Hi, I'm Kaitlin, creator of the Untangling Ourselves podcast. Here's my #introduction for sunny.garden!

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Untangling Ourselves is interviews with people who have changed their lives and their communities without coercion. People who've found inspiration without shame.

Season 1 includes episodes about #kpop fandom, ASL interpreting, #mutualaid , #CultDeprogramming, #CommunityChoirs , and #unschooling community building. Some possibilities for Season 2 include trauma-informed dog training, social justice and real estate, donor conceived people's rights, fawning, and neurodiversity-affirming nutrition.

In so many groups and sub-cultures (work cultures, parenting, academics, community organizations, etc) we default to control. It seems to a be a necessary means to an end.

But as people organize against fascism we hear again and again that we need to build the world we want to see: a world where we don't use "power over" to force compliance.

So most recently I interviewed Lee Hoffman, a choir director who manages to lead large groups in practice, performance, and protest without shaming or policing.

In episode 1:2 I interviewed Delia Tetelman about how her experience joining and then deprogramming from a cult in the 80s helps her see and the methods of social coercion in everyday debates and in communities.

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#Homeschooling in Italia: libertà educativa o rischio nascosto?
Sempre più famiglie scelgono percorsi alternativi alla #scuola tradizionale… ma cosa dice davvero la legge?
E qual è la differenza tra homeschooling e #unschooling — spesso confuse ma profondamente diverse?

Il caso della “famiglia del bosco” ha acceso il dibattito, ma dietro i titoli c’è molto di più:

Climbing a Tree and Explorative Learning | Phantom Rickshaw Life

https://makertube.net/w/34YpstXZiPHGEAeh8tPanD

I experienced parenthood as a gauntlet of having to choose between honoring my children's autonomy and needs, and people pleasing.

This interview with Supriya made me reflect back on the last decade of my parenting journey, and how terrifying those early years were. There's a period of time where people are kind if your baby cries, and then a long stretch where a child's every public meltdown is the parent's fault and shame comes strong and fast from all directions.

And then, you learn how to prevent meltdowns and co-regulate but they mostly require setting boundaries. And once you start setting boundaries, the judgement comes at you even more.

Not to mention what happens after--trying to build your own communities of people who trust kids, and all the mess and conflict of community building.

Supriya, like my previous interview with Sue, is "just a mom"--and has a lot to say about that framing.

https://untanglingourselves.com/episode/9bb1d62c/shifting-to-trust-with-supriya-narang

#unschooling #coregulation #feminism

Pat Farenga discussing Ivan Illich's "Deschooling Society":

"he makes a very powerful case that it [school] is indeed a modern ritual that we've created. Based on his studies of religious practice, religion, and his understanding of rituals and their purpose. As he says in the book the ritual of schooling hides--like most rituals do--it hides what happens. So if you do the rain dance, and the rain doesn't happen, it's not because the ritual is wrong. It's because you didn't do it hard enough. You didn't pray hard enough. You didn't mean it enough. So the ritual has that thing of protecting the servers of the ritual at the expense of those in it. And he said that in education what happens, those who have the most money or advantage continue to have it. And schooling is not addressing the people who need it the most, but instead uses the ritual to make them feel ashamed, to remediate them, to keep knocking them back."
#unschooling

Badge shop is open, and most designs are in stock! If you need any little presents for friends, it might be worth a look :-)

(plus a bisexuality zine and a creativity zine)

https://uncharted-worlds.org/identitybadges/

#bisexual #trans #queer #polyamory #neurodivergence #pansexual #allies #pronouns #NonSchoolEducation #HomeEducation #Unschooling #badges #ButtonBadges #zines #creativity

I really like unschooling, because it meshes with my experience that kids are natural learners. But it can really throw people off; they say things like how will kids learn if they don't go to school? The unschooling approach is to first take the brakes off that are preventing learning. Things like forcing kids to learn topics on the school's schedule, grading, and limiting movement for good chunks of the day. These things can seem necessary and effective, but tend to limit self-motivated learning. And they are no fun! The more these pressures are lifted, kids have time to explore their own interests, which leads to rich learning.

With unschooling, there is still plenty for adults to do to help support kids with learning. We can express interest in whatever they find cool. We can help when they get stuck or something is more difficult than expected. And we can explore our own interests and share them with the kids. The kids will want to see what you're up to.

#unschooling
#selfDirectedEducation