I never really thought that much about it.
Like sure, the Chinese acupuncturist uncle is always going to be a busybody about my personal life (they all are)
The eyebrow threading aunty always wants to know when I’m going to marry a man (and when I tell her im gay, wants to know everything about my wife)
I feel like there’s a shared experience in some ways especially among immigrants of ‘our families are like this’ and ‘our immigrants lives are like this’ that doesn’t really have to be said. It feels pretty nice to be able to connect with other people who have shared experiences in this way.
There are some things I think are individual / specific to me or my experience. Not sharing it doesn’t mean I don’t get to be an individual, it just means that there are actually many, many aspects in which I enjoy being a part of many communities, and I don’t need to be at the center of it.