Tracey EvaJan 30, 2023
Tattooed_Mummy
My daughter told me today she no longer tidies her room, instead she 'resets' it to tidy each Sunday for the week ahead . She said mentally this helps because tidy sounds such a chore while reset doesn't, and the thought that there's a weekly reset means she doesn't feel bad if the room gets messy in the week, because she'll reset on Sunday!
Anyway I thought it was cute and might be useful for someone
Jan 29, 2023 at 6:41pmWeb
Show threadSupermouse The RodentJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I've found the same idea very useful too!
Show threadZate 🦘🇦🇺Jan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy oh I love that concept!
Show threadMuradJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I like this. I've been needing to reset my office for months...
Show threadTane Piper ⁂Jan 30, 2023
@ElHadjiMurad @Tattooed_mummy I shared this with my wife today, she loved it
Show threadLew RileyJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Resetting laundry to clean rn.
Show threadPrincess UnikittyJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy already finding helpful framing and strategies for life. Sounds like she's on a good path in life. Congrats!
Show threadTashenJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy this absolutely is useful! Re-framing things in your mind is incredibly powerful. Personally I’ve got to make use of this more often in my own life.
Show threadGripping Yarn  Jan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Genius
Show threadAlien🍉Jan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I'm very impressed of her, it took me 23 years and living on my own for two of them to come to this realization myself
Show threadJulieJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy that's brilliant. I never thought about it like that.
Show threadSnooze Button ConnoisseurJan 29, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy

This is super insightful and really helpful. Be sure to tell her that the fediverse says thanks for the lifehack and sends our regards 🙏

Show threadSmytheJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I like that! I have trouble keeping things in my life organized, and scheduling such a Reset would be a way to periodically get things back under control. Usually I do a huge cleanup only after losing something or missing a deadline.
Show threadSeth GoldsteinJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Love this mindset shift.
Show threadJaciJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy
Wonderful way of conceptualising it!
Show threadNow -> [email protected]Jan 29, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy

I do this! Change the sheets, do laundry, wash dishes, clean bathroom.

Psychologically, Sunday is an 'easy' day for me to putter, and I like things fresh for Monday/the new week. ✅

I really like the thought of 'reset' though. 😃

Show threadNora Karena (She/Her/Hers)Jan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy brilliant!
Show threadVíktor Bautista i RocaJan 29, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy

In my language / culture you don't tidy up deeply your house once a week. You «do Saturday». «Fer dissabte» is cleaning up and leave the house very neat. I guess your daughte «fa diumenge», «does Sunday».

Show thread[MESSAGE ME TO FOLLOW] greenJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy honestly that's how I approach washing the dishes--I "reset" the sink and draining board every evening when I make the cats' dinner, by rinsing and putting dishes in the dishwasher, hand-washing the stuff that needs hand-washing, washing the cat bowls that have been soaking for prepping their breakfast in the morning, giving the sink a quick soap-and-water wash, and wiping down the counters. more stuff might accumulate after that, but I don't worry about it--I'll take care of it when I do the reset at catdinnertime!
Show threadAnnamalJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy that's a really cool way of framing it
Show threadDanJan 29, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy what an awesome way to frame it!
Show threadKLBJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy good reframing there!
Show threadTammy Garrison, MLISJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy this is super useful to me as an adult who has a lot of emotional baggage and negative connotations associated with cleaning. Tell her thank you from me!
Show threadChris Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy your daughter is very wise!
Show threadMarvinJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy @sophie My oldest does this in practice, but multiple times a week, as their ADHD goes berserk if their space gets too messy. Phrasing it like this, though, really makes sense!
Show threadMorganaJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Indeed!!! Reset sounds much more convenient!
Show threadCera ColeJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy What a lovely mindset!
Show threadNicole ParsonsJan 30, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy

That's an excellent example of mentally reframing an issue.

When housework is framed as "something only women do", that person is set up for their 1st divorce

When chores are framed as "something only menials do", that person faces a rage-filled future where the so-called "menials" refuse to fit the white supremacy narrative

When domestic labor is framed as "unpaid", that person faces a workplace where staff quit after they're asked to "take notes" or "fetch coffee"

Show threadGJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy dayum! Smart kid!
Show threadLisa CJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy That's great! It's amazing how much our mindset and language around it has an effect.
Show threadDaigoro Toyama Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I like that idea. An added benefit may be that since she knows she resets on Sundays, she may unconsciously keep the room relatively clean during the week.
Show threadLynn McAlister UE  Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy What a creative solution! Good for her!
Show threadTyler MumfordJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Oh, nice! I really like this idea. Thanks for sharing!
Show threadMarie GreeneJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy That's a lovely mindset!
Show threadRaineer  🦆Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy that is really good. I’ll try it on my kids but I know I’m using this for myself
Show threadScenarioJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I like it. Similarly, I find trash day to be cathartic. 👍🏻
Show threadAnnieJan 30, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy

Once when I was a teen, my father came to my bedroom door, upset by how messy my room was.

“Dad, you just have to think of the floor as… one big shelf!”

Show threadcircateeJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy my goodness, certainly a different perspective. Especially if it is something that you don’t like doing…
Show threadcurious ordinaryJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I love this. I think my whole house needs a reset though. 🙂
Show threadconor153Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Brilliant!
Show threadKapoJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I like this 👌 I might reset my room once a year 😆 🤣 😂
Show threadMark Van AlstineJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy love this idea and that she came up with it all on her own #mindful
Show threadEmJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy tell her she's a natural psychologist with that excellent reframe!
Show threadKennethJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy My Room, My Blue Screen of ☠️
Show threadJenn A. MoralesJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy that is awesome. I may just start thinking of it that way.
Show threadJason MeadenJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy @glennf Your daughter is way more mature than me. I’m > 50.
Show threadWeHaFoodCritic 💎 (He/Him)Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I’m 62 and retired and still do my Sunday cleaning ritual to begin the new week refreshed and revitalized. Your daughter is one smart cookie.
Show threadSaltyGirlJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy I’m going to borrow her idea! Genius!
Show threadPB Livin'Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy it is! Thank you for sharing!
Show threadDruidJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy
……. Thats what I do every week….with my life
Show threadpwtulleyJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy @ckaras Best keep an eye on that one!
Show threadAutisticMumTo3Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy
If that's what works for her.
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Show threadESJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy okay I think this sounds acceptable, now to see if my daughter thinks so too.
Show threadDeborah Rose ReevesJan 30, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy I learned about ‘resetting’ from KC Davis. As someone struggling with depression, her book “How To Keep House While Drowning” was truly helpful and felt so much more compassionate and manageable than other approaches. A short read but recommended!

https://www.strugglecare.com/book

Book — KC Davis

KC Davis
Show threadmidendianJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy this is my mantra too. for me the distinction is that “tidy” is a daunting, arbitrary, judgmental definition whereas “what it looked like a week ago” is a very well defined concept.
Show threadShayon Pal Jan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy Damn! The idea sounds great, but my #ADHD brain won't let me stay in an untidy room for even a day :(
Show threadMy Other AccountJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy @HisLittle_1 sent this on, after carefully cropping where I found it…
Show threadYowieJan 30, 2023

@Tattooed_mummy

Your daughter is BRILLIANT! I am totally stealing that (with as much credit as I can give) and sharing that with my neurospicy friends.

Show threadjewel, a foolJan 30, 2023
@Tattooed_mummy That's a great approach! I've also recently heard about framing chores in terms of cycles and stages of a cycle. She's taking her room to the "Sunday reset" stage in the weekly mess cycle!