I'm now watching a #JamesBond's movie and the idea crossed my mind of a new James Bond being openly gay or openly bi. Seducing men away and frantically making love to them even as the world seemingly around them crumbles.
And, of course, it quickly occurred to me that... No. That won't happen. It can't happen. It wouldn't fly. There would be total outrage.
Make no mistake. Our world is as homophobic as it ever was. It's just more quiet about it. But behind the thin veil of gained rights such as marriages, still lies the same spite and disgust. The real rights that have been given to that part of the queer community is the right to remain silent, by giving away marriage as a concession which has sufficed to silence a lot of previously vocal activism.
Now we can celebrate their identities by putting them as background characters that we can easily cut in editing. Like throwing a bone, we give a month in a year before returning to silently hating their existence. We humor them, but mockery never fails to creep in behind.
Homophobia is still everywhere. It's insidious. Homophobic expressions and insults are so deeply sipped into our language. I see it and I hear it all the time, even coming from people who call themselves leftists. We poke fun and laugh at supposed relationships between two masculine world leaders. We have no qualms saying that one is sucking the other's cock. These way of speakings are not the problematic exceptions. They are still the rule.
But the victory over marriages, a victory which, mind you, can still be revoked at any minute, was largely seen as a victory for a lot of activists who have since gone quiet. And don't be mistaken, this is not me saying that more can be done as more can always be done. No. This is me saying that we've barely gotten started yet.
No victory has been achieved. Let us not mistake tolerance for acceptance, nor concessions for liberation.
#homophobia #queer #lgbt #lgbtqia