AnnaFolks out there who have found your people: how did you do that?
I wasn’t lucky enough to be born into a good family and I thought I’d have found my people by now.
#Boosts appreciated.
MrAmaimon@halcionandon role playing, Rocky Horror fan shows, and crashing parties. I used to be a lot more out going before shakes and tiredness kicked in.
Somehow I got tricked into DMing a D&D game for newbies in town and they became my main support network here with an extended group around the state I communicate with on line
Somehow I got tricked into DMing a D&D game for newbies in town and they became my main support network here with an extended group around the state I communicate with on line
allyannIt started for me when I started valuing friends and family who gave their love unconditionally. While I am still friends with family and friends who don't, I don't invest as much of myself in them and I dropped my expectations of them.
@allyann That worked great until they died. Side effect of the chronic illness community. Family have never been reliable and actually work hard to make life more difficult. One is diagnosed narcissist. Hence the trying desperately to remove myself. They suck you dry so I have to get away. Nobody seems to give unconditional love. It’s just lot of hot air.
@halcionandon I get that. I have better friends than family for that reason.
@halcionandon @allyann if you live in Sydney I could introduce you round a bit
@mramaimon @allyann Melbourne, but thanks.
Céleste ~ Xe/Xem/Xir@halcionandon It was a slow process. Mostly by facebook. I would end up talking to some people by DM, got close to some, met them and their friends.. And after about 8 years I have a dozen or so loved ones. I have no idea how I could do it again if I lost them as it was a very organic and gradual process.
Dr. Brandy Schillace@halcionandon I built Peculiar Book Club. And then invited my people. Maybe you are one of us? Our motto is ‘if you’re weird, you’re family’ and there are quite a few of us these days :) (our FB group link is where we all hang out, but it’s a club, a show, a podcast, a live meet up and a found family)
@bschillace What if I’m too sick to read much and need rest 22 hours a day?
@halcionandon the shows are kind of like introductory material to the books; you might think of it as giving you a good idea of which ones you *want* to read. (That is, the reading is not a pre-req.) The FB group is more about funny memes.
Socar Myles@halcionandon For me, art was the ticket to a pretty great party. I started showing people my drawings online in 1997 (when I first got access to a scanner), and that, more than anything, got people to talk to me. When enough people talk to me on a consistent basis, I eventually become close with some of them.
(Weirdly, I met one of my closest friends on a dating site, but that's pretty unusual.)
bzdata@halcionandon found via fitness and sports fandom. Not my core folks but nice to have community
Ronnie@halcionandon
The internet, particularly fandom and geeky spaces that were explicitly queer and disabled friendly.
Most of my social interaction is online. Pre pandemic I'd try and attend small cons.
Mariya Delano@halcionandon I collected my found family mostly throughout college, but that probably won’t work for you.
Since then I’ve been finding good people mostly being active on different corners of the internet either based on professional interests, hobbies, or identity (for me that’s nationality, places I’ve lived, mental health diagnoses, etc).
Joining a book club (even an online one!) works well. So does chatting with people in line for concerts and performing arts events.
@mariyadelano It will have to be online for me since I’m bedridden atm and not sure what my health future holds.
When I can read books again a book club might be an option.
@halcionandon good luck to you!
@mariyadelano The college boat has sailed. It was full of insufferable elites so nobody really made any friends there.
NomadicNerd (StoleUrSweetroll)@halcionandon by using a lot of hashtags in posts and clicking on them or searching for certain hashtags and terms important to me. I don’t have a lot but I have a small group of ppl I’ve gathered and deemed “my village” you can then create a list of those accounts for quick access of their posts
Arne Focke@halcionandon I did not, really. It was pure luck that i found my wife and still have my best friend back from my school days.
Apart from that … too many disappointments out there, I don’t try anymore.
Apart from that … too many disappointments out there, I don’t try anymore.