Sometimes I feel like I'm resting on my laurels.

The most-important thing that I've given to the world is almost-certainly Three Rings. Three Rings facilitates several volunteer-years of volunteer work every day. Over the last 23 years it's become so essential a service that several major charities - and innumerable smaller grassroots groups - can't conceive of how they functioned without it.

A distant second is probably FreeDeedPoll.org.uk, through which I've helped tens of thousands of people to change their name for free. Plus, through this I've learned enough about the law that I've been able to support people fighting discriminatory behaviour by high street banks, and trans kids whose parents don't support their identity, and dual-citizens standing up against illiberal laws in their 'other' countries, and divorcees whose estranged exes won't let them share their name with their children.

Everything else is a far-distant third. All the voluntary work, all the open-source, all the... everything... will probably never leave a mark so significant as, y'know, those two. (If any of this sounds like a humblebrag, I'm sorry: that's truly not my intention.)

What if I waste the second half of my adult life producing... nothing? At least: nothing of even remotely-comparable value? Have I "peaked"? Have I already done the most-good for the world that I ever will? Where will that leave me in five, ten, or twenty years?

Ultimately, the problem is that I might never be "enough" for my own standards. Possibly what I need isn't to "make more things", it's to "have more therapy"!

But for now: this is what weighs on me from time to time.

#note #threeRings #deedPoll #openSource #volunteering #depression

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Laurels

<strong>Sometimes I feel like I'm resting on my laurels.</strong> The most-important thing that I've given to the world is almost-certainly <a href="https://www.threerings.org.uk/"><em>Three Rings</em></a>. <em>Three Rings</em> facilitates several volunteer-years of volunteer work <em>every day</em>. Over the last 23 years it's become so essential a service that several major charities - and innumerable smaller grassroots groups - can't conceive of how they functioned without it. A distant second is probably <a href="https://freedeedpoll.org.uk/">FreeDeedPoll.org.uk</a>, through which I've helped tens of thousands of people to change their name for free. Plus, through this I've learned enough about the law that I've been able to support people fighting discriminatory behaviour by high street banks, and trans kids whose parents don't support their identity, and dual-citizens standing up against illiberal laws in their 'other' countries, and divorcees whose estranged exes won't let them share their name with their children. Everything else is a far-distant third. All the voluntary work, all the open-source, all the... <em>everything</em>... will probably never leave a mark so significant as, y'know, those two. (If any of this sounds like a humblebrag, I'm sorry: that's truly not my intention.) What if I waste the second half of my adult life producing... nothing? At least: nothing of even remotely-comparable value? Have I "peaked"? Have I already done the most-good for the world that I ever will? Where will that leave me in five, ten, or twenty years? Ultimately, the problem is that I might never be "enough" for my own standards. Possibly what I need isn't to "make more things", it's to "have more therapy"! But for now: this is what weighs on me from time to time.

Dan Q

As somebody with an unusual #name (which I changed by #deedPoll), I'll occasionally hear people ask loaded questions like "Yeah, but what's your REAL name? The one on your #birthCertificate?" 😡

Well #FuckTheHaters. As of today, my birth certificate's been retroactively updated to show my "real" name.

Here's how I took advantage of the #law of #Scotland to do it:

🔗 https://danq.me/actually-yes

Actually, Yes! (that IS what my birth certificate says)

There's a certain kind of person who, upon hearing my unusual name, immediately asks whether that's what's on my birth certificate (with an underlying implication that it's not my 'real' name, whatever that means, if it isn't). Well: as of this week, thanks to a quirk in Scottish law, the name I've used every day for almost two decades DOES appear my birth certificate. Fuck the haters.

Dan Q

Since I relaunched freedeedpoll.org.uk three months ago (with new features) and made an explanatory demo video, the volume and kinds of questions I've been emailed has... become larger and more diverse.

I still get questions about childrens' names and citizenship and gender recognition certificates and things.

But now I also get questions like "how do I print multiple copies of the PDF?" and "why does my homemade deed poll not have a serial number?" 😂

#note #deedPoll #email #printers

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Free Deed Poll questions

Since I relaunched freedeedpoll.org.uk three months ago (with new features) and made an explanatory demo video, the volume and kinds of questions I've been emailed has... become larger and more diverse. I still get questions about childrens' names and citizenship and gender recognition certificates and things. But now I also get questions like "how do I print multiple copies of the PDF?" and "why does my homemade deed poll not have a serial number?" 😂

Dan Q

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By a convenience of dates, I can today count in exact months how long I've spent in each of three phases of my life:

1. A child, with my birth name: 216 months
2. An adult, still with my birth name: 98 month
3. An adult, now with my assumed name: 222 months

(I drew a pretty pie chart but a crash ate it.)

Or in other numbers: I've now spent ~70% of my adult life, or ~41% of my entire life, living by a name I chose for myself.

I used a deed poll to change my name. And nowadays - with several iterations of my personal documentation issued over the 18½ years I've been using my name - it doesn't even come up any more, except when somebody observes "hey, that's an unusual name you've got there!" I haven't even looked at my deed poll in over a decade, for example. My name today is more well-established as the one I was given at birth was by the time I reached adulthood.

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And so it occurred to me this weekend, while I was reimplementing FreeDeedPoll.org.uk: because I was born in Scotland, there's no reason I can't also get my name changed on the one remaining bit of documentation that still has my birth name: my birth certificate! Scottish law allows me to have this retroactively changed for a modest fee, which would result in a re-issued birth certificate that showed "Dan Q" (with my birth name included as an "also known as").

I'm flip-flopping on whether I should. Want to see my pros/cons lists?

Pros:
- It's the one last (changeable) thing that could reflect my actual name
- It feels a little weird nowadays when I bump into my old name (e.g. on my first degree certificate, which I had to dig out earlier this year for a job application)
- It'd be nice to understand the Scottish process, as (via FreeDeedPoll.org.uk) I end up helping lots of people to change their name

Cons:
- I don't need it; I've got all the documentation I could ever need and much, much more in my name; it'll probably make no material difference to my life
- It seems symbolically like a rejection of the past, or of my family, or of an attempt to rewrite history, all of which feel icky
- It's not free!

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I don't know which way I'll eventually fall on this. Considering how... inconsequential it'd be, either way, to my day-to-day life... it's surprising how much of an itch it is, at the back of my brain!

#note #q #names #deedPoll #scotland #laws #identity

Via: 🔗 https://danq.me/2025/09/08/retroactive-name-changes/

Retroactive Name Changes

By a convenience of dates, I can today count in exact months how long I've spent in each of three phases of my life: 1. A child, with my birth name: 216 months 2. An adult, still with my birth name: 98 month 3. An adult, now with my assumed name: 222 months (I drew a pretty pie chart but a crash ate it.) Or in other numbers: I've now spent ~70% of my adult life, or ~41% of my <em>entire</em> life, living by a name I chose for myself. I used a deed poll to change my name. And nowadays - with several iterations of my personal documentation issued over the 18½ years I've been using my name - it doesn't even come up any more, except when somebody observes "hey, that's an unusual name you've got there!" I haven't even looked at my deed poll in over a decade, for example. My name today is more well-established as the one I was given at birth was by the time I reached adulthood. ---- And so it occurred to me this weekend, while I was reimplementing FreeDeedPoll.org.uk: because I was born in Scotland, there's no reason I can't <em>also</em> get my name changed on the one remaining bit of documentation that still has my birth name: my birth certificate! Scottish law allows me to have this retroactively changed for a modest fee, which would result in a re-issued birth certificate that showed "Dan Q" (with my birth name included as an "also known as"). I'm flip-flopping on whether I <em>should</em>. Want to see my pros/cons lists? <strong>Pros:</strong> - It's the one last (changeable) thing that could reflect my actual name - It feels a little weird nowadays when I bump into my old name (e.g. on my first degree certificate, which I had to dig out earlier this year for a job application) - It'd be nice to understand the Scottish process, as (via FreeDeedPoll.org.uk) I end up helping lots of people to change their name <strong>Cons:</strong> - I don't need it; I've got all the documentation I could ever need and much, much more in my name; it'll probably make no material difference to my life - It seems symbolically like a rejection of the past, or of my family, or of an attempt to rewrite history, all of which feel icky - It's not free! ---- I don't know which way I'll eventually fall on this. Considering how... inconsequential it'd be, either way, to my day-to-day life... it's surprising how much of an itch it is, at the back of my brain!

Dan Q

I'm looking into changing my name though deedpoll and the forms and shit. It seems simple enough just write a declaration, fill the (3) forms... but it says I need to provide evidence of who I am which can be a passport or birth certificate.

I only have a birth certificate.... am I litrally supposed to put my actual -only- birth certificate in the post???

What if it gets lost? Like the fuck am I supposed to do then???

Maybe I'm just over-thinking. Am I just overthinking?

#trans #deedpoll

"Es gibt im englischen Recht keinen bürgerlichen Namen im engeren Sinne; legal name ist der Name, der im Rechtsverkehr von einer Person tatsächlich benutzt wird.

Dieser Person steht es frei, nach eigenem Willen den Namen zu ändern, wobei sie mit der Ausnahme, keine betrügerische Absicht mit der Namensänderung zu verfolgen, keinen normativen oder inhaltlichen Beschränkungen unterliegt." #til #DeedPoll

I've just enumerated my personal domain names. There's a lot fewer of them than there used to be! (Maybe I've finally shaken off my habit of buying a domain name for EVERYTHING. Or maybe it's just that I've embraced subdomains for more stuff. Probably the latter.)

Anyway: here's the list -

- https://danq.me and a variety of aliases (https://danq.uk, https://danq.dev, https://danq.link, https://danq.blog, https://scatmania.org); there's also like a billion subdomains in use of course, like https://things.danq.me, https://find.danq.me
- https://freedeedpoll.org.uk, which I really ought to update at some point but which still clearly helps many people
- https://dndle.app, a D&D-inspired Wordle-clone which I still get bug reports and pull requests for so clearly somebody's using it
- https://geohashing.site, the central hub of Geohashing activity worldwide
- https://egxchange.org, which hosts the most environmentally-friendly cryptocurrency wallet you'll ever see
- https://abnib.co.uk, a community of friends (also with about a billion subdomains)
- https://q-t-a.uk, my family website, which exists mostly to facilitate addressing for a stack of internal/selfhosted services
- https://rockmonkey.org.uk, which doesn't do much nowadays
- https://fleeblewidget.co.uk, my partner @fleeblewidget's blog, but I look after the domain registration
- https://textplain.blog, my plain-text blog
- https://levellers.blog, the blog of my D&D group
- https://theimprobable.blog, which I look after on behalf of my partner's brother after using it to GPS-track his adventures

I think that's all of them, but it's hard to be sure...

#note #domainNames #web #hosting #dns #dungeonsAndDragons #cryptocurrencies #blogging #geohashing #deedPoll

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Apologies in advance for any errors, typos, omissions, or unclear explanations. We've written this hastily whilst still in AuDHD burnout, fighting through brain fog and fatigue (and possible infection), after reading the latest QueerAF newsletter, as they have unknowingly made this service seem legit. We are not a lawyer and we are happy to make amendments accordingly for those who have more experience than we have from our research or notice errors / typos we've made. Also, boosts are most welcome.

Also, just to clarify, we are very much NOT bashing QueerAF. We think they're AMAZING and you should totally subscribe to their newsletter. This is just a one-off error, which we've highlighted to them, along with the GDPR and scamming implications.

The gist

Despite its official-sounding name, the UK Deed Poll Office is NOT an official government agency. They even admit as much in small print at the bottom of pretty much all their pages:

The UK Deed Poll Office is not a government agency. Our function is purely as a document provider for the self-declaration of an unenrolled deed poll.

If you look under the terms and conditions, it gets worse.

We own and operate the Website www.ukdeedpolloffice.org (“Website”). We are UK Deed Poll Office LLC, with a UK postal address at Queensway House, Queensway, Middlesbrough, TS3 8TF, UK. Our official company is based out of the United States at UK Deed Poll Office LLC, 416 W 52nd Street 323, New York, NY 10019.

Is it the only one?

When we first wrote this PSA, we thought it was, but we've since found several more, some based in the UK, scamming people into paying for unenrolled deed polls that they could do for free!!!

We doubt these are the only ones, too: just the ones we found (due to one comparing itself against the others).

Problems

GDPR

We felt the need to do this post after seeing a worrying article in this week's QueerAF newsletter:

The UK Deed Poll Office just released analysis of the trends they see when trans people change their name.

Gender identity is considered special category data under GDPR, and comes with a lot of additional legal requirements for processing.

Given that this is a scam company operating out of the US, do you really think they're going to comply with GDPR like they should do?

No: of course they won't. They already haven't. If they had, they wouldn't have been able to produce an analysis about trans people's name changes, as they shouldn't be collecting, storing, or processing such information!!!

This was data from 1,516 trans people, likely without their consent for their data to be stored and used.

Other issues

Beyond the worrying GDPR implications, unenrolled deed polls are completely free, minus printing costs, to create, but not universally accepted in all UK nations, and yet this scam company:

  • Is charging people for a free deed poll creation process.
  • Implies that you need to apply for a legal name change in all UK nations.
  • Implies that the unenrolled deed poll will be accepted in every nation within the UK.

Legal name?

Strictly speaking, the UK doesn't have a concept of a legal name or surnames: at least not like other countries do. Instead, it's just what name people know you by. So the term legal name is often used, but it just means whatever your name is. However, how you formally change your name to update IDs varies across nations.

England and Wales

You can easily change your legal name, so long as it's not for nefarious or fraudulent purposes. As TransActual summarises it:

It is a principle of the law in England and Wales that a person’s legal name can be changed simply by using a new name and becoming known by it. There is no legal requirement for a new name to be enrolled or registered.
-- TransActual - Name Changes - An overview

Scotland

Updated on 2024-12-20 based on additional info from Reddit user Neat-Bill-9229, who replied here to the version of this we posted on Reddit

It's a bit different in Scotland, as Scottish law is different to English law in terms of name changes.

The official name change route for people who were born or adopted in Scotland is listed on the changing your name page on the National Records of Scotland (NRS) website. This legally registers the name change and updates your birth certificate with your new name... and sadly the name you were "formerly known as" too 🥺

Unlike enrolled deed polls, however, the name change isn't published publicly, so this method doesn't carry the same associated risks. It's only a public record in the sense that all birth certificates are public records (i.e., someone would need to order a copy of your birth certificate). However, if you're willing to wait until you get a Gender Recognition Certificate, you can use a different route to change your name and gender on your birth certificate at the same time. Details are listed on the gender recognition page on the NRS.

Please note that you aren't required to register a change of name for it to be considered legally valid.

An easier and cheaper route for many is to change your name via a Statutory Declaration for Change of Name. It should cost no more than £10 to get a "practising solicitor, notary public, or other officer of a court authorised by law to administer an oath" to witness this. Alternatively you can ask a "Justice of the Peace" to witness your statutory declaration. You can find your local court and book an appointment on the signing documents page on the The Scottish Courts and Tribunals Service website. Please note that you may have to wait a few weeks for an available appointment, depending on your local court.

Scottish Trans has created a template that can be used by anyone 16+. We'd recommend reading all the guidance before filling it in.

Technically you shouldn't be able to use an enrolled deed poll to change your name, but only if it was signed in Scotland. If you got it signed in England or Wales, then returned to Scotland, it should in theory be accepted, as the applicable name change law depends on which nation it was signed in. It's a loophole that you can successfully use, though some institutions may still query it if it doesn't look official enough. Parchment paper is definitely recommended.

Northern Ireland

Northern Ireland is different again. You can try to use an unenrolled deed poll in theory, but you might need to apply for a name change through the General Register Office, which will cost money, and some methods may lead to registering the name change publicly.

We'd recommend reading the Rainbow Project name change page and reaching out to them for more info.

If you can get one ID updated using an unenrolled deed poll, it should be easier to get others done.

Creating a deed poll

If you do not have access to a printer, you could ask a friend if they can help you, or print from any public facility with free (or cheap) printing, like many libraries.

Although many choose to print their deed poll (or polls, if they make multiple originals) on fancy and/or thicker A4 paper (like parchment / certificate paper), this is not required. It's just to make it look more formal and less likely for be unjustly rejected when telling organisations¹, despite your right to rectification under GDPR.

Why you shouldn't enroll / register the name change

In England and Wales, avoid enrollment at all costs if you are trans or may be at risk if someone finds your new name.

Enrolling a deed poll will create a permanent searchable link between your old and new names, including a notification in the London Gazette. Anyone could find out your old name with only a few seconds of web searching.
-- GenderKit - Name change by deed poll - Warning²

It's slightly different in Scotland and Northern Ireland:

In Scotland and Northern Ireland, a name change carried out without a GRC will also cause your birth certificate to display both your old and new names. -- GenderKit - Registering a name change - Warning²

Your birth certificate is considered a public record, but someone would need to order it to see your former names. If you avoid the registration route, you can update your birth certificate without it deadnaming you after you've got a GRC.

Removing name change from public record?

If you have already enrolled your name change via deed poll, you can ask The Gazette to remove your name change details, but you may not be able to remove the public record of your name change 😔

You could try to ask under the GDPR right to be forgotten, but we have no idea if that would be successful.

If you wish to remove your previous names on your birth certificate after registering a name change in Scotland or Northern Ireland, you will likely need a GRC to ask for this.

Where can I find more info?

Please check out the following links. They're not exhaustive, but should put you in the right direction.

#DeedPoll #UKDeedPollOffice #scam #UK #England #Wales #Scotland #NorthernIreland #NameChange #trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #LGBTQIA2S+

¹ The current GenderKit page has been heavily redacted. It now links to a TransActual page.
² This page no longer exists on GenderKit, where the content is now being maintained on the TransActual website. However, we've used the archived links here, as they're very helpful.

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GPs will often provide a form for you to fill in when you request to change your name, title and/or gender on their records. You do not need a deed poll in order to change your name with them.

Read more at https://www.transactual.org.uk/gp-support

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