RE: https://mastodon.bsd.cafe/@stefano/115893474212360253

UPDATE: I just had a talk with two of the owners (whom I've known for years) and one of the young developers who was on yesterday's call. She confirmed that this manager's behavior was unmanageable. High-strung and narcissistic, he had apparently been let go from his previous company due to his inability to work with colleagues and owners alike. It seems he was even trying to boss the owners around.

To make a long story short, the entire sysadmin team threatened to quit if I stopped collaborating with the company. As a result, the owners summoned the manager in the late morning, and he resigned. They are reverting to the previous management structure (led by one of the owners). They might drop a few projects, but they said they prefer returning to a more "human" way of running the business - which is what always set them apart in the past.

I told them I'll think about it. If things are truly as they say (and I have no reason to doubt them yet), I'll propose a 6-month trial collaboration to see how things actually evolve. I'm aware it's easy to "pass the buck" - was it really just the manager's fault, or are the owners using him as a scapegoat now that things went south? However, given our history, I'm willing to give them the benefit of the doubt for now.

#IT #FreelanceLife #WorkLifeBalance #ToxicManagement #TechLife #Consulting #SelfEmployed

Hey fellow #AuDHD and/or #selfEmployed folks!

I love being self-employed because my ADHD just doesn't let me work on someone else's schedule. I thrive on the fact that I'm my own boss and that as long as I always keep deadlines and quality standards, I can structure my work according to my health and needs.

However, I've been struggling lately with separating work from free time. Since I'm able to work at an irregular schedule of my own choosing, I technically always feel like I'm 'on call'. I can never clear my head, go home and say 'I'm off the clock now' like regular employees.

I've been thinking about a few ways to tackle this issue myself.

I could of course designate a certain time span as 'work time' and set boundaries that way. But that'd defeat the entire advantage of being self-employed, that being that I work on my own spontaneous schedule. I need the ability to say "I'll work from midnight til 3 AM tonight", "I'll be able to do a 9–5 today because my brain's feeling really good today", or even "I can't work today at all". With a set schedule, I can't do this.

I might split 'on-call and available for e-mails' time from 'get work done' time, because the former is usually what causes the anxiety.

I'm also thinking about using separate user accounts for work and personal computing to further separate the two worlds; but without clearly defined times for boundaries, that'd just mean I'd constantly check the work account regardless, anxious that I'm missing important messages.

Do any of you have experience with this and could perhaps give me some advice?

#ADHD #MentalHealth #Work #Autism

UPDATE: I just had a talk with two of the owners (whom I've known for years) and one of the young developers who was on yesterday's call. She confirmed that this manager's behavior was unmanageable. High-strung and narcissistic, he had apparently been let go from his previous company due to his inability to work with colleagues and owners alike. It seems he was even trying to boss the owners around.

To make a long story short, the entire sysadmin team threatened to quit if I stopped collaborating with the company. As a result, the owners summoned the manager in the late morning, and he resigned. They are reverting to the previous management structure (led by one of the owners). They might drop a few projects, but they said they prefer returning to a more "human" way of running the business - which is what always set them apart in the past.

I told them I'll think about it. If things are truly as they say (and I have no reason to doubt them yet), I'll propose a 6-month trial collaboration to see how things actually evolve. I'm aware it's easy to "pass the buck" - was it really just the manager's fault, or are the owners using him as a scapegoat now that things went south? However, given our history, I'm willing to give them the benefit of the doubt for now.

UPDATE: One of the company owners (whom I've known for many years and is a good person) has asked to speak with me in about fifteen minutes. I've agreed. I'm curious to see what he has to say. I'll update this post after the call.

Original post:

Yesterday I lost a client. And I couldn't be happier about it.

It's a long-standing client, but the management changed a few months ago. On Monday, they requested an emergency intervention, which I handled immediately.

On Tuesday (yesterday, evening), they asked for a non-urgent enhancement to be closed by Wednesday evening. I explained that due to various reasons (including urgent family matters), I wouldn't be able to finish the task before Friday. That's when the lecturing started: they told me they set tight deadlines even for non-emergencies because "that's the proper way to do things", and anyone working with them must respect them without exception.

I requested a video call to clarify. I explained that the work requires nearly a full day and that I simply couldn't close it by Wednesday. Even the physical time required to copy the data exceeded their deadline. But the new management believes that by applying pressure, you can overcome anything. Even the laws of physics.

Their response was sarcastic: "Our requests take priority, even if you are dying". I smiled and reiterated that I had no other way. "We will therefore have to find a new consultant who respects our timing", they said.

My response: "Okay. Our agreement expired on 31st December. I was waiting for a renewal, but it never arrived. Meaning, I have no legal obligations toward you. You have the data, the passwords, everything. Have a great day.".

The manager, annoyed and failing to understand the implications, replied: "Fine, we’ll look for someone younger with fewer family ties to manage.".

This morning, the phone rang. It was the manager, asking me to reconsider. His tone remained contemptuous, so I told him my decision was final. Two minutes later, I got a call from their biggest client - the one responsible for over 50% of their revenue. They had been notified I was leaving and informed the company they would also leave if I was no longer the one supervising their machines.

I called the manager back, friendly, trying to see if they were willing to change their attitude - to move from peremptory orders to requests between human beings. He started talking about "suing for damages" if they lost their main client because of me (to be clear: I am not taking that client for myself).

I don’t know how this story will evolve, but right now, I'm just enjoying a breath of fresh air outside my window.

#IT #FreelanceLife #WorkLifeBalance #ToxicManagement #TechLife #Consulting #SelfEmployed

Pros of being a #selfemployed #streamer:

I am watching #AGDQ2026 as part of work/research

Cons of being a self-employed streamer:

I am practicing Bubsy (SNES) for tonight's stream, also as part of work/research.

It's not Christmas time, it's bookkeeping time.

#selfemployed

Fellow #SelfEmployed #MedicalEditors, #ScienceEditors, & #AcademicEditors, you need to read this entire Bluesky thread about #reference list #fakery created by #AI. #Researcher#authors aren’t verifying or reading what they cite as source papers. https://bsky.app/profile/benpatrickwill.bsky.social/post/3mae76wbmcs2n
Ben Williamson (@benpatrickwill.bsky.social)

Closing out my year with a journal editor shocker 🧵 Checking new manuscripts today I reviewed a paper attributing 2 papers to me I did not write. A daft thing for an author to do of course. But intrigued I web searched up one of the titles and that's when it got real weird...

Bluesky Social

Dành cho freelancer! Ứng dụng FreelancerHealth giúp tính toán chi phí bảo hiểm y tế sau thuế một cách chính xác. 8 người dùng đầu tiên sẽ được dùng miễn phí trọn đời để test ứng dụng. Ứng dụng dùng Python, Supabase và Vercel.
#freelancer #baohiem #taxes #thuế #ACA #selfemployed

https://www.reddit.com/r/SideProject/comments/1pezdr1/i_watched_my_selfemployed_friend_get_hit_with_a/

@miya I believe for a lot of people it really is that easy theres a lot of drop in floss software replacements. But relearning workflows probably means lost productivity and revenue. It sucks that capitalism puts people on a treadmill to survive even if theyre self employed. A rational economy would have ditched windows for linux years ago

#FLOSS #Windows #Linux #Capitalism #SelfEmployed

uhm fiverr is just too weird, not going there. #freelance #selfemployed #gigeconomy #upwork