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@actuallyautistic

Anyone #Autistic have any method to dealing with shame that works on us?

I'm really good at processing my way out of this stuff but cannot shake the shame, which contributes massively to my PTSD and RSD symptoms.

I've got the CPTSD/ADHD/Autism triple threat going on, if that's useful info

Show threadJoanna McKenzieSep 27, 2023
@HotWheels @actuallyautistic Sounds odd, maybe, but I've had some success changing my mindset about myself by making a point of mentally complimenting random people I pass. It creates a world in your own head where you can focus more on the positives.
Like "that's an awesome coat", "I love that person's tattoos", "that skirt is such an unusual colour but goes so well with that bag", "that's such a smart hairstyle", you know, simple things.
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@Jobob @actuallyautistic I had never considered that sort of "creating space" to be kind to myself the way you describe it, I really really like that, thank you so much. I think that's gonna be very helpful!
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Show threadErin KissaneSep 29, 2023

@HotWheels @Jobob @actuallyautistic I was going to say that Metta meditation (https://www.mettainstitute.org/mettameditation.html) is a go-to for my very adjacent brain, and this sounds like a version of that on the go, which I love.

(I actually run my Metta routine from my closest humans out to everyone and then myself last bc that’s often the hardest, but it works.)

Metta : How You Can Help