@holyramenempire

I need to reflect on this more, but I am not optimistic that such a resource exists.

Some background on why I say that. I am relatively old, and I started researching trans stuff in the 1970’s the golden era for gatekeepers.

At the time, it would hurt your chances for care if you weren’t het. Also at the time was the expectation that you’d cross over, fade into cis-land and be on your own (not “isolated”, a bit of nuance) in obscurity.

So from a historical perspective, the “being not queer enough” was baked into the original plan from those times.

I realize that I am old and things change. So I don’t know what the current transhet experience is.

If a gathering of resources doesn't exist, then it’s time to start a hashtag #TransHet to start gathering them.

I am not sure what the resources will look like, but maybe you or that guy could DM me to discuss.

I'm thinking about calling this "compulsory transheteropessimism". 4/3

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Any #attraction I feel to a cis man is characterized as a transgression I've committed against my "community" for which I should apologize and do penance by performing #heteropessimism and self-loathing and enduring passive-aggression, mockery, and victim-blaming. 3/3

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Any #attraction a cis man feels to me, a trans woman, is framed as a character flaw and a red flag. That attraction is #pathologized and #stigmatized even by my own "#allies" and "fellow" #queer and #trans people. 2/3

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