๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ…ป๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ…ฒ๐Ÿ…ด (๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฆ„)

Hey all y'all need to stop using "guys" in mixed company.

- My trans girlfriend is not a guy.
- My cis girlfriend is not a guy.
- I'm not a guy (or a girl, but that's not relevant here).

Misgendering is misgenderingโ€”even if "everyone's doing it".

Patriarchy shouldn't be the default.

#FuckThePatriarchy #Feminist #LGBTQ+ #Rant

Jun 24, 2025 at 5:29amWeb
Show thread๐Ÿ…ฐ๐Ÿ…ป๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ…ฒ๐Ÿ…ด (๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฆ„)Jun 24, 2025

> "Everyone uses it that way"
If all your friends jumped off a bridge...

> "Guys is basically non-gendered at this point"
Cool, we just inherited a shitload of gender-neutral restrooms.

> "What's your frickin' problem Alice?"
You guys.

Show threadLisa MeltonJun 24, 2025
@alice This. So much this. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
Show threadCassandra is only carbon nowJun 24, 2025
@alice I personally really like "folks" as an alternative. Lots of good options!
Show threadAnyia, down ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ girlJun 24, 2025
@xgranade @alice Mmm, folx/folks is my preferred one these days, though my circle of friends has always seen "guys" as all-inclusive, both in user and usee(? ๐Ÿค”) senses.
Show threadLisaJun 24, 2025
@anyia @xgranade @alice
Random Anecdote:
When I was in grade 6 we had a relief teacher from the USA who (after offending half the class) insisted "in america 'guys' means boys and girls"... then someone called out "you're not in Kansas anymore Todo."
Show threadqwertzalotlJun 24, 2025

@TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice

Same here: American Professor in Germany. For Americanistics ๐Ÿ™„ Same bullshit...

Show threadAlex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UKJun 24, 2025
@qwertzalotl @TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice quite recently the Northern British term "yous" (equivalent to USA "y'all") has made its way to London and the South, and is increasingly used as a gender neutral term for a mixed group of people..
Show threadBernie Luckily Does ItJun 24, 2025
@vfrmedia @qwertzalotl @TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice I had no idea "yous" was a thing in Britain. It shows up in American dialectical charts not too far from where I grew up. I never heard it spoken myself but heard of people who had. Evidently it's spelled "youse" here, but I imagine it's the same word.
Show threadAlex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UKJun 24, 2025
@BernieDoesIt @qwertzalotl @TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice
the spelling with the extra e is also common in Britain (both are interchangeable). I heard Northerners I encountered on the rave scene using it 30+ years ago but it seems to have travelled South comparatively recently, literally in the last couple of years..
Show threadcrabbyJun 24, 2025

And here I always thought that "yous" originated from Ireland.

@vfrmedia @qwertzalotl @TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice

Show threadAlex@rtnVFRmedia Suffolk UKJun 24, 2025

@crabby @qwertzalotl @TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice it may have originated from Scots (or indeed been popular in both Scotland and Ireland, and then spread across Britain over the years)

https://dsl.ac.uk/results/%22yese%22

Dictionaries of the Scots Language:: Search Results

Show threadQuamatocJul 4, 2025
@qwertzalotl
I mean, "Leute" is already gender neutral. And a valid translation of "guys"...
Show threadCiferJun 26, 2025
@TicklishHoneyBee @anyia @xgranade @alice Always remember: "Guys" is gender-neutral until you ask a guy how many guys he's fucked.
Show threadVJun 24, 2025
@xgranade @alice

Folks is good but my non native english tongue always thinks of forks when I say it lmao

I like saying people, its simple and humane.
Show threadEnderprincessJun 24, 2025
@xgranade @alice i like peeps for people in non formal context
Show threadCoach Spore DieselJun 24, 2025

@xgranade @alice

So many! I'm partial to the British "you lot". But I'm in the Deep South US where it's y'all for a few and all-a-y'all for a large group.

Show threadmarionlineJun 24, 2025
@springdiesel @xgranade @alice As a non-native english speaker I didn't know the words "y'all" and "all-a-y'all" and wasn't aware "you lot" could be used as well point out several people. I think in German we say: "Leute" (people) or a old-fashioned slang "Kinders" (Children) to address a group of friends ...
Personally, for English I like the expression "you lot", I may start to use it actively from now on :D So, you lot we see me using it a lot now! Nothing better than practice to make a word part of active vocabulary! ๐Ÿ˜†
Show threaddraeathJun 24, 2025
@marionline @springdiesel @xgranade @alice they're just contractions. "Y'all" is literally just "you all" mushed together. The other is "all of you all" with that contraction and a heavy accent.
Show threadsprouting Ske-Lil-ton ๐ŸŒฑOct 2, 2025
@marionline @springdiesel @xgranade @alice we should definitely normalize addressing our friends (as a group) with "Kinders" (or rather "Kinners", at least that's the typical pronunciation where I'm from)!
Show threadstephaniepixie ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆJun 24, 2025
@xgranade @alice I also hate โ€œhi ladiesโ€ with a passion even as a cis woman in a group of cis women.
โ€œHi folksโ€ or โ€œhi everyoneโ€ or just โ€œhiโ€ would be great.
Show threadHowToPhil (Phillip R)Jun 24, 2025
@stephaniepixie @xgranade @alice Too easy to confuse with "High Ladies" which in turn could be royalty or women who use The Spice to fold space and time
Show threadEve VentuallyJun 24, 2025

@stephaniepixie "Hello, co-conspirators."  

@xgranade @alice

Show threadstephaniepixie ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆJun 24, 2025
@EveHasWords @xgranade @alice If I went to a restaurant and the server said this I would increase their tip right at the start ๐Ÿ˜„
Show threadCassandra is only carbon nowJun 24, 2025

@stephaniepixie @alice There's some complexity there, at least for me personally. When I'm in a group of women, and the group is addressed in a gender-neutral way, that can sometimes feel like it invalidates that I'm a woman (depending *highly* on the circumstance and who's doing the addressing). On the other hand, "ladies," while problematic in other ways as you note, can also be affirming in that way.

Language is difficult and complicated...!

Show threadstephaniepixie ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆJun 25, 2025

@xgranade Itโ€™s more the cultural and gender expectations attached to language that people either gravitate to or are repelled by.
To my mind โ€œladiesโ€ has a very patriarchal othering connotation. Like the number of years people would say โ€œlady copโ€ or Arsenal Ladies (the football club, in case you donโ€™t follow sports) to point out they are secondary to the default male.

But I suppose thatโ€™s also why it might be appealing if one seeks validation and inclusion in the group they have been excluded from.
Ideally there would be other ways of using language to include people without using such archaic and gender-specific language.

Show threadVJun 24, 2025
@alice

Finally someone said it, this "guys" and "bro" thing is so annoying
Show threadJeffy ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ฆ โค๏ธ๐Ÿ‡ฑ๐Ÿ‡บJun 24, 2025
@alice Iโ€™ve used โ€œfolksโ€ for years and years and years.
Show threaddelProfundoJun 24, 2025
@alice I try to install yโ€™ll or folks at work. With mixed success. I like the artwork work I can point my finger at now!
Show threadPonygirlJun 24, 2025
@alice I use "yinz"
Show threadElectrogothJun 24, 2025
"Yinz" is new England "y'all". A contraction for "you ones"
Show threadChris PetrilliJun 24, 2025

@alice I still smile when J Kenji Lopez-Alt ends his videos with โ€œguys, gals, and non-binary palsโ€.

But โ€œfriends, enemies, and yet undecidedโ€ works as well.

Show threadAgas Ramirez ๐ŸŽ™๏ธJun 24, 2025
@alice comrades!
Show threadNEPล˜รTELSKร‰ EMOCE ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ฟJun 24, 2025
@agasramirez @alice that is pretty much an insult around the former ostblok since the opressors liked to call themselves this
Show threadAgas Ramirez ๐ŸŽ™๏ธJun 24, 2025
@lkundrak @alice I didn't know that! Thanks for the info.
Show threadBellaJun 24, 2025
@alice okay but no one better call me a folk.
Show threadBellaJun 24, 2025
@alice how about callin me yo. :) like what up yos? how we doin yos?
Show threadsotolfJun 24, 2025
@alice Not to try to discuss or something but as english isn't my native language using a dialect thing probably isn't the best for me, but point taken, I'll be looking for some other phrase that still feels okay to me. you all might do for the time being :)
Show threadSunandaJun 24, 2025

@alice me, a Hindi speaker, still trying to make "Mastodoston" a thing

Dost = friend, neutral
Doston! (Friends!) is my favourite way to address a room.

Show threadAllanJun 24, 2025
@Theorem_Poem in Ireland we use #Mastodaoine. Daoine=people.
Show threadSunandaJun 24, 2025
@allancavanagh so nice!
Show threadDaniil BaturinJun 24, 2025
@Theorem_Poem @allancavanagh I like how Irish is also surprisingly gender-neutral in that regard. The equivalent of the "ladies and gentlemen" greeting is "a dhaoine uisle" /a ษฃห i:nสฒษ™ uสƒlสฒe/ โ€” "o noble people".
Show threadSunandaJun 24, 2025
@dmbaturin I didn't know that. That's wonderful. @allancavanagh
Show threadAllanJun 24, 2025
@dmbaturin @Theorem_Poem we do that in English too. "You know Johnny up the road? They got a new car."
Show threadChookMother ๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿฆ˜Jun 24, 2025
@alice Y'all is not used in Australian English. Going back to "ladies and gentlemen" wouldn't cut it either. "Everyone" sounds a bit lame, so ..... ?
Show threadCroc in a FrocJun 24, 2025

@anne_twain @alice I like gang

"Hey gang"

Show threadMx VerdaJun 24, 2025
@SuperGaytor @anne_twain @alice Greetings, Delicious Friend(s).
Show threadAlexJun 24, 2025
@anne_twain @alice May I offer thou the archaic singular second person pronoun for thy usage?
Show threadmacoJun 24, 2025
@nap @anne_twain @alice (s/thou/thee/ โ€” gotta use the object pronoun there)
Show threadMx VerdaJun 24, 2025
@maco I request an example sentence.
E.g. Vey gave vem some of ver own cookies, all by vem self. To vem, ver own.
@nap @anne_twain @alice
Show threadmacoJun 24, 2025

@MxVerda @nap @anne_twain @alice

If thou art hungry, I will give thee some soup for thy supper.

Show threadChookMother ๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿฆ˜Dec 1
@nap @alice * offer thee
Show threadCarnildoJun 24, 2025
@alice That's got to be a regional or dialectical thing -- where I am, "guys" has lost all gender connotations. It's not unusual for a woman to greet an all-woman group as "hey guys".
Show threadElectrogothJun 24, 2025
If you think "guys" is gender neutral, ask a straight man how many "guys" he's slept with.
Show threadColette LibertineJun 24, 2025
@alice
I'm from Texas, so "y'all" has always been a thing. Took a while for y'all to catch up, tbqf.
Show threadErik HaugenJun 24, 2025
@Colette_Libertine @alice The South has led the way in inclusive language?
Show threadColette LibertineJun 24, 2025
@ech @alice
Sure, why not?
Show threadAmbient SpongeJun 24, 2025
@alice I always tend to go with hey folks
Show threadElectrogothJun 24, 2025
I'd just love people to stop calling me "man" as they compliment my skirt and heels