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Sarah FackrellPeriodic reminder that "introvert" is not a synonym for "shy" or "bad at public speaking." We can talk to random strangers, we can speak to large audiences. It just exhausts us.
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Large audiences?
Hm, not sure I've got that in me.
@stargazersmith Okay. "Some of us." 😀
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It's a blessing if you do. I've wished often that I had it in me.
It's a blessing if you do. I've wished often that I had it in me.
Half Cocked Law@design_law my in-laws were confused and upset when I closed the door to our bedroom after holding court during Thanksgiving dinner. Apparently "I'm not shy, I'm exhausted" was difficult for a family of extroverts to understand.
@halfcocked Oof, sorry. I feel that one.
AT-AT Assault 🏳️⚧️It's very easy to *make* them understand. Force them to be alone in their room for 4+ hours. When they bitch and moan about it you tell them "that's exactly how NOT having alone time makes me feel."
You S Blues@design_law Thank you for saying that. Everyone is skeptical when I tell them I am an introvert.
Moving Pictures@design_law Bingo. Says he, at a rehearsal for a play.
DamnKimberlee@design_law that!! Yes!!
LyndeeTotally relate.
Shawn@design_law “introvert doesn’t mean what you think it means… it means what I think it means.”
I’ve always found these takes peculiar. Public speaking exhausts everyone. Public performance is exhausting.
In any case, identifying your own personal comfort boundaries and how willing you are to push them is a major part of growing as a person. There doesn’t need to be an explanation for where you sit on that spectrum, in my opinion.
Shadow Heart@design_law and that's why I avoid lead positions at work.
Nlroundabout@design_law Obama and Beyoncé are introverts and they manage. So yes, it can be handled.
Jack Yan (甄爵恩)@design_law Amen to that! Spoken to thousands (though where I spoke seated hundreds and the rest of the university watched from their various halls, etc.).
Auntie Mame@design_law I can work a room and run a hustle like the best of ‘em, but come the weekend, I need to be OFF: alone and silent.
Dylan@design_law glad other people are talking about this. On the flip side, “extrovert” does not necessarily mean “gregarious.” I’m an extrovert and often feel anxious speaking to new people, but being around other people recharges my batteries.
LMFAO and you STILL have extroverts in this very thread telling you that you are wrong. It's like being extroverted automatically means a person has a lower base level of empathy. I've never seen an extrovert be able to wrap their heads around someone else telling the extro a basic fact of their lived experience.
cowvin@design_law So true, I've done pretty well at giving speeches and presentations. My wife always tells me I talk really well with strangers.
It's just draining and not what I want to spend my time doing. LOL
Old One Eye@design_law Hell... Speaking as an introvert I even ENJOY interacting with people. I feel frustrated when I can't. It is absolutely exhausting, I can't keep it up, but it is something I feel like I need and desire. My day doesn't feel complete without SOME of it.
It's mostly very routine oriented... Like... I go to a bar and my whole night is oriented around a pool table. But those carefully structured moments where I can interact feel so necessary.
Cheryl G Kasson@design_law Sometimes we love mingling, meeting new people, and conversing with them, but then we need some time by ourselves to sit quietly with our own thoughts.
@cherylgk Exactly.
Deus….that fake smile, that fake, ‘Feeling great’ greeting to one and all. We’d rather be some place else - learning, finishing a back log at work, or just sleeping.
AmiW Streetart ❄️
ZumbadorIt will be interesting to see whether or not "introvert" and "extrovert" remain useful terms as we learn more about what autism really is.
Alex von Kitchen@design_law yep, I'm quite a good public speaker. I just go home immediately afterwards
Vicente Perez@design_law oddly, and it might be just my own brand of introversion, I have found that the smaller the audience, the harder the challenge. Doing a QA session in front of a crowd of strangers is much easier than the small talk when I bump into a neighbor.
@vpermar I'm the same, so I don't find that odd. There just seem to be misperceptions about both. 😊
LRRR 
@design_law SHY EXTROVERT HERE TO CONFIRM THAT THIS TOTALLY CHECKS OUT.
Jennifer Kayla | Theogrin 🦊One of the best explanations for it that I've heard -- albeit immensely simplified -- is that introverts and extroverts both have batteries. Introverts recharge on our own or in low-key social situations without a lot of people. Extroverts recharge in higher-end social situations, big groups, and vibing with a crowd. And some of us also have smaller batteries than others in the first place, so we need to recharge more frequently.
@theogrin Yes, exactly.
CharJTF 
(she/her)Yep. People used to wonder why I rarely attended social events at conferences. It's because I needed to be alone and not with lots of people.
Giuseppe Mazzapica@design_law and because it exhausts us, we're seldom willing to do it :)
bob.php 
@design_law yes i loved giving talks at Lone Star PHP but after the Q/A it was always a corpse drag to a quiet room after, since people will try to catch you to ask questions they were not wanting to ask to a full room. not a complaint just facts of how it always goes down.
@design_law @design_law Extroverts do NOT understand the nonverbal cues that say "I want to exit this conversation soon" or "please stop talking at me." They will follow you and keep talking when you are trying to exit a noisy environment for some alone time, and really don't seem to understand why that is a problem. There is not a socially acceptable way to tell them either.