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Alice. 🇨🇦20h ago

So, there’s a lot going on. Pam #Bondi has been thrown on the sacrificial pyre, so that’s fun. Tel Aviv was pounded by #Iran, and the US media isn’t reporting it. The president of these united states has lost any semblance of rationality, and an abandoned Victorian doll haunted by the souls of unrepentant nazis (Stephen miller) is our shadow president.

But I want to talk about Byron #Noem. And here’s why. I’m deeply uncomfortable with how “our” side is dealing with this. This was our chance to shine. We should have been out here saying that as kinks go, cross dressing is pretty fucking vanilla.

We should have used this as a chance for pushing acceptance. Yes, Kristi Noem is a monster who signed anti LGBTQ laws as a governor, and who had the audacity to lecture us while she was mile-high clubbing on tax dollars.

But we have the opportunity here to be the moral actors. If you are an ally, don’t let the right use this to further demonize #LGBTQA, or kinks for that matter.

Frank Skornia 1d ago

@MissConstrue I saw that news and just shrugged. We should go back to talking about how Noem should be on trial for ordering inhumane crimes.

:EA DATA. SF:17h ago

@fskornia @MissConstrue me, too. I literally do not care and wish the same level of "you do you" to be afforded to me.

I haven't seen any negative reactions because I didn't seek out any updates after seeing a few headlines.

I'm not surprised there was blowback, but I didn't realize "we" were participating.

Like, "you go, girl; you deserve a less evil wife".

MissConstrue 16h ago

@jrdepriest @fskornia

Oh yeah, I want tribunals for all of them. Everybody involved in this administration. Everyone who bribed this administration. Everyone around the administration who acted on those bribes. Just...erybody.

@MissConstrue Yeah, I've been similarly disappointed by the way (some) people have treated it. Yes, there's some hypocrisy here, but the core thing is a really quite vanilla thing that's only notable in this instance *because of the politics of the person he's married to*.

@aoanla @MissConstrue
"Married a monster": nation blinks
"Gets their kink exposed": nation loses their shit.

I can't even understand how we got there.

the elder sea 12h ago

@pa
Puritans.

They're monsters with a strong hatred of anything sex.
@aoanla @MissConstrue

voldemorticia 1d ago

@MissConstrue THANK YOU

@MissConstrue
I don't think it's the cross-dressing per se so much as the hypocrisy.

That said, most of the Democrats are probably as bigoted as the Republicans. And certainly FAR more hypocritical.

Johnny von Awesome 1d ago

@MissConstrue When the news broke I told my wife that the dude should have been a Democrat because (in general) we don't give a shit.

I will laugh because of the hypocrisy but i don't care what he does in private as long as he stops trying to hurt people for also doing what they want in private.

MissConstrue 1d ago

@mek2600 exactly this.

Tekniquelly correct 1d ago

@MissConstrue Eh. While I agree, I put this in the same category as finding that, say, a Mormon legislator likes to drink whiskey. I couldn't care less that they like to drink whiskey. They're a grown-up. They can do that. What I heavily mind is that they do this while screaming that any other adult who drinks whiskey is a monster we should banish from society.

It's 100% the hypocrisy. If cross dressing is how he deals with being married to Noem, good for him. Now let others do it, too.

MissConstrue 1d ago

@tek while I agree in principle, I see it as, if we found out Kristi was a drag king in her spare time, then by all means fire with all barrels, but her husband is just an insurance salesman.

Can we fault him for staying married to puppy killer hypocrite? Certainly. But spousal abuse is real, and it’s not always men. We have no idea what could make him tolerate her for all these years, or why he didn’t leave to find his own bliss. (Imagine trying to escape an abuser who has all the power of the State.)

I don’t feel like I have data points to cast judgement on Mr. Noem, but I feel quite certain in my willingness to throw stones at Mrs Noem.

Tekniquelly correct 1d ago

@MissConstrue Totally fair! It's easy to say he deserves this, but we have no way of knowing that. Perhaps he supports her completely; perhaps he's already planning his escape. I certainly don't know.

That said, I certainly understand the schadenfreude. I don't think it's funny that an adult likes to cross dress. I see why others think it's funny that this particular adult likes to, given that we don't have a reason to suspect he's their involuntarily.

But either way, way, don't shame him.

Jennifer Kayla | Theogrin 🦊1d ago

Yes, please. If he wants to crossdress, by all means -- if he wants to go full queen, more power. If we're going to stigmatize him at all, let it be for actions like staying with and encouraging Mrs. Puppy Killer, not for something harmless and fun like playing dress-up or getting into the sissy community.

Carolyn 23h ago

@theogrin @MissConstrue I wish the same attention were given to the rapists, pedophiles, those who commit nonconsensual, criminal activities.

MissConstrue 23h ago

@CStamp @theogrin
💯

Jennifer Kayla | Theogrin 🦊22h ago

@CStamp @MissConstrue

Sure, but it is in the nature of the Calvinistic patriarchy to criminalize help, while lionizing harm.

grrl_aex 1d ago

"..an abandoned Victorian doll haunted by the souls of unrepentant nazis.."

Girl that is fantastic omg! 🤣

Tho...seems like that applies to a whole lot more of them than just Miller tbh.... Got a whole dolltown of these ghouls.

as for the crossdressing. to me (and most that *i* saw coming from the lgbt community) that was all about the incredible irony and arch hypocrisy on display. But if there was any shaming of this -as-crossdressing-then ya, that's plain wrong, agreed.

MissConstrue 1d ago

@kitkat_blue Yeah, I wanted to tread really carefully because I'm only the mom of a member of the transcommunity, I'm not myself part of the LBGTQA community, and I don't want to overstep.

The hypocrasy is mind blowing, like how do you even live with that kind of cognitive dissonance?

I have opinions, but it's more about the bioethics of the community Bryon was a part of than it is the behavior or desires of the people therein. And I'm not well educated enough about the community to state those opinions categorically without research.

charlesmagne1 1d ago

luv kinky kinks

GJ Groothedde 🇪🇺1d ago

@MissConstrue This is precisely what I'd been thinking, but articulated way better.

MissConstrue 23h ago

@Eetschrijver Aw, thanks. :)

Netraven 1d ago

@MissConstrue literally flood congress with dildos of every color.

MissConstrue 23h ago

@Netraven OMBob, imagine the fun we could have if we could convince a factory to sell to us at cost. Just barrels and barrels of dildos being delivered to offices. Oh...heh. :)

Netraven 23h ago

@MissConstrue every now and then a dildo factory goes out of business and they leave their casts behind.

Lisa Melton 1d ago

@MissConstrue This. 💯

Laura "Tegan" Gjovaag ⛈ 🐸23h ago

@MissConstrue
The only thing I judge him for is staying married to Kristi Noem. Everything else is up in the air, and his kinks are so far down the list of potential problems I have with him that news of them just made me shrug and say, "Okay."

Eric the half-a-bee 23h ago

“an abandoned Victorian doll haunted by the souls of unrepentant nazis (Stephen miller)”

Well done!! 👍👍😱

@MissConstrue
I haven't said a word about that to anybody because, frankly, I don't care what he does for fun. But the hypocrisy does rankle a bit.

cognitively accessible math 20h ago

@bruce @MissConstrue I LOVE the idea of talking about acceptance b/c they won't know what to do with that.

I Voted for McGovern 22h ago

@MissConstrue
it ain't the kinks, it's the hypocrisy, the endless hypocrisy of rounding people up, to imprison and even kill, because of the color of their immigrant skin and doing it under the banner of "Homeland Security" as if their Norske immigrant grandparents somehow in just a couple generations earned them the right to call America *their* homeland, it's the hypocrisy, that & the ignorance of these 2, smart enough to take millions, every damn year, in farm welfare tho! it ain't the kinks

MissConstrue 22h ago

@goatrodeo No, I truly understand the anger! Kristi has been a force for evil for decades, and he enabled that, for whatever reason.

SueDiOh 10h ago

@goatrodeo @MissConstrue Stupidest thing ever, to judge a person on their skin tone. As if anybody gets to choose. As if they chose theirs.

@MissConstrue Sam Seder & Emma Vigeland discussed this on The Majority Report the other day.

Sam: Honestly, I don't want to kink shame the guy. (He thinks #Noem leaked it. )

Vigeland "If they weren't Republicans, we wouldn't make fun of this at all. Like they could have a lavender marriage & have her have her own thing outside of it & him do his thing. And they want to raise their kids together. That rocks."

Being cool with Bryon's kink let's us focus on Kristi & Corey's real corruption.

Siobhan 20h ago

Exactly!

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i'm not sure about our, but my side is trying to avoid humanizing the partner who supported noem. just because i vibe the kink, does not mean i should overlook the partner support.

much love to all flavors of consensual kink.💜

still hating fascist collaborators. even the fun ones.

MissConstrue 17h ago

@melioristicmarie Yeah, it's a really fine line I'm trying to walk. I despise all that the Noems represent, and yet I can't help but feel pity for someone living with that sort of cognitive dissonance, and have to remind myself that unlike all the transkids forced into the closet, he has the privilege of walking away and doing whatever he wants.

I think what set me off initially, is that I was seeing (not on fedi) much "tee-hee isn't it funny he wore ladies clothes."

And I mean, now that I've seen the pictures, he didn't even do that. Monty Python did better crossdressing.

More than anything, perhaps it was a statement to myself to make sure that my comments about it were about *him* and not a reflection upon other people who believe there's nothing wrong with something a bit lacy.

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@MissConstrue 💜

folks who teehee an other's consensual kink are assholes. they are for me, in the same boat as the bullies at my offspring's school who belittle kids who play games, carry fun character backpacks and the like.

my distain for their vile anti-social normalization runs deep. they are fascist flavored pro-pretty-only people and my bite at their sort of comments is direct. they are not fine when they cross the line.

growl.

(thank you for tooting more kindly than i)
💜

CaliCarol 19h ago

Everyone on our side I've heard from are saying just that. Private conduct is just that whike wondering what monster disclosed this poor fellows secrets.

MissConstrue 17h ago

@jawarajabbi Well, knowing intelligence, this has been known all along, and someone was waiting for the right moment to stick the knife in.

IMHO, There is absolutely zero chance that intelligence agencies of at least 7 nations didn't know about this before she was confirmed. Whether it ever traveled up the chain to leadership? No way of knowing. But I refuse to believe the panopticon didn't know. Someone was holding this as either blackmail or for this very event.

But then, I'm not an intelligence operative, and I have read probably far too many spy novels while waiting at airports pre cellphone era.

CaliCarol 16h ago

Agreed this was released strategically by someone. I'd be disappointed if it wasn't Iran if I'm being honest. I know they're assholes but they certainly can be justified in fucking with us now. I just don't think as far as I can see that it's getting much purchase in the pro-democracy media that I am centered in.

MissConstrue 5h ago

@jawarajabbi yeah, there is the possibility that because I also pay attention to what influencers on the right are doing, when I see anything that even whiffs of right wing propagandists, I try to preemptively shut it down.

And when the story first broke, there was a fair amount of teehee nonsense from pundits with video presence, but it seems to have dissipated under scrutiny.

Ontario Canuck 🇨🇦🏳️‍🌈18h ago

Yes, we are allies of the sharing and caring kinksters. But we must NEVER ally ourselves with the Nazi kinksters. In no way, shape, or form are they one of us no matter how many fake boobs they don. Give your head a shake!

Baloo Uriza 18h ago

@MissConstrue I think most folks were laughing at the hypocrisy, not the kink.

@MissConstrue I mean I think the bigger problem is she had a basically public side piece who's a coworker

if her husband wants to wear panties to help him deal with that, God bless

they should have split up and found separate happiness years ago rather than being in a relationship so fucked up that its collapse impacted the nation

but you can say that about a lot of terrible people in public life

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@MissConstrue thanks. A thousand, a billion times. Thanks.