What if voting wasn’t something you did to express your personal preference? What if it was something you did to protect the people you love?

I keep hearing people I know who I thought genuinely cared for the people on the ragged edges of US society saying that they’re not going to vote for Harris. I wish they’d see voting as a thing we do *for each other* instead of something that speaks to your own self-centered opinion.

It’s just moral narcissism - the idea that how it makes you feel about yourself is the most important thing. It’s wildly, WILDLY selfish. And these are the same people who lecture others about privilege.

Wild.

People say I shouldn’t shame others for not voting, but fuck that. We have this one lever we get to pull. This one task. If you can’t make that bare minimum requirement to participate in a democracy, I have no goddamn respect for you. You’re not more morally pure for opting out, you’re just a petulant child.

Voting isn’t everything, but it’s the first thing. If you have this right that so many fought and bled for and you don’t use it, shame on you.

And if you’re so radical that you’re willing to take up arms to fight fascism, but you’re not willing to cast a vote for someone who isn’t perfect, you’re no radical, you’re just a fucking poser.
@fraying I doubt the ability of someone to start a revolution if they can't even fill out a form
@fraying ...especially when the poser has a choice between someone who will let them be a poser and someone who will put the posers in a gulag

@fraying

louder for the toxic idealists in the back:

if you don't #vote, you don't have morality, you have self congratulatory ego masturbation

belief without action is not morality. withholding action when the stakes are clear on things you *say* you care about is not highmindedness, it's impotency

one order out: not being aware of the stakes makes you absurdly clueless

and finally "both sides the same" is a moronic lie. i will consider you a russian troll for that in intellectual charity

@benroyce @fraying

You're cutting yourself out of the process.

After Nov 2024 I expect to frequently be asking "Who did you vote for?". If the answer isn't "Harris", I'll know it's not worth spending my energy engaging with you.

"Harris, reluctantly", or "Hated myself, but in the end Harris" are fine, just fine. Voting often involves unpleasant options, and I'll be thankful to you that you did a difficult thing.

@benroyce

Most just like the aesthetics of rebellion and violence... it's just another way of glorifying hatred and death for those you think are "bad" for society.

Doctor Who had a really good episode on this: "Truth or Consequences". The problem is not with wanting "revolution" it's that people aren't thinking about the after revolution. At a certain point, unless you just want 24/7/365 war and death (which a good portion do want), you need to become the person arguing against revolution and finding a way to incorporate other views. And then you're right back where you started, needing to vote. The only difference is how many people you killed and made suffer.

So, unless the goal is increasing that number, you vote.

#Politics #Philosophy #Revolution #BurnItAllDown #BIAD #DoctorWho #BBC #Rebellion #Violence #Death #Suffering #CivilWar #USPol #Europe #EU

@imstilljeremy

exactly

say those romanticizing revolution somehow live through the endless suffering death and injustice of an actual civil war

what appears on the other side?

well, as stakeholders in the glorious struggle, they get a voice in the decisions the new govt makes

that means they, uh, will vote?

setting aside those who think "no govt" is possible and the warlords that appear in the vacuum of power

and set aside those who want a left leaning totalitarian govt

@fraying lol fuck you how about that

@fraying
This is something I never could, and probably never will, understand.

"I don't agree with anything he says, but she isn't quite aligned with my beliefs either, so I'm not going to vote!"
And I've noticed there are 2 separate and distinct types of people who do this - those who are well enough off that they will barely notice the hit to their livelihood that letting The Other Guy win will entail, at least at first, and those who will suffer the most.
And I dont get either of them.

@stuartb @fraying One is privilege and the other is fatalism.

There's also the third crew: the ones who think if things get horribly worse, then "complacent" public will have no choice but to fight in their bloody revolution. But seeing as how even a pandemic that killed a million plus due to malevolent mismanagement didn't trigger that, nothing else will, either.

@textualdeviance
I don't think Fatalism covers it - it's people actively voting to be hurt.
It seems to be more prevalent in the US, what with "The American Dream" and all, but over here in the UK, there are quite a few people convinced that they are dirt poor because "The Left" are keeping them poor with rules and regulations, and they would be millionaires within weeks if all the rules were removed by Conservatives.
@fraying
@stuartb @fraying Oh, poor conservatives are a whole 'nother ball of wax (combo of racism and hating other poor people is usually involved.) I was thinking more of other marginalized groups. Some I've seen are just in a learned helplessness state. They figure their lives are going to be shit no matter who wins, and only a massive revolution will change anything, so there's no point expending the effort to vote.
@fraying How does voting for a political party that has been moving to the right for my entire lifetime, nearly 50 years push the progressive values forward? I suspect it will just end with kids still in cages, drones still killing people overseas, bombs still being sold to support genocide, more support for fossil fuels to be produced domestically.
@pcfascist doomerism is unwelcome in my comments.
@fraying I'm not willing to vote for Fascists and the main parties in america have not and will not provide that alternative.
@Rasp Democrats are a lot of things, but they’re not fascists. Please live in the real world.
@fraying Voting isn't a love letter. It's a chess move.
@jimsafley @fraying It's like getting on a bus. You don't always get something that's getting you exactly where you want to go, but you get on the one that gets you closer.

@fraying all of this — I'm just agog that people don't understand voting is a DUTY — it's an act you take to participate in a democratic society, so you can keep it and work towards a better world.

I also think a huge number of the supposed "people" online who are saying "don't vote" aren't people at all — or they're agents for malevolent forces.

For those who truly have bought into this childish idea of moral purity by not voting — they're simply helping the fascists and they know it

@fraying Voter suppression is real and pernicious. Easy for us to blame 'lazy, disengaged, petulant voters; we are often missing the larger story of how difficult voting has been made, particularly for working people.
@fraying
Anyone voting for the American Nazi party should be ashamed. This is not normal.
@fraying Wow, the replies in this thread are exhausting.
@jwz they always are
@jwz and these are the good ones! They usually go bad on day two.
@fraying don't @ me, I vote. But I know people who genuinely don't care in the least because neither major party has the slightest concern for their issues or their lives. Before you say something about fascism or democracy, the same thing, they care about neither. They wake up on November 6th with no better or worse outlook either way. And they feel something in either platform compromises their identity. So rather than vote either, they just keep heads down and try to keep their shit together.
@stalbaum that’s called living in ignorance and it’s bliss until the world goes to shit around you.
@stalbaum And, anyway, I’m not taking about those people. As I said in the second post, I’m talking about “people I know who I thought genuinely cared for the people on the ragged edges of US society saying that they’re not going to vote for Harris.” They know better. They know the stakes. And they’re refusing to vote against the greater evil because they think it makes them morally superior. I’m saying it doesn’t.
@fraying world is already shit around them. And they are not stupid, just poor, exploited, and pandered to in a way they totally understand. Members of both major parties always think they have them figured out. They don't. Members also don't want to go where these Americans are. There is this great wet dream of reaching them through media and social... Useless. Because when someone's only power is that they have nothing to lose, they know that giving an Nth of a $#!+ is just more exploitation.
@fraying If you want to know who is in their neighborhoods, who is successfully working for them, it is entrepreneurial Evangelical churches. My libs will think this means MAGAish churches, and while not wrong this is not universal... Many of the non-denominationals are in their minds, government. They are equally disengaged from US politics and are building their own little cults in place of government. Our Americans understand the Evangelicals too, and say a prayer for a Walmart gift card.
@fraying Walmart gift cards goes in a stack of other pittances. Stealing, squatting, bartending 20 hours for cash, collecting Walmart cards from churches, sometimes getting a used car from an inspired churcher for good attendance, clothes donation days, taking a job for three months because they know they are going to get unemployment for a similar time, nobody represents them. Even these churches that try to MAGA them get very frustrated! The lumpenproletariat. No practical interest in voting.

@fraying It's not so simple.

Voting isn't the first thing but the minimal.

It is legit to ask for voting to any standard individual who isn't engaged in any other political activities.

However there are people rather more engaged in improving the life of the others, participating in whatever organization of their choice or doing polithics every single day at the streets.

Those people have all the right to decide that they don't want to validate the current statu quo.

@nestor @fraying And I have the right to judge them for acting in a way to potentially make the bad thing happen. All it takes for evil to win is for good people to stand by and do nothing. And voting is by far the most easy thing you can do. Not saying not to do other things, but pretending to be are pure because they didn't do anything to stop the fascist isn't purity. It's selfishness and pride and ego.
@nestor Google moral narcissism.

@fraying Just the opposite,

Those lazy people, who as the only political activity just vote once every 4 years should not claim anything to those who are doing polithics every single day.

This said, i'm in the lazy 'only vote' team who annoy my even lazier 'not even voting' environment, to vote.

I just realize that not all the not voters are the same , nor their motivations are just 'moral narcissism'

@nestor and all their non-votes count exactly the same.

@fraying They are »doing« very different things.

Do > words

It is just democracy allow people to vote options that we don't like, including not voting at all.

We are in a dead end and it seems clearly that we are not going to reach anything similar to an agreement.

Let me to offer to you a final though, not directly related with the 'not voting categories' which we has been discussing:

if you want to movilize previous staled votes, you should try to seduce them rather than despice them.

And also, if somebody is not going to vote or is going to vote an option that you don't like, trying to understand why will be more productive than simply overlook them.

@fraying googled.

It seems to be a pretty usa centric concept with this full thing about saying vs doing, i was just applying the concept of narcissism to moral until now.

My full point is that Do > say and do every day > vote once every 4 years, so nothing against critizise those who doesn't vote as a pose (possing?) but all against about simplifying all the not voters in the same category

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To avoid missunderstandings this is the definition that i'm managing from https://www.commentary.org/articles/roger-simon/moral-narcissism-least-great-generation/
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«That form is moral narcissism—a pathology that underlies the whole liberal left ethic today and some of the right as well. What exactly is this form of narcissism that is destroying—if it hasn’t already destroyed—our families, friendships, workplace atmosphere, and democratic republic?

The short form is this: What you believe, or claim to believe or say you believe—not what you do or how you act or what the results of your actions may be—defines you as a person and makes you “good.” It is how your life will be judged by others and by yourself. In 19th-century France, the gastronome Jean Brillat-Savarin told us that “you are what you eat.” In 21st-century America, almost all of us seem to have concluded that “you are what you say you are. You are what you proclaim your values to be, irrespective of their consequences.” That is moral narcissism.»

Moral Narcissism and the Least-Great Generation

am of the generation that read The Communist Manifesto before we read the Constitution. Well, not exactly. I did read the U.S. Constitution and The Federalist Papers, mostly in student-outline versions,

Commentary Magazine
@jwz except both parties have made sure that people like me are acceptable sacrifices to pretend covid is over. Hospitals have less infection control than before covid. I have no safe access to the ER at all. Or most doctors. Plus gerrymandering never got fixed 4 years later.
@trollop Great, might as well just fascism then.
@jwz gerrymandering = voting doesn’t work. Trump is convinced voting is corrupt because they cheated & he still lost. Assuming they fixed whatever misstep they made cheating. Dem seems to be asleep on fixing it. :( so yeah. Plus they’re both trying to kill immunocompromised. Mask bans ffs.
@trollop And now I'm blocking you because I have zero time for this shit.

@fraying

So are you demonstrating free speech or just being rude?

@fraying I always have.
Somehow I’ve always appreciated America. I think bc (in public elementary school) I had a great 2nd grade teacher.
Especially now.
Nothing to be proud of. No one is special for gambling our lives like that.

@fraying This with bells on. My grandparents in Northern Ireland were denied their votes sometimes because they were Catholic. Also, I got elected to the Labour Party executive (a tiny counterpart of the DNC) because a vote was counted incorrectly. 2 of my political friends got elected to districts by a single vote.

Every vote counts. Use it. A lot of people don't get to or don't bother.

(Sorry for preaching to the converted!)

@fraying Actually I need to clarify something important - I got elected to the Labour executive after a recount which I requested. The initial ballot count mistakenly allocated a vote for me to someone else.

I did not get elected because of a single vote going to me in error.

@fraying
That's the irony really. It's the epitome of privilege to say "I don't need to influence the outcome of this election because I don't risk being injured by the outcome, whatever it may be."

@benroyce

@fraying I kinda want to make bumper stickers for "drive like someone you love is in the car". Same feeling.

@amye Vote like someone you love is an immigrant in the US.

Vote like someone you love is gay or trans in the US.

Vote like someone you love is going to be rounded up and put in the camps Republicans have said they want to set up.

@fraying @amye Vote like someone you love is female.

@fraying @amye
I’m voting like I’m going to be rounded up and put in a camp. 😂

But I’ve got an RV space reserved in Mexico for Dec 1, too.

@fraying @amye

i vote to protect the most marginalized people