My spouse and I have been struggling, and a large part of that struggle is a lot of hurt feelings over (transphobic) stuff they said early in my transition. We've been working on "accountability" (both ways - i've said/done a lot of hurtful things too. being a self-closeted egg is hard), and the ownership they've taken for a lot of their actions has left a lot to be desired.

But during an unrelated conversation (about difficult feelings re: being trans in the US in 2026), they kind of just blurted out, "Well. You know, I'm trans too." Honestly, at first I took it as incredibly flippant and invalidating. It felt like they were saying "i already understood how you feel. so... stop talking about it." But after I processed it more it started to make so much sense. It could recontextualize our entire relationship, and... I dunno. I got really excited thinking there might actually be a path forward for us, and a chance for much more mutual understanding.

But after talking about their feelings for a day or so, they shut down, and have told me not to mention it at all until they bring it back up. It's been almost four weeks, and I'm struggling with this in-between feeling. I still very much need that accountability, and I'm not sure how to approach that conversation without talking about their gender. I'm also struggling just... waiting. I know when I first cracked I was so scared and wanted to bury the feelings and never ever talk about them again. But. I also see how incredibly painful and damaging that was for me. And I guess I really want to help them avoid getting stuck in that place (like I did for a long time).

Anyway. I'm looking for any advice about how to approach this to help both of us feel safer through the process, and especially about how to heal some of these (very old) wounds (we've been together for 19 years). Ooor just someone to commiserate with 😅

I'd be happy to share more details privately. Boosts appreciated.

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We’ve both had a couple initial interviews recently, waiting to hear back from a couple. Others have “gone with other candidates”.

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extremely mad because my relative in American prison has let me know that from now on, instead of being charged once per book or per song and having the files added permanently to his account, he's going to ALSO be charged by the minute to read or listen to music on the tablets that are the only things they're allowed to use.

reminder that paying prisoners (vastly) less than minimum wage is legal in the US because they're defined as an exception to anti-slavery laws.

The level of transmisogyny I get at work is totally ridiculous. I can't avoid all the men who hurt me anymore because they're scheduled for the entire work week. One calls me slurs, one threatened me, and one SAd me- HR refuses to do anything. Anyone wanna hire me 😭

I have experience in digital art, graphic design, architectural design, drafting, merchandising, warehouse work

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so. um. i hate doing this but a side project i do for career dev and self-education hit an unexpected cost and im about $3200 short in paying it. anything helps and this is a one-time cost but if i dont pay down this CC charge ASAP i will never pay it off as ive been running at a loss for 20 months supporting other people and have no savings

https://www.paypal.me/gewt if you cant do paypal DM me and we can work it out

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this is digital blackface and racist as fuck.

whomever is doing this knows Black people are THE Culture; so how swell it is to make money off Black culture without Black people?

and don't get me started with the fact that automata are proxies for SLAVES.

don't hesitate to call out Alphabet/Google/Youtube for making money off Black digital slaves.

this isn't progress. this is still baldfaced racism.

hiii
it's #tdov and my trans partner and trans self are out of hormones and groceries ^^"
would any kind allies out there be willing to buy us a pizza*?

(*translator's note, pizza means hormones n groceries :P)

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monero address: 8433mPvLtsnC3GB4PH6TfM4p5CHyhgN2VQ36z2o6AoanMqwR8WVNAsbULYPELd2w6xQZ9Q324HqPwM1imPHkTWtPK4uvkS4

bitcoin address: bc1qx04tqz30m6uvv774f33dzj7j0t579ug793wl44

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last week, anti-trans laws were passed in Portugal.

parliament revoked the 2018 law that gave us self-determination of legal gender and change of name.

in addition they also passed UK-style censorship laws banning schools from talking about gender, and UK-style laws banning the prescription of puberty blockers and hormones to trans children.

this is the first time Portugal has taken away human rights since it became a democracy in the 1970s.