#DemandAvoidance #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Procrastination
<sees email arrive in inbox. It looks important, but it's late on a Friday so let's ignore it for now>
Next day
<accidentally clicks on the email; immediately click away without reading, but mark it as "Unread" because I want to be responsible and shit>
Later that day
<read the email, but needing time to digest, set it to "Unread" again and mull over the implications of the parts that I understood>
I'll probably read it properly tomorrow. As long as nothing else "important" happens between now and then.
I mentioned earlier that I have this weird thing where sometimes I can't do things that I need to do. I had a period of three months where I wouldn't check my payslips, even though I needed to in case I got underpaid. I have frequent periods where I can't check my emails. This is especially if I've emailed someone I'm not close to and am expecting a reply.
As example is if I received faulty goods on Ebay. I've missed out on refunds because I send the complaint, but then I actively avoid checking for a reply.
Does anyone else experience things like this? I was looking at demand avoidance: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/demand-avoidance#What%20is%20demand%20avoidance
But I don't know if it's that or some weird manifestation of #anxiety. The best I can describe it is apprehension? It's hard to put a proper name to it. I get milder forms, where for instance if I need to transfer money to my savings and there's nothing stopping me, but I won't be able to do it. Then randomly I'll snap out of it and feel like I can do it. It's not procrastination or getting distracted. It's a different feeling from that.
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#Pathological #Demand #Avoidance (PDA) Misconceptions
#Pathologicaldemandavoidance (#PDA) is most often seen in people with #autism, but certain traits also have been seen with people with #ADHD and other sensory processing #disorders. In this video I will talk about what PDA is, why it's often searched with ADHD and autism, strategies that can help those with pathological #demandavoidance, and what it's like living with PDA.
I just learned what demand avoidance is and how I could help myself over come it.
Taking showers has been a fight ever since I remember. So I made a list of my hidden demands:
Before the shower:
Finding clean underwear and towels (laundry demand related which is a whole other list)
Brushing my hair out
- finding a brush
- dealing with painful tangles
(Could get a hair cut which includes various demands)
During the shower:
water temperature needs to be good
- waiting for the water temp to be good
- anxiety related to wasting water while waiting
I hate getting water on my face because it goes in to my eyes when I open them
I hate showering with my eyes closed because I’m afraid I’d get hurt
After the shower:
Temperature change when I get out
The feeling of being wet when I exit the bath/shower
Dealing with my wet hair - won’t use a hair dryer because i don’t like how that makes my hair feel dry and unmanageable
Feeling of my skin after I dry off with a towel
Feeling of moist clothing on my skin (I usually go out to the bedroom and completely dry off sitting in front of a fan before I put clothes on)
Still dealing with my wet hair
Interesting how there are so many things that were demanding my energy. No surprise there just the thought of it makes me want to not do it.
Created by Riko Ryuki and Sally Cat. This test includes questions relating to PDA and autism and can be used to help people better determine whether the profile of PDA and autism relate to them. This test is developed for adults, but the questions can also be used for children. There are a number of questions, separated into two groups, the first lot are for PDA traits; and the second for traits of autism. These questions show how likely people may be to be PDA, and how likely they are to be autistic. Please note this test hasn’t been devised by a professional and so will not be recognised in as a diagnostic tool. However this test has been created by two adult PDAers with the help of other PDA adults, and as such, may be helpful in self-diagnosing. The 50 PDA and 40 autism traits in this self-test are a refinement an earlier adult PDA test Riko Ryuki created in 2016. Some of those PDA traits had been gleaned from an informal PDA traits study carried out by Sally Cat in 2016 which compared the ranking of 155 potential distinct PDA traits between 90 non-PDA autistic, and a 290 PDA adult respondents (http://www.sallycatpda.co.uk/2019/06/). Autism traits were selected by Riko Ryuki from an online autism self-assement tool called the AspieQuiz (https://rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php).
@johnnyprofane1 @cinja Agree! I can see the utility of it to get past the inertia of a writing activity. And then perhaps editing or wholesale rewriting seems “easier.”
Overall the inability for LLM to fact-check themselves is both a liability of their technology and their training material. As I tell my son, never blindly trust everything you see on the Internet. That goes for you too ChatGPT! 😁
#AI #LLM #ChatGPT #DemandAvoidance #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD
Speaking of #DemandAvoidance and #ADHD, the impending return of spouse, after nearly three years of #COVID in China, has me making my latest pass through the home for decluttering, tidying, etc. I’ve heard that #AuDHD leads to “level 1” hoarding, such as having difficulty getting rid of detritus. I believe it! Once I can get past my executive issue in initiating tasks, it’s easy! 🤣
Now if only I could avoid #burnout enough to make it easy all the time!
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