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Leading online #policy & #enforcement for 40 years. I left as head of Safety and Advocacy for #OkCupid after 9 years with #MatchGroup where I worked in T&S, data governance, legal compliance, DEI, realistic wellness, and ethics then became a #Whistleblower

Formerly worked in IT Security. Probably the world's first non-US-government hacker-catcher, head of commercial security for British Telecom, 2nd (and longest serving) #IRC Operator outside of Finland - And all that #MUD & #MIST stuff.

Old posts: https://mstdn.social/@Lorry/

Why I left Match Group?

. https://bit.ly/dateinside (BBC Documentary)
. https://bit.ly/okcupid-safety-1
. https://bit.ly/okcupid-safety-2
. https://bit.ly/okcupid-safety-3
. https://bit.ly/dating-site-ripoff

You get the idea!

Old man shouts at clouds:

. First article I wrote online that still exists: 1988
. Oldest email address I use daily: 1989
. First Phrack hate: 1991 (Phrack 35)
. Oldest domain name: 1992
. First academic paper on social media: 1992

My Webloghttps://superhighwayman.com
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Github (emptyish!)https://github.com/Hacklet
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This is where I need #KevinMitnick - Mr #Mitnick had copies of all my legitimate old licenses :)

#Hacking #Archives

Where are all my #VMS license PAKs when I need them!

I used to have boxes of the damned things.

#Retrocomputing #losttechnology #Archaeology #Librarians

@strypey I nearly joined #Chatroulette, but then Covid and the Ukraine war started, so that never went anywhere. I had a different direction I wanted to take them, though.

#Bumble #TrustAndSafety ? Well, the industry isn't exactly full of dating site whistleblowers, but safety workers in the industry do talk to me. I know more than I would ever want to know about the inside workings of most dating sites, and sadly. It's not really an amazing revelation that Bumble is as bad as the rest, though.

None of the dating sites puts more than a veneer of effort into T&S. They weigh the cost of litigation against the cost of actually doing the work, and so far, litigation costs have always been lower.

@screwlisp @strypey I will read it properly tomorrow, but Bumble is dire at Trust and Safety.

Whitney (Bumble) is sensible in one sense, in that she has seen that dating apps are going nowhere and they have broken themselves with the swipe model - So last I heard, she was going for a more in-person networking and activity friendship model. But I dunno, I am not at all convinced. She's a billionaire anyway, so what does she care?

Computer #dating has a pretty long history of success, and the model didn't change drastically from its invention over 60 years ago (I wrote my first one in 1983, so I was late to the game!) until it had to be adapted for small devices and short attention spans. I imagine there's still space for going back to the old model, and taking it out of the hands of Match Group would be great.

That being said, these days the cool kids are meeting via hashtags and mutual interest site areas - if someone is looking for their perfect Swiftie, Pokemon fan partner, then they are going to look at people with a history of posting and commenting on both of those topics on TikTok (for example), where the interest can't be faked. It's really a very good, naturally made model that a commercial site can't replicate.

I suppose the next move would be for hashtags like #looking or #available to evolve and be properly adopted, then it would be even more in the open. For all I know, they already have! I am somewhat of a dinosaur outside of my own areas :)

@philpem @bitsavers @davebarnes @jguillaumes @cstross copyright isn't really an issue for me on this one :)

"Late‑diagnosed adults describe finally learning they are autistic as both relief and grief: relief at having a name and community that fit, and grief for all the years spent fighting the unnecessary battles."

Yes!!! But not so much "grief" as RESENTMENT, for how unnecessary it all was and is. 😡

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-different/202603/epistemic-injustice-the-great-gaslighting-of-autistic-lives

Epistemic Injustice: The Great Gaslighting of Autistic Lives

Epistemic injustice is the assumption that people, usually those with less power, are unable to correctly understand their own lives. It takes a tragic toll on autistic lives.

Psychology Today
@holdenweb ah was Tony his name? Andrew felt wrong but memory is weird 😁

#BarackObama honors #RobertMueller, calling him “one of the finest directors in the history of the FBI” and praising his legacy of service and integrity. #Mueller #Politics #Legacy

In his statement, BarackObama said Mueller helped transform the FBI “after 9/11 and saving countless lives,” and highlighted his “relentless commitment to the rule of law” and “unwavering belief in our bedrock values.”... https://instagr.am/p/DWK5hB1DHkj/

voteinorout on Instagram: "#BarackObama honors #RobertMueller, calling him “one of the finest directors in the history of the FBI” and praising his legacy of service and integrity. #Mueller #Politics #Legacy In his statement, BarackObama said Mueller helped transform the FBI “after 9/11 and saving countless lives,” and highlighted his “relentless commitment to the rule of law” and “unwavering belief in our bedrock values.” Mueller, born August 7, 1944, served as FBI director from 2001 to 2013 and later led the 2017–2019 special counsel investigation into Russian election interference. Obama added that he and Michelle “send our condolences to Bob’s family, and everyone who knew and admired him.” Help this information get to more voters. 🇺🇸 A well-informed electorate is a prerequisite to Democracy.—Thomas Jefferson"

592 likes, 8 comments - voteinorout on March 21, 2026: "#BarackObama honors #RobertMueller, calling him “one of the finest directors in the history of the FBI” and praising his legacy of service and integrity. #Mueller #Politics #Legacy In his statement, BarackObama said Mueller helped transform the FBI “after 9/11 and saving countless lives,” and highlighted his “relentless commitment to the rule of law” and “unwavering belief in our bedrock values.” Mueller, born August 7, 1944, served as FBI director from 2001 to 2013 and later led the 2017–2019 special counsel investigation into Russian election interference. Obama added that he and Michelle “send our condolences to Bob’s family, and everyone who knew and admired him.” Help this information get to more voters. 🇺🇸 A well-informed electorate is a prerequisite to Democracy.—Thomas Jefferson".

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@larsbrinkhoff @icm I made a new mboots.mac which should fix the compatibility issues with the 2 versions mentioned on that page - But by those naming conventions (mud84 and mud86) I am on mud90 but the updated mboots.mac should fix 84 to 86.

If 86 has Valley added in (which I think it does) then my version of MUD1v3 is very similar to it, it was just mostly updated to add new wizard graves and a few new things. I was very hands off on MUD1 because even in 1990 it was a museum piece.

Don't forget to tell your friends when you think they're doing something cool. They will melt into a warm puddle of goo and the world will be a better place. <3