I Still Cannot Recommend Feeld

Feeld used to be my go-to dating app, but no more. How the mighty have fallen!

I let my subscription to Feeld lapse in mid-July. In the year prior, I spent about $270 on this app, in subscription fees and individual pings. However, they raised their prices at the end of Spring or the start of Summer 2025. If I had the same usage for the coming year, my cost would be about $410!

I’ve written an article already about the problems I had with Feeld:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/

True to my own advice in that article, I returned to OkCupid. However, this app sucks too. I just had forgotten how much it sucks. I can say that, by and large, there hasn’t been a migration of kinky people to OkCupid. I did find my boyfriend on OkCupid. However, OkCupid was just too irritating for me, and I deleted my account there.

In the article above, I mention how Feeld had a problem with pings not getting through. This was a very serious problem. I’d get a notification that someone pinged me, and I’d tap the notification, but they did now show up among the people who pinged me. This problem has now been fixed.

However, the distance problem I mentioned in the article above remains. This, coupled with the price increase, and a new round of bugs, still keeps me from recommending it. What bugs? Read on.

It has happened twice now that Feeld matched me with people I had not liked. Normally, for a match to occur, both parties have to like each other. It is not possible for someone to just show up as a match if you haven’t liked them.

This first time this happened… I was confused and thought that maybe I had made a mistake somewhere. However, the second time this happened, the individual that showed up was so incompatible with me that I’m 100% sure I did not make a mistake.

What happened?

Did Feeld misdirect one of our likes? Was I supposed to match with someone else and Feeld misdirect the match?

Was Feeld’s display when I was going through the stack of dating prospects messed up and showed me the profile of person A when it meant to show person B? And then when I liked person A, person B got the like?

Did something else happen?

I don’t know. I’ve complained to customer service, but I had no reply.

Then, one recent morning, I got a notification that I had a new connection. I tap the notification, Feeld loaded, and I got a message that it couldn’t load my conversation. When I was able to load my conversations, it told me that the person had left the chat.

Wow… that was fast. Could the person have changed their mind this fast? Yes, they could. However, this is the first time I saw the error message that Feeld gave me. Coincidence? Maybe, but maybe not. I’m betting on maybe not.

“Why are you assuming, without absolute proof, that it is Feeld’s fault?”

Because of my history with Feeld. If you go read my previous article, you’ll see there was a bug so fucking serious that it demonstratably made me miss some matches. Let me repeat this, some matches that should have happened did not happen because of that bug! This was a major problem, that plagued Feeld for months.

So yes, I am assuming that it is Feeld’s fault, even if I don’t have absolute proof. If my history with a platform shows that it operates erratically, then my future inferences are going to point to its behavior still being erratic.

Finally, they tried to entice me to resubscribe with a 15% off offer. I did not want to resubscribe, but I checked it out nonetheless. Well, I went up to the Google Play screen for renewing my subscription and found that 15% off to be absent. Way to go, Feeld!

Moreover, after my subscription ended, I’m getting a suspiciously high number of people who like me without a ping. Since I no longer pay, I cannot see their likes. Yes, I used to get likes from deadbeats who didn’t read my profile even when I was paying, but the quantity and frequency of these makes me wonder whether Feeld is paying for some dunces to like people who don’t pay so that these people will subscribe to see who liked them. This hypothetical stratagem won’t work on me.

I’d like to be able to recommend Feeld. I used to say that it was the least terrible app of a terrible bunch, because, yes, all the dating apps are terrible. However, I cannot in good conscience recommend it, to anyone, in any demographics.

What are the alternatives? I’m only going to talk about those platforms that I consider could be alternatives to Feeld. If I do not talk about some platform in this article, then I do not consider it to be a viable alternative.

Taimi

Taimi is a platform for LGBTQ+ dating. I plan to publish a more extensive review of it in the future. For now, suffice to say that Taimi has become my go-to dating app. It is not perfect, all the dating apps are terrible, but it is decent, and definitely better than Feeld. I’ve made some nice matches on this app.

Masked Kink

Masked Kink is a platform for people into kink or BDSM. It definitely is not great. The geographic search leaves me with no matches within 1000 miles of where I live. However, this app has several bugs, so I wouldn’t be surprised if the geographical search is buggy too. As a matter of fact, I’d be surprised if it weren’t buggy.

One of its bugs is extremely vexing. I managed to be liked by a scammer. I did a reverse image search on their dating profile picture, and found a hit on Threads. Then, I quickly discovered their YouTube channel and their OnlyFans page. I wanted to report this scammer, but try as I may, the UI would not let me submit my report. Tapping on the submit button did nothing.

I plan to let my subscription to Masked Kink lapse when it ends.

KinkD

KinkD was already rather inactive when I left it about a year ago. I came back to it for two or three weeks recently. It is now completely dead. I sent messages to easily eight people. Nothing whatsoever happened. They did not even log into the system to check their messages. KinkD was not worth my money when I first went there, now it is not worth my money and my time. I uninstalled.

KinkD is also a great example of how Google reviews are largely worthless on their face. It has a rating of 4.4 as we speak, and keeps getting glowing reviews. I’d bet a leg and an arm that these are fake.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #MaskedKink #OnlineDating #Taimi #YourAutisticLife

Newsflash for kinky daters:

KinkD went for barely alive to completely dead. I returned to it recently. I was there maybe for 2-3 weeks. During that time, I saw:

* No activity whatsoever in MD or DC. By this, I mean that you can sort profiles by date of last activity. From the time I joined to the time I left, *nothing changed*. This means that no one came onto the site to check their messages.

* I messaged easily 8 people. No response. No activity. Not a thing. (See above. Sometimes people, for whatever reason, do not respond. However, they do log on and move up in the list of profiles. So if they read your message, you should see some activity.)

* I know for a fact that if you just delete the app but do not *in addition* delete your profile, your profile is going to stay up. This leads to a lot of ghost profiles.

* I easily ran into about 8 profiles of scammers. Nobody is reporting them... because there are no real users on the platform.

I came. I saw no activity. I left.

#KinkD #BDSM #DatingApp

I've reinstalled KinkD on my phone. I forgot just how much of a wasteland this app is. I sent a message to someone, but I'm not expecting a reply.

#DatingApps #KinkD #dating

I'm leaving #OkCupid today, most likely forever. I've had multiple matches on this platform, but only two of them became intimate.

This is abysmal.

I'm much more successful on #Feeld and #FetLife, and I have the same success rate on OkCupid as I do on #KinkD.

(KinkD is abysmal, but I don't pay for it, and do not feel the need to pay for it. Not paying for OkCupid is unthinkable. It would ignore my dealbreakers, and I'd get inundated by meaningless likes.)

#dating #DatingApps

The State of The Dating Apps

Feeld is buggy. KinkD is not very active. Oh, and I’m back on OkCupid.

Feeld is buggy as sin. The November 2023 update has been a shitshow and continues to be a shitshow. I recently let my Feeld subscription lapse. No biggie. However, I’ve received during the past few weeks about three likes that never made it among my prospects.

“Say what?”

My phone brought up a notification saying that someone liked me. I clicked on the notification and that person was nowhere to be found. This never used to happen. I’ve resubscribed to see if it would make a difference, but it did not. I have no clue what happened exactly, but it smells like a bug to me.

I’ve also had trouble unmatching from scammers. I tried cleaning my roster this morning, and that one scammer would just not go away.

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KinkD is still a desert in my area. Most of the activity I see on it is happening far from me. There was I girl that I messaged. I asked if she was interested. She answered yes, but then I got nothing more from her.

Given that there’s very little action on KinkD, and that Feeld has been suffering from enshittification, I’m now back on OkCupid. It used to be that I’d recommend Feeld for Kinky folks, and OkCupid for vanilla folks. Truth be told OkCupid is the superior platform. It is just a shame that I have to wade through a lot of vanilla profiles on OkCupid, in order to find the rare gem.

Technically, OkCupid is comes last among these three platforms. I’ve been intimate with multiple people I found on Feeld, with two people I found on KinkD, and with one person I found on OkCupid. I had found OkCupid so vanilla, that I had decided to stop renewing my subscription and never look back.

Haha! Yeah.

With the downfall of Feeld, I figure I should take a second look. The one big thing that has changed since I was there is that I’ve expanded my search to include men, agender folks, etc., basically all the flavors. If we hit it off, we hit it off. If we don’t, then we don’t.

I’ve already received a bunch of likes. It is unfortunately not from people I think I’d hit it off, but it is better than nothing. I forgot that on that platform, the only way to not see someone with whom I think I won’t hit it off, ever, is to block them. I’ve been blocking people left and right, including people that I had matched with before, or that I went on a date with, and nothing happened.

And… I managed… to work through… my entire stack… in less… than a day.

Wow. I remember having this problem before. I don’t want to see or date straight people, so it eliminates a ton of folks from my stack. Then there’s the fact that I don’t want to date conservatives, etc.

Man, my stay on this platform is going to be painful!

#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #OkCupid #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/04/05/the-state-of-the-dating-apps/

I forgot to note this.

#KinkD has become better than #OkCupid for me. I've found my latest girlfriend there. That's two hits on KinkD, versus one on OkCupid.

Also, I had to ignore my girlfriend's age range preferences. I'm a good 11 years older than the older age she wanted. 😬

I still don't generally recommend KinkD. If you somehow do want it, I don't recommend paying for it. I don't. I did pay early on, but it was a waste.

Oh, and that girl that I mentioned a while back. She followed me on KinkD. I realized that when I followed her. Well, she never came back. I'm now wondering if she just deleted the app but left a profile up.

😩

When I found the first girl I found there in May/June 2023, there was a similar scenario. I had contacted her, and she took a while to answer.

Here, however, I think it's been longer.

#dating #BDSM #kink

I'm on a dating app that allows people to "follow" other people. When two people follow each other, this is more or less like a match on other platforms.

I see a girl. I decide to follow her, and the system tells me she's already followed me.

Yay, right?

Except that she hasn't logged back into the system.

I'm not super surprised. The app is buggy. Notifications are not always sent out.

Something similar happened to the last gf I had. I did find her on the same app, and it took a while before she checked back.

(The app is #KinkD, which I still do not recommend.)

#dating #bugs

So I matched with someone on #KinkD.

He is a subby #trans boy. (Subby is important to me. I'm a Dom for crying out loud.)

Sometimes people have a conniption with "boy." He's younger than I am, but still an adult. I'd even call people in their early 40s boys and girls.

He's also #neurodivergent. Diagnosed with #ADHD, but he suspects either that he's going to end up #AuDHD or be reclassified as #autistic.

#dating

Oh, I forgot to mention that the woman who approached me on #KinkD and then dropped me like a hot potato when I asked her to read my profile, was indeed a scammer. I kept the chat alive to see what would happen.

Eventually, her profile was approved. She was straight and in "Texas". I put it in quotes because she could have been anywhere in the world.

Some time later, her profile was deleted. She probably tried to scam someone else, and got caught.

#dating #scammer #DatingProfile

So I'm pretty sure I ran into a #scammer on #KinkD.

Her profile still needs approval. She asked questions that can be readily gleaned from my profile.

"What's your age?"

"Where are you from?"

I pointed out that this is in my profile and asked whether she read it.

She hasn't come back with an answer so far. I'm wondering if I'm dealing with someone who was following a script, but does not actually speak good English.

I threw her a curveball with my answer that it is in my profile, and she should read it.

ETA: If you wonder why it is important to read my profile, I do list some dealbreakers there. I've had some people disconnect from me after I told them to read my profile.

#dating #DatingProfile