This is the first time I have ever had a fellow #AuDHD as a kindred companion & it feels amazing. The mutual understanding & spiritual bond we share has brightened up both of our lives. I have never felt this level of naturally flowing, deeply profound, intimate connection with anyone else before.
I treasure this unexpected, sacred blessing. I am immensely grateful 🙌 💞
#Gratitude #MatureLove #Companionship #Neurodiversity #Kindreds #ActuallyAutistic
My beloved kindred companion knows that my heart is like a marshmallow, once I feel someone is truly safe, respects me, spends a lot of time getting to know who I am/what makes me tick/what irks me & isn't afraid of open, honest communication. He knows my exterior is tough/rough because of all the traumas I've experienced & overcome before him & due to that, have a very hard time trusting men in general. He was gentle & patient, taking months to get to know me better. My companion understood my big need to slowly build up a solid foundation of friendship, first. He worked really hard to gain my trust & I notice who puts in those efforts.
I don't date anyone, very easily. Some people thought I was a hard ass/cold bitch because I refused to date a lot of guys while single for years & had opted to be patient instead. I never felt the genuine, natural chemistry connections with other men. I chose my companion, because he is a real treasure of a human being & is worth my extra time & efforts 💗 This man is gold to me, flaws n all.
#AuDHD #neurodivergent #GenX #MatureLove #HeartsAglow #Love #Kindreds #PTSD #TrustingAgain
I also remember being accused of being a bitter lesbian - because I refused to date a few aggro guys/man boys. I'm not insulted by being called a lesbian, especially by manboys but I'm not & was just not wanting to waste my irreplaceable time/energy dating anyone who was clearly not compatible with me on any levels. I know my self worth & I don't give discounts to anyone. Been there, learned to do better ✌️
*Also - was told by both men & women, that if I hold on to my standards for dating for too long - I'm gonna end up lonely because no one can meet my standards 🙄 I ignored their criticism/unwanted & unnecessary judgements.*
@PhoenixSerenity I've always hated that. Stuff like you complete me and things like that. No, you are a whole person.
" You are my missing piece."
No, I wasn't missing a piece in the first place.
@PhoenixSerenity I wasted over 20 years of my life with someone who played games and manipulated me and gaslit me and now I'm in a relationship with an autistic lady I absolutely adore because there's no games and no bullshit.
I'm also likely on the spectrum myself but have never been assessed professionally.
@PhoenixSerenity It's darkly funny. I'm seeing a new therapist and after two appointments where I haven't even really gotten into the bad, bad stuff, she thinks my ex is a total asshole.
And unlike my ex who portrayed me as an abusive cheating asshole to anyone who'd listen, I try to at least portray things as they really were.
Oh no! The horrors of loneliness! Don’t you know it’s better to be deeply unhappy, unsatisfied, or even abused than to be alone?! 😱
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