Laurent Bercot5h ago
Farah 🖖🏼🧶🏳️‍🌈
Neurotypicals are bad at communicating all the time; yet no one gives a flying fuck. They just want socially acceptable behavior from others. Find me a neurospicy person who’s actually vague. Bet you can’t find any. Personally I think not being vague is a person’s strength #neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
Apr 14 at 1:23amWeb
Show threadMr. Funk E. Dude 🍑💨19h ago

@farah What are you trying to say exactly?

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Show threadFishercat19h ago
@Mrfunkedude @farah *snort*
Show threadmillennial fulcrum19h ago

@farah maybe there is a correlation there. I know I talk as though I can but I cannot really see how allistic somebody is (despite my ridiculous propensity to guess).

but interpersonally it does not matter. if someone is vague or unclear with me they will be entered into a process of information extraction that can be as easy or difficult as they choose, and which ends when they have achieved the acceptable standard of clarity. I'm helpful like that. highly recommend this approach.

Show threadMWT15h ago
@falcennial @farah when we were in our 20s, my sister and all her friends had a social style that included point-and-laugh hysterically whenever someone is confused by anything. And then get impatient and change the subject if I persisted in wanting clarification. I learned it was safest to not interact at all when I was stuck with a crowd like that.
Show threadRoknrol like the slur18h ago
@farah I have learned to be vague when I realize that it's necessary (in work situations, dealing with cops, negotiating with the dogs, etc), but I much prefer direct and complete communication. Anything other than that feels like work.
Show threadMWT15h ago
@farah my spouse is pretty vague sometimes. He tends to assume that I automatically know everything he knows and gets impatient when it turns out he has to tell me things first.
Show threadVerđandi K Soldusty12h ago
@farah
Oh, I have a friend who's autistic & probably ADHD who will start telling you about something that will have you scratching your head until you either work out for yourself what she's on about or ask her what she's on about.
She has a habit of forgetting to say the first sentence or two out loud. So, detailed but vague as to what she is on about 🤷😆.
Show threadZenHeathen 🇨🇦10h ago
@farah I've lost track of the number of times I've given kid advice to grown-ass adults: "use your words!"
Show threadCharles A-M9h ago
@farah hm... yes, usually when I'm vague it's a very specific sort of vague.