Barış Ekim  Nov 13, 2022
mariafarrell

Just a week or two in and I fking love this place so much. It's like stumbling out of the noise and into the kitchen at a party, and finding your people right there all the time.

You miss the friends you left behind in the shouty room where most who talk to you are looking over your shoulder to see if there's anyone more important to latch onto, but you hope your friends will soon find the kitchen, too.

Nov 13, 2022 at 10:52amWeb
Show threadlesighlepurrNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Snap! I'm still trying to help some of the friends finding the kitchen, but in the meantime making new friends. It's lovely out here ;)
Show threadmariafarrellNov 13, 2022
@lesighlepurr yes exactly!
Show threadCybermatronNov 13, 2022

@mariafarrell This! Exactly this!

It’s also like a European academic conference where everyone gets to go to the same conference dinner v an American academic conference where everyone is scrambling for an invite to one of the dinners organised by the “right people”.

Long may it continue!

Show threadmariafarrellNov 13, 2022
@TheCybermatron oh my goodness yes!
Show threadLilian EdwardsNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell yes that's very good. It is a bit undemocratic tho. I keep thinking of the 10k odd who followed me on the Bad Place about 1000 are here and what were the rest for anyway?
Show threadDagNov 13, 2022
@lilianedwards @mariafarrell I also thought it got too big and too unwieldy. In the early days "the big accounts" were not that big and interacted more with plebes. Then they got verified, only responded to other verified and it felt like high school.
Show threadSteve WilliamsNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell well said. I left my pointy finger on twitter, and engaged my ears. (If that makes any sort of sense)
Show threadPJ "Vote Green" CoffeyNov 13, 2022
@blabberlicious @mariafarrell Judging less and listening more? That's a vibe I can respect. 😀
Show threadJonChevreau 🇨🇦Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell I love Irish TV shows like Derry Girls and Bad Sisters; any similar recos?
Show threadMaxiedeeartNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell I love that image! I'd be in the kitchen too 😅
Show threadDr Brian O'HalloranNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Welcome aboard!
Show threadJayNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Beautifully expressed, Maria.
Show threadMicah Pollak ☃️Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Really well put! I feel the same way.
Show threadChristophe JammetNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell it's really nice to be free of those algorithms!
Show threadJennifer Moore 😷Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Haha! Lovely metaphor!
Show threadDougNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell much like CoSo, I don't think there are any algorithms here, so follower count doesn't mean anything, so you post not to get followers, but to share your interests. Fascinating.
Show threadTara L. CampbellNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Agreed! The whole attention-seeking, "branding" and advertising schtick from the other place ruined what could have been a whole lot of meaningful connections and community.
Show threadTan CheungNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell I love how true this is 💕
Show threadSaving Nature ⛵ 🌎 ☕🇺🇸Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Your words captured the exact feeling I was pondering. Thank you!!
Show threadLove Minus ZeroNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell totally agree
Show threadEdwinek 🌍Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell isn't it just? And so many creative and sparkling people, what a place!
Show threadNormaJaneNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Such an apt analogy. Very much my feeling right now, I’ve always been a kitchen party type.
Show threadaliceyooNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell beautifully written!
Show threadmariafarrellNov 13, 2022
@aliceyoo thank you!
Show threadJulie CorriganNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell
I like being my weird self here. I'm not into performance
Show threadZemerNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Like the kitchen at a party is the perfect analogy.
Show threadSteve HofstetterNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Long live the kitchen.
Show threadkim yi dionne (she/her)Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell the kitchen when at a party=✨🫶✨.
Show threadMilena McCartneyNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell very true!
Show threadkitten_nipNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell This server here has been THE. NICEST. social media experience I've had in like, ten years. Every interaction I've had so far has been welcoming and positive... is this for real? 😹
Show threadmariafarrellNov 13, 2022
@kitten_nip right?!?!
Show threadChrisChinchillaNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell it reminds a lot of what "the other network" was like about six years ago
Show threadRichard BakerNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell It’s very refreshing. It’s not only the new people one gets to ‘know’ but totally liberating in that one can post (okay, toot!) wider opinions that Twitter. Or perhaps that’s just me who was being followed by industry users I was afraid of disappointing. Onwards! 😇
Show threadmariafarrellNov 14, 2022
@Bakerpictures Yes, I feel a bit less inhibited by the followership and wider amplification (and the perils of Being a Woman on the Internet), and also by the longer word count and lower virality - so you don't have to craft each toot the same way. Just altogether healthier.
Show threadClaire EylesNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell I am definitely finding the vibe on here to be very refreshing.
Show threadWillowyNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell I wish I could share your enthusiasm. I've just begun interacting this past week, though I've had an account since 2017. I can't figure it out, so I'm just sort of staying here in the main instance - if it even IS that - and it's dead. If I go to "Local", there's just a mishmash of every language and it's going 100mph. So far, CounterSocial is giving me the vibe that you describe, and has a far simpler learning curve. I'll keep trying, but I'm not a fan, thus far.
Show threadmariafarrellNov 14, 2022
@Willowy It's definitely bumpier and more friction-y than the other place. I'm probably having an easier time as I had more followers/followees over there and have found or been found by some, and through posting serendipity found new people who seem great, also. I hope you find your people. x
Show threadsergio_101 has moved!Nov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell wait until you find #gemini
Show threadJoe CalhounNov 13, 2022
@mariafarrell Yes. And I’m finding new friends in the kitchen too.
Show threadAlexHernandez Nov 14, 2022
@mariafarrell I'm still feeling it out but I'm getting Google+ vibes which is a good thing. Taking it slow though.  
Show threadmariafarrellNov 14, 2022
@TheAlexHernandez yes, me too in the taking it slowly. I feel that's also part of the charm of the place - no algorithims pushing you to constantly up your engagement, etc.
Show threadSunupNov 14, 2022
@mariafarrell Excellent analogy.
Show threadShaunNov 14, 2022
@mariafarrell Yeah it's been my hope #Mastodon would take off. There definitely seems to have been a shift.
Show thread@cindycrum on TwitterNov 14, 2022
@mariafarrell I enjoy this site too! Still on Twitter though!
Show threadJoel De RoseNov 14, 2022
@mariafarrell so true. It is time to change the way we talk and share with each other. In the kitchen, as around the hearth, we come together . Community is the connection we hunger for. Singing in the round feels so good. Acoustics in the kitchen are amazing!! Rise Up singing!!!
Show threadmariafarrellNov 14, 2022
@Joel YES. ;-)
Show threadRebecca WallaceNov 16, 2022
@mariafarrell This is lovely.
Show threadJoshua GravesNov 19, 2022
@mariafarrell kitchens are always where the fun is anyway 😊