My beloved kindred companion knows that my heart is like a marshmallow, once I feel someone is truly safe, respects me, spends a lot of time getting to know who I am/what makes me tick/what irks me & isn't afraid of open, honest communication. He knows my exterior is tough/rough because of all the traumas I've experienced & overcome before him & due to that, have a very hard time trusting men in general. He was gentle & patient, taking months to get to know me better. My companion understood my big need to slowly build up a solid foundation of friendship, first. He worked really hard to gain my trust & I notice who puts in those efforts.

I don't date anyone, very easily. Some people thought I was a hard ass/cold bitch because I refused to date a lot of guys while single for years & had opted to be patient instead. I never felt the genuine, natural chemistry connections with other men. I chose my companion, because he is a real treasure of a human being & is worth my extra time & efforts 💗 This man is gold to me, flaws n all.

#AuDHD #neurodivergent #GenX #MatureLove #HeartsAglow #Love #Kindreds #PTSD #TrustingAgain

I also remember being accused of being a bitter lesbian - because I refused to date a few aggro guys/man boys. I'm not insulted by being called a lesbian, especially by manboys but I'm not & was just not wanting to waste my irreplaceable time/energy dating anyone who was clearly not compatible with me on any levels. I know my self worth & I don't give discounts to anyone. Been there, learned to do better ✌️

*Also - was told by both men & women, that if I hold on to my standards for dating for too long - I'm gonna end up lonely because no one can meet my standards 🙄 I ignored their criticism/unwanted & unnecessary judgements.*

@PhoenixSerenity

Oh no! The horrors of loneliness! Don’t you know it’s better to be deeply unhappy, unsatisfied, or even abused than to be alone?! 😱

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