Kevin BeaumontJun 26, 2025

Help request. My brother has Stage 4 colorectal cancer.

His life insurance has refused to pay out on a technicality, meaning he and his loved ones cannot afford the mortgage on their home.

I've never asked for anything in return for infosec stuff, but if you have anything spare, please chuck it this direction instead:

https://gofund.me/b9a0d8f4

Show threadKevin BeaumontJun 29, 2025
50% of the way there on my brothers fund raiser, after his life insurance claim was denied — thanks to those who helped and spread the word. https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-secure-my-familys-future-during-my-battle-with-stage-4?attribution_id=sl:344b7570-4e9d-4850-9689-08f015203bd9&ts=1750936594&utm_campaign=pd_ss_icons&utm_content=amp13_t1-amp14_t2&utm_medium=customer&utm_source=copy_link
Show threadKevin BeaumontFeb 2

Thank you to everybody who donated to this. My brother died last night. Enough was raised to save the house for his family, which means a thing.

Also, Fuck Cancer.

Show threadKevin Beaumont
I wrote this about my brother.
Feb 4 at 1:03pmWeb
Show threadEric HogueFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Sorry for your loss.
Show threadDan QFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Sorry for your loss. I'm glad you got to share that final meal with your brother, though; even if it was a bit awkward, it's time that you got to spend together.
Show threadAethonFeb 4

@GossiTheDog

Seen. My condolences friend. Thank you for sharing.

Show threadMetacurityFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Oh, Kevin, I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful thing to have been there for him in the end -- it is one of life's most deeply human experiences. I hope you and your family find solace in one another. Hugs.
Show thread🐦‍🔥nemo™🐦‍⬛ 🇺🇦🍉Feb 4
@GossiTheDog 🙏 💚 RIP
Show threadCraig StewartFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I can offer nothing but my condolences. I am sorry for your loss.
Show threadAlesandro Ortiz 🇵🇷🏳️‍🌈Feb 4
@GossiTheDog Sorry for your loss. 🖤
Show threadJoris MeysFeb 4

@GossiTheDog I don't know your brother, but if he's anything like mine he embraced your awkwardness with all the brotherly love. Sometimes it's the things we didn't say that are the most important. You were there, and that's all he needed to hear.

Very sorry for your loss.

Show threadDave Wilburn Feb 4

@GossiTheDog

I see the hurt you feel through your writing, both in the loss you feel for your brother and in your own feelings of inadequacy and self-judgment. Caring for someone in their final days and confronting mortality can make you feel that way.

I lost my father two months ago and was caregiver for him in his final months. I know all these feelings intimately.

Your feelings are valid and I'm glad you're expressing them, but the guilt and feelings of inadequacy are not grounded in truth. Please know there are people here that care about you, and that you're worthy of that love.

May his memory be a blessing.

Show threadBrian ClarkFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Rest in Peace Steve 🙏
Show threadLuka RubinjoniFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I'm sorry for your loss.
Show threadZack WhittakerFeb 4
@GossiTheDog this was beautiful writing. may his memory be a blessing.
Show threadGinevraCatFeb 4
@GossiTheDog 🫂
Show threadGinevraCatFeb 4
@GossiTheDog This is a beautiful tribute. I am so sorry for your loss.
Show threadGlennWFeb 4
@GossiTheDog RIP
Show threadJamie DowlingFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
Show threadSecuropeanFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Life is tough at times, sorry for your loss.
Show threadT2RFeb 4
@GossiTheDog You have my deepest sympathies Mr. Beaumont. It was well written.
Show threadAxel 🚴😷🐧🐪⌨ | #WeAreNatenomFeb 4
@GossiTheDog: My sincere condolences and sorry for your loss. Such situations seem often easier for the person having cancer than for the family and friends. (Saying that as someone who had cancer and survived — granted, it was a variant with 95% survival rate, but I saw how the situation was more draining for family and friends than it was for me, except maybe the treatments themselves.)
Show threadArnold KnijnFeb 4
@GossiTheDog condolences, sorry for your loss. But get out more often!
Show threadDibsFeb 4
@GossiTheDog beautiful. Sorry for your loss 🤍
Show threadDoug EversonFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I’m so sorry for your loss, Kevin.
Show thread[HANDMAIDEN] xanFeb 4
@GossiTheDog brother you have to be kinder to yourself. we all experience life in different ways, and that's just another aspect of the beautiful diversity of human experience. i don't think your brother would have wanted to spend those last precious few moments with you if he didn't also see you as awesome and cool
Show threadzaicurityFeb 4
@GossiTheDog so sorry for your loss. It’s good to hear that you were there for him.
Show threadRyanBFeb 4
@GossiTheDog ❤️
Show threadCopyCat33Feb 4
@GossiTheDog Sorry for your loss
Show threadRowinSpeezFeb 4
@GossiTheDog sorry for your loss man, sounds like a great brother and that was a touching post.
Show threadWowSuchCyberFeb 4
@GossiTheDog hey man, sorry for your loss. I find you very fun and creative and interesting, even from behind a computer screen, you are obviously a good person, dare to believe it and and be proud of yourself. And I'm sure he was proud of you as a brother too.
Show threadmxFeb 4
@GossiTheDog This is heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time... just like the life itself sometimes. My condolences to you and your family!
Show threadOli PasseyFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have people around you at the moment.
Show threadWayne DixonFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I’m so so sorry to hear this. Cancer sucks.
Show threadMichael K JohnsonFeb 4

I also have lost a brother. (Different circumstances. But I'm no stranger to the pain.)

I'll join the chorus here: Your brother was telling you that you, yourself, are and have been good enough. It's not about how witty you can be, it's not about whether you can entertain him. Sometimes love is being able to be together comfortably in silence.

Reading between the lines, it feels like your brother wanted to give you a parting gift. It's so easy to beat ourselves down for the things we know we don't do well at. You have honored his life, and it sure looks to me like your brother didn't think of you as inadequate. It's so hard to think this way in the face of loss, but... when you earn something, it's not a gift. So honor his life by taking your own feelings of inadequacy as a basis for his gift, and keep remembering from this that your brother loved you and thought you were someone he wanted to give this last gift to. He felt that you were worth the last gift.

More generally, I've never felt adequate when taking to or attending anyone in their last days.

Sometimes, dying people are in a place to give the best gifts. When my brother passed suddenly in an accident, it was my mother's physician, himself dying of advanced, painful cancer, who gave me some of the best gift of himself, as we talked about my brother, and I'll always be grateful to him for that gift. Unearned. Undeserved. ❤️

Show threadDan CornellFeb 4

@GossiTheDog I'm so damned sorry for your loss. Fuck cancer

And don't be so hard on yourself. You showed up for your brother and that's what matters

Show threadBecky PinkardFeb 4
@GossiTheDog Oh mate - you’re an amazing human being, a wonderful friend and have a heart much, much bigger than that Omaze house. Being introverted or even awkward doesn’t take away from any of that. Just like your brother did, you make the world a better place - and certainly a more secure one for literally millions!!! I’m sending massive virtual hugs your way.
Show threadTom DewarFeb 4
@GossiTheDog ah, shit. Sorry, man. Condolences.
Show threadgeofurbFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I don't know you in person and I didn't know your brother, but it sounds like he was grateful to spend some time with you and he wanted to relate better to you. I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think he regretted that meal. I hope that you will not either.
Show threadLuke KaniesFeb 4
@GossiTheDog 💔
Show threadTTG_42Feb 4
@GossiTheDog 🙏🥲
Show threadGabriel Adrian SamfiraFeb 4
@GossiTheDog 🫂
Show threadjnazarioFeb 4
@GossiTheDog i'm sorry to read this. loving tribute to your brother, glowing words for him. your love and respect for him is clear.
Show threadjoe aka Minami-oFeb 4
@GossiTheDog I'm sorry for your loss.
Show threadGleb DolgichFeb 5
@GossiTheDog Very sorry for you loss.
Show threadJeffreyFeb 5
@GossiTheDog sorry for your loss.
Show threadTony ShannonFeb 5
@GossiTheDog sorry for your loss and best wishes to you and your family
Show threadJennifer Moore 😷Feb 5

@GossiTheDog

Sending love to everyone bereaved. Glad you were able to spend that time with him, and that you were able to help the family to keep the house.

Show threadGarretSidzakaFeb 5
@GossiTheDog
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Show threadBen RosengartFeb 6
@GossiTheDog @NaClKnight I’m sorry for your loss, Kevin. May his memory be a blessing.
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@GossiTheDog I’m sorry for your loss, Kevin ❤️‍🩹

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