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Front PageGerman man picks apart the American habit of smiling at strangers in the most German way
https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/why-germans-dont-smile-at-strangers
People have newfound empathy for Boomers after video reveals the world they grew up in
https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/boomer-childhood-reality-video
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50 Cent is wondering if Rick Ross was hugging up on a man?!
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Cadi Gwiddon 🏳️⚧️🏴☠️🏳️🌈Surprises are Culturally Normalized Violence
We are all intentional beings, we must exercise our agency to feel empowered in our own lives and to actualize our truest sense of self.
As intentional beings, when we meet each other out in the world, we must respect that we are co-creating this life by respecting each others choice and freedom to do as we will. To, by word or action, disallow or invalidate the choice of another being is to do violence to them.
When we plan a surprise for someone, we remove their ability to choose. We can get lost in our own feelings about the surprise, the look on their face when, how meaningful we think the gift will be to them (our to our self), thinking they will love this.
You may have no idea what traumas someone has or what triggers lie undiscovered, they may not even know themselves. You have no idea what landmines you may step on that will hurt them, which is probably not what you intend.
As a culture in the West, we normalize being grateful for gifts, being grateful for someone expending resources on your behalf, especially if you didn't ask for it. Your choice is removed by surprises because you were never even given the chance to say no, or even yes!
Spoil the surprise. 💬 Always ask if someone would like you to get them that thing or plan a special event for their occasion. Don't assume, a surprise is never about you, it's about the person you may hurt. 💌
#Surprises #Gifts #Violence #CulturalNorms #Essay #Musings #Agency #intentionality
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Saint ClintonWhat are some cultural norms of others that you find interesting?
Why White People Don’t Wash Their Chicken
#cultures #cultureclash #culturalnorms
https://www.levelman.com/why-white-people-dont-wash-their-chicken/
FishercatThis is exactly right.
Like diseases, toxic cultural norms don't respect any boundaries. Growing up in the US means having been socialized in a cultural broth celebrating those who ignore their personal needs in favor of whatever group(s) they're a part of. It's embedded in our aphorisms:
* No pain, no gain
* Go above and beyond
* Give 110%
Those are just the ones that came to mind quickly. I'm sure there are others.
Escaping a mindset that's deliberately inculcated in us as children is difficult, for everyone. It doesn't matter where one ends up on the political spectrum. Leftists are just as prone to that kind of toxic behavior as any fascist.
I think the first step is just recognizing and naming it for what it is: toxic bullshit priming people to allow themselves to be used as disposable resources.
If you don't have the spoons to take it on, avoid any organizations that don't explicitly recognize the danger. If you do have the spoons to deal with it, maybe look for ones that seem otherwise OK, and bring it up for discussion.
PsyPostStudy explores how culture shapes the stories we tell about adversity https://www.psypost.org/study-explores-how-culture-shapes-the-stories-we-tell-about-adversity/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #CulturalNorms #Adversity #Storytelling #Wellbeing #Redemption
