I'll post it here to get it out of my system:

When I ask for responses from people in my general area, that DOESN'T mean across the ocean or on the other side of the continent. I'm glad you think that I sound sweet and funny and intelligent, but that doesn't give me the ability to teleport.

Please DON'T write to me if you're still emotionally entangled with someone else. Please be over any bad relationships you've had before. Please don't be a prime candidate for rebounding. I'm a man looking for a woman, not a free emotional therapy tool.

I'm incredibly good at detecting "pig butchers". Please don't waste my time - and yours.

I don't want to see your tits. Or rather, I do, very much - but only if we click on many levels long before we get to that point.

As I always say, I'm demisexual and shy. That means that our personalities have to mesh, FIRST.

Is that so hard to understand?

#Dating #FediDate #Heartbreak

@screwlisp @strypey I will read it properly tomorrow, but Bumble is dire at Trust and Safety.

Whitney (Bumble) is sensible in one sense, in that she has seen that dating apps are going nowhere and they have broken themselves with the swipe model - So last I heard, she was going for a more in-person networking and activity friendship model. But I dunno, I am not at all convinced. She's a billionaire anyway, so what does she care?

Computer #dating has a pretty long history of success, and the model didn't change drastically from its invention over 60 years ago (I wrote my first one in 1983, so I was late to the game!) until it had to be adapted for small devices and short attention spans. I imagine there's still space for going back to the old model, and taking it out of the hands of Match Group would be great.

That being said, these days the cool kids are meeting via hashtags and mutual interest site areas - if someone is looking for their perfect Swiftie, Pokemon fan partner, then they are going to look at people with a history of posting and commenting on both of those topics on TikTok (for example), where the interest can't be faked. It's really a very good, naturally made model that a commercial site can't replicate.

I suppose the next move would be for hashtags like #looking or #available to evolve and be properly adopted, then it would be even more in the open. For all I know, they already have! I am somewhat of a dinosaur outside of my own areas :)