My daughter told me today she no longer tidies her room, instead she 'resets' it to tidy each Sunday for the week ahead . She said mentally this helps because tidy sounds such a chore while reset doesn't, and the thought that there's a weekly reset means she doesn't feel bad if the room gets messy in the week, because she'll reset on Sunday!
Anyway I thought it was cute and might be useful for someone
@Tattooed_mummy this is my mantra too. for me the distinction is that “tidy” is a daunting, arbitrary, judgmental definition whereas “what it looked like a week ago” is a very well defined concept.