio is not hidden, I've got to wonder. What is it that you have in there that you think needs to be said *there*, but that you DO NOT want people to see??? A hidden bio is a yellow flag. If only a small part is hidden, I don't automatically pass, but it does make me lean towards passing.
As far as I see it, the hidden bio is entirely unnecessary. Either, you can just plainly say what you need to say. (And the users on Feeld are not particularly shy about saying what they need to say.) Or, you can reveal its content in chat.
As I said, that's an anti-feature.
My account on Feeld was buggy af... so I took advantage of the fact that I'm not paying to delete my account and create a new one. Some observations:
1. You get two free pings when you join. My account was over 3 years old... I don't recall how it was when I joined. Did I get pings? At any rate, I was wondering why sometimes scammers would ping me. They typically don't want to pay money. Well... wonder no more: they were using their free pings most likely.
2. They no longer ask for a phone number.
3. I feel super special being hit upon by cishet guys right away. /sarc
4. I think my account was buggy in more ways than one. I'm seeing profiles I've never seen before.
5. It is super fun seeing again those people who decided to pass on me. /sarc
Adara AstinI was talking with a friend about dating apps, privacy, security and safety.
They are using Feeld, which lets you tag specific kinks -- and which changed their TOS about 2 years ago (IIRC) to specify that they sell user data. (In a massive betrayal of the trust and safety of their user base.)
My friend's response was that they aren't ashamed of who they are and if an app wants to sell their data, no big deal.
My position was that in a time of rising fascism, it's really worth thinking about how in the 1930's, IBM set up the systems to tag and sort people by "undesirable" qualities. In Germany.
I fear for people with all my heart.
For the reading comprehension impaired, let me be clear: I'm not telling anyone not to live their life. I'm saying be smart, raise your game on privacy and security, and keep yourself and your people as safe as you can in a brutal world.
@Em0nM4stodon wrote a great article on data privacy and dating apps (with a focus on queer apps but also relevant to any dating apps).
Read it, share it with your people, and act on it.
https://www.privacyguides.org/articles/2025/06/24/queer-dating-apps-beware-who-you-trust/
#Dating #QueerDating #DatingApps #SurveillanceCapitalism #DataBrokers #DatingApp #Privacy #PrivacyGuides #Feeld #SocialMedia #Technology
yourautisticlifeI Still Cannot Recommend Feeld
Feeld used to be my go-to dating app, but no more. How the mighty have fallen!
I let my subscription to Feeld lapse in mid-July. In the year prior, I spent about $270 on this app, in subscription fees and individual pings. However, they raised their prices at the end of Spring or the start of Summer 2025. If I had the same usage for the coming year, my cost would be about $410!
I’ve written an article already about the problems I had with Feeld:
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/
True to my own advice in that article, I returned to OkCupid. However, this app sucks too. I just had forgotten how much it sucks. I can say that, by and large, there hasn’t been a migration of kinky people to OkCupid. I did find my boyfriend on OkCupid. However, OkCupid was just too irritating for me, and I deleted my account there.
In the article above, I mention how Feeld had a problem with pings not getting through. This was a very serious problem. I’d get a notification that someone pinged me, and I’d tap the notification, but they did now show up among the people who pinged me. This problem has now been fixed.
However, the distance problem I mentioned in the article above remains. This, coupled with the price increase, and a new round of bugs, still keeps me from recommending it. What bugs? Read on.
It has happened twice now that Feeld matched me with people I had not liked. Normally, for a match to occur, both parties have to like each other. It is not possible for someone to just show up as a match if you haven’t liked them.
This first time this happened… I was confused and thought that maybe I had made a mistake somewhere. However, the second time this happened, the individual that showed up was so incompatible with me that I’m 100% sure I did not make a mistake.
What happened?
Did Feeld misdirect one of our likes? Was I supposed to match with someone else and Feeld misdirect the match?
Was Feeld’s display when I was going through the stack of dating prospects messed up and showed me the profile of person A when it meant to show person B? And then when I liked person A, person B got the like?
Did something else happen?
I don’t know. I’ve complained to customer service, but I had no reply.
Then, one recent morning, I got a notification that I had a new connection. I tap the notification, Feeld loaded, and I got a message that it couldn’t load my conversation. When I was able to load my conversations, it told me that the person had left the chat.
Wow… that was fast. Could the person have changed their mind this fast? Yes, they could. However, this is the first time I saw the error message that Feeld gave me. Coincidence? Maybe, but maybe not. I’m betting on maybe not.
“Why are you assuming, without absolute proof, that it is Feeld’s fault?”
Because of my history with Feeld. If you go read my previous article, you’ll see there was a bug so fucking serious that it demonstratably made me miss some matches. Let me repeat this, some matches that should have happened did not happen because of that bug! This was a major problem, that plagued Feeld for months.
So yes, I am assuming that it is Feeld’s fault, even if I don’t have absolute proof. If my history with a platform shows that it operates erratically, then my future inferences are going to point to its behavior still being erratic.
Finally, they tried to entice me to resubscribe with a 15% off offer. I did not want to resubscribe, but I checked it out nonetheless. Well, I went up to the Google Play screen for renewing my subscription and found that 15% off to be absent. Way to go, Feeld!
Moreover, after my subscription ended, I’m getting a suspiciously high number of people who like me without a ping. Since I no longer pay, I cannot see their likes. Yes, I used to get likes from deadbeats who didn’t read my profile even when I was paying, but the quantity and frequency of these makes me wonder whether Feeld is paying for some dunces to like people who don’t pay so that these people will subscribe to see who liked them. This hypothetical stratagem won’t work on me.
I’d like to be able to recommend Feeld. I used to say that it was the least terrible app of a terrible bunch, because, yes, all the dating apps are terrible. However, I cannot in good conscience recommend it, to anyone, in any demographics.
What are the alternatives? I’m only going to talk about those platforms that I consider could be alternatives to Feeld. If I do not talk about some platform in this article, then I do not consider it to be a viable alternative.
Taimi
Taimi is a platform for LGBTQ+ dating. I plan to publish a more extensive review of it in the future. For now, suffice to say that Taimi has become my go-to dating app. It is not perfect, all the dating apps are terrible, but it is decent, and definitely better than Feeld. I’ve made some nice matches on this app.
Masked Kink
Masked Kink is a platform for people into kink or BDSM. It definitely is not great. The geographic search leaves me with no matches within 1000 miles of where I live. However, this app has several bugs, so I wouldn’t be surprised if the geographical search is buggy too. As a matter of fact, I’d be surprised if it weren’t buggy.
One of its bugs is extremely vexing. I managed to be liked by a scammer. I did a reverse image search on their dating profile picture, and found a hit on Threads. Then, I quickly discovered their YouTube channel and their OnlyFans page. I wanted to report this scammer, but try as I may, the UI would not let me submit my report. Tapping on the submit button did nothing.
I plan to let my subscription to Masked Kink lapse when it ends.
KinkD
KinkD was already rather inactive when I left it about a year ago. I came back to it for two or three weeks recently. It is now completely dead. I sent messages to easily eight people. Nothing whatsoever happened. They did not even log into the system to check their messages. KinkD was not worth my money when I first went there, now it is not worth my money and my time. I uninstalled.
KinkD is also a great example of how Google reviews are largely worthless on their face. It has a rating of 4.4 as we speak, and keeps getting glowing reviews. I’d bet a leg and an arm that these are fake.
#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #MaskedKink #OnlineDating #Taimi #YourAutisticLife
Newsflash:
Feeld is no longer my go-to dating app. I've let my subscription lapse, and I don't plan to buy more from it.
Taimi is my new go to dating app. I'm going to have a review of it at some point.
Right now, I'm writing a second article about the foibles of Feeld. It's taking a bit to come out because I'm literally swimming in likes on Taimi. 
I've just noticed something.
#Feeld has been increasing its prices across the board.
From the beginning of Jul 2024 to the beginning of Jul 2025, I spend $272 on Feeld.
If I had the exact same usage for the coming year, I'd pay $410.
I've not noticed anything that justifies this price increase for me. It is not easier or faster to form matches. In fact, I'd say it has become a bit harder.
Time to move on? 