#MondayMourning: 9 New Year's Resolutions for Grievers
Everyone around you is brimming with hope, inspiration, and vigor as we start a fresh, new year... but you're not feeling it. If you've suffered a loss, the new year may feel daunting instead of uplifting. Here are some ways to tackle it one day at a time:
(courtesy of "What's Your Grief" with some thoughts of mine mixed in)
1. Go easy on yourself - forget goals, time deadlines, and the pressure to return to normalcy quickly
2. Spend time with people you like - try not to withdraw into isolation, but it's okay to avoid unsupportive people
3. Engage in one hobby or activity that makes you feel good - anything you do for YOU will give you self satisfaction and an outlet for expression (bonus points for being physically active, though focus on the way movement makes your body and mind feel instead of adopting exercise as a weight loss regimen)
4. Be honest about how you feel - again, don't rush to return to normalcy and pretend that you're "better"
5. Speak your loved one's name - don't be shy or worried about saying their name; encourage others to say the name too (they might be avoiding it for fear of upsetting you - give them permission)
6. Embrace one of your loved one's values, hopes, or dreams - honor their legacy by continuing to pursue something they started or cared deeply about
7. Support someone else - of course you ought to wait until you're ready, but helping someone through their loss can be tremendously satisfying and show you how much you've progressed along your own grief journey
8. Plan opportunities for remembrance - from scholarships and 5ks to scrapbooks and journaling, you can continue to recognize and celebrate your loved one
9. Seek formal support - whether your loss was recent or not, you can choose to find a support group or counselor to help you get "unstuck" on your grief journey
Read the original article at https://whatsyourgrief.com/8-new-years-resolutions-for-grievers/ (and buy their amazing new book!)
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