@mekkaokereke
Both of those scenarios suck. What hurts for me as a white person is that far too many other white folks still don't understand or believe that Black folks face a constant barrage of "little" things (little as in perceived less than overt racism and death threats) on a daily basis. The casual and systemic varieties of racism.
I struggle to find ways to get other white folks to understand that someone else's lived experience can be just as real and genuine even though they've never experienced it. Heck, it's been challenging for my past self too.
I've lived in the Midwest my whole life, so no experience with earthquakes or hurricanes, but even though I've never been directly affected by either doesn't mean that hurricanes and earthquakes are not real or are not deadly. Few would argue that hurricanes aren't real, yet many will try to argue that systemic or casual racism isn't real, isn't common, or isn't just as (if not more) impactful.
To help myself understand things I sometimes think of buckets. I think of an analogy with filling up a 5 gallon bucket. If you try to dump 6 gallons into a 5 gallon bucket all at once, it'll certainly splash everywhere, run over, and be a get everywhere. It happens really rapidly and everyone around can witness the violence as the water spills everywhere. To me this is overt racism like N*zis?
But if someone slowly pours liquid into that same 5 gallon bucket over time, it's still gonna fill up and eventually reach a point of overflow. It may not be as immediately jarring or rapid, but that bucket will still be full, weighing a person down, no relief in sight. And if the person or system fills that bucket really carefully, nobody will even notice the bucket getting full, except for the person holding the bucket.