@melanie @actuallyautistic this meant a lot, thank you.

I think I'm coming to the conclusion that it may be a case of breaking a habit for me more than healing a wound or shutting off an emotion, though I would much prefer a switch I could flip into the off position

@melanie @actuallyautistic I wish it was only in situations where I did something wrong.

It's about me not being able to fix everything for everyone, all the time. I know logically it's from childhood stuff and CBT etc but it's pretty much constant.

@actuallyautistic

Anyone #Autistic have any method to dealing with shame that works on us?

I'm really good at processing my way out of this stuff but cannot shake the shame, which contributes massively to my PTSD and RSD symptoms.

I've got the CPTSD/ADHD/Autism triple threat going on, if that's useful info

I don't even know what I need, but an abusive bio family member reached out today after 3 years of only sending demands and accusations about me to my partner, and now they're using their child, whom I adore and miss dearly, as bait to reconnect.

I'm already changing screen names, etc on personally identifiable social media to protect myself from them using comments against me somehow.

I'm too old to be this scared of someone that can't hurt me anymore. Idk what to do.