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The Duality of XanNormalise being wrong. Normalise admitting to mistakes and changing your opinion as you learn more. It's how we learn. It's part of being human.
zacksounds lame
@zack This is why you fail.
was B (this is my old account)@XanIndigo yes! Part of normalizing it is welcoming other people when they change their minds or behaviors which is hard and scary and not everyone is safe to do it, but when we can, it’s really important to try.
@b_cavello I think this part isn’t quite so clear cut. If someone’s caused genuine harm, they also need to put in the work to undo that.
@XanIndigo yep! But doing that isn’t always possible from a place of exclusion, tbh. That’s why I recognized that it’s not safe for everyone to try to “let people back in,” but it is important to try.
Sannice@XanIndigo Oh yeah! man himself should learn that he is perhaps nature's greatest fault. that his mistake is wanting to subdue the world instead of subjugating or adapting to nature. as part of nature we can never dominate it, only adapt as best we can.
Chris Mahan@XanIndigo Look for opportunities to fail, to learn, to grow. I safety lies stagnation.
@chris_mahan Nicely put.
Pav♾️@XanIndigo it's all I do
NotActuallyTedDecker@XanIndigo best part of being human is #growing
dingodog@XanIndigo since, the one thing we can be sure of is that we are all wrong.
Best case, we go through life getting a little less wrong every day.
Thomas Lumley@XanIndigo I'd phrase it a bit differently: we should care deeply about *being* wrong but normalise *having been* wrong
@tslumley Fair point. It’s a subtle distinction, but it does count.
Susan Davis 🇨🇦@XanIndigo This has been A Thing in the #Agile community for years. We call it the "failure bow."
Mark@XanIndigo I LOVE THIS!
@XanIndigo this is something I’ve been working on for the past couple of years. I’m so glad that I’m trying to change (especially when I am wrong). In addition to this I’ve been working on asking the questions that others are afraid to ask. I have had many people come to me in private and express their gratitude for my having asked the question they weren’t comfortable asking.
Deborah Rose Reeves@XanIndigo This has been the screensaver on my phone since I saw a Hank Willis Thomas exhibition in 2019.
I also like this from Gil Scott Heron: “The first revolution is when you change your mind about how you look at things, and see there might be another way to look at it that you have not been shown."
@deborahrosereeves Oh, I like these!
Rex Zero@XanIndigo people who can't admit their own mistakes, and who think you know everything, are the worst people. That is my experience in life.
Russell@XanIndigo I often wonder about this when I am reading older books or texts that really resonate with me - did the author change their mind? have they disowned this perspective now? can I repeat this without having to do a deep-dive into their current beliefs?
@paper_trousers The question is though, would it really matter? Writing can be a snapshot in time. It doesn’t necessarily matter who the writer became later. It doesn’t change who they were when they wrote it.
chuls@XanIndigo Or as Maya says, Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.
Mr Albert@XanIndigo Yes, we learn from our mistakes, it's human. But nowadays, a 'always perfect' behavioural model is getting the upper hand, de-humaning our lives, imo
@Albertone It’s true, modern culture has a lot of pressure to be correct and always have been correct. It does feel harmful.
Paula@XanIndigo My go to saying is “I reserve the right to be wrong”
Keiþ 🔭@XanIndigo Couldn’t agree more. It is absolutely the key to learning. Never make the same mistake twice, there are so many more mistakes waiting to be made.
Patty Kimura@XanIndigo I learned early from a brilliant fellow with a photographic memory that the smartest people are those who continually test and reassess their own views, and change their minds if facts warrant. Admitting to yourself that you could be, or have been, wrong is evidence of critical thinking. Admitting error without rancor or embarrassment is evidence of growth. That fellow was my late Dad.
@pattykimura He was clearly a wise man 🧡
Goutham Balaraman
Christine 🏳️⚧️🦋@XanIndigo @pattykimura I've run into quite a few people that can never admit they were wrong. I've always thought of that as a massive failure on their part.
@christine @XanIndigo Admitting error is good. Learning from error is great. Adapting to that learning is evolution.
Old Dad was pretty smart.
Old Dad was pretty smart.
Gunkie@XanIndigo freedom to fail is one of the pillars to success.
Stefan Scholl@XanIndigo The reaction I get on #Reddit when I say "You are right, I was wrong." is getting every comment downvoted to -10 and less.
@XanIndigo The moral of the story: Don't have an opinion. Or keep it to yourself.
The Velvet Hammer@XanIndigo what a great way to put it! I’ve been practicing this and often find people taken aback by it and appreciative at the same time. It does make life easier in a way, and certainly more authentic. Thanks for posting this! 🙏
Keith DaggettMoreover, it is the behavior of someone who uses the scientific method honestly.
Darfash@XanIndigo Unless you are a Tory (red or blue). But then again, they are not human.
MLBjustme@XanIndigo
Absolutely. I love being wrong, Because I now know I'm a fact smarter than I was yesterday. I'm not wrong ofter though as I tend to research everything before I do anything. I work on the basis I'm stupid and find this approach very helpful personally.
Absolutely. I love being wrong, Because I now know I'm a fact smarter than I was yesterday. I'm not wrong ofter though as I tend to research everything before I do anything. I work on the basis I'm stupid and find this approach very helpful personally.
Justin Dearing@XanIndigo oh I am normally very wrong
Courtney Heard 🇨🇦@XanIndigo well, I’m a few steps ahead of you! I’m wrong and make mistakes all the time! It’s like I can’t stop.
Blaidd_3.14159@XanIndigo
It used to be normal.
It used to be normal.
Smaug@XanIndigo I don’t mind being wrong but I hate being treated as if a mistake makes me stupid.
Jesse@XanIndigo I had a boss who respected that about me
myrmepropagandist@XanIndigo OMG this is so needed on reddit.
Was recently asking some question on the crypto forum about how to hand a transaction I'd prepared with my own code to the blockchain.
Dude kept voting me down & getting in my grill because he couldn't understand how I could have forgotten that wallet apps exist... but at the same time be working with "handmade" transactions.
I explained that I had just forgotten since I never worked with them much and It'd been years. He kept insulting me. ugh.
Now that I try to explain it, it all seems very arcane, but it was annoying to be called stupid and insincere...essentially for asking a question.
And I never got my question answered either. Though I did appreciate remember that I could just use a desktop app to do such things--- that was not my issue. I want to know if my code works.
STEM people tend to suck in this area for some reason.
HandgunYoga (he/him/his)@XanIndigo Love this, and a little stunned that there is any controversy. Most people do not learn from their successes, only from mistakes and Only from the mistakes they admit to.
Self reflection is “baked into” modern project management processes like #SAFe #Agile— every 2 weeks we hold a Team Retrospective to review mistakes and lessons learned, and create new procedures and checklists.
I share my mistakes and uncertainty so my Team feels safe doing the same.
Bruno Baketarić@HandgunYoga @XanIndigo Why do you mention SAFe here? They didn't invent it, nor improved it and hardly add anything useful to what already existed long before.
To the contrary, what SAFe adds to the game impedes the journey that teams may make through reflection and self-organization for the sake of better alignment.
jan Tanjo@XanIndigo I had to give myself a pep talk yesterday about this. "It could happen to anyone...even [coworker i look up to] could have done that. You'll do better next time." These tasks aren't easy for me, but I'm told they get easier with practice. #growthmindset
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Audrea 🌸@XanIndigo Addendum: Normalize not shaming someone for being wrong; instead, respectfully correcting them.
Many people feel pressure to be perfect because they fear being publicly shamed of verbally bullied.)
sj_zeroI like to be proven wrong, and to have my thinking changed. I'm happy to have found a lot of people who are capable of doing that in the last few years.
You have to be very careful though, because skepticism needs to be applied at all times as well. There are lots of people out there whose sole purpose is to try to deceive you into thinking in a way that's useful for them. Therefore, you should be supple enough to be open to new ideas and new information, but strong enough to push back against blindly and stupidly believing anything that's presented to you without question.
You have to be very careful though, because skepticism needs to be applied at all times as well. There are lots of people out there whose sole purpose is to try to deceive you into thinking in a way that's useful for them. Therefore, you should be supple enough to be open to new ideas and new information, but strong enough to push back against blindly and stupidly believing anything that's presented to you without question.
ScottinSoCal 🇺🇦 🕊 🏳🌈@sj_zero @XanIndigo It's good to have an open mind, but not so open it gets drafty.
-Words of wisdom from my chosen family, and I try to live by them.
Nathalie Tasler
Schroedinger@XanIndigo Normalise it? It is my entire life.
@XanIndigo also model this to your kids
Mike Stevens 
@XanIndigo
Plenty of people have normalised being wrong — they just haven't normalised admitting to it 😂
@will
Plenty of people have normalised being wrong — they just haven't normalised admitting to it 😂
@will
@XanIndigo changing your opinion is evidence of growth.
Riley S. Faelan@XanIndigo: Correction: robots get to make mistakes, soon. And soon, robots will be good at admitting to them, and explicitly changing their opinion when they learn how they used to be wrong.
It's not uniquely human now that we live in the future.
Tamar Yellin
5tranman@XanIndigo This is also an essential part of successful project management. The whole concept behind the Agile project management method is receiving constant feedback so that errors can be corrected quickly without losing time or wasting resources. “Failing forward” is how we learn and grow. One of the greatest fallacies in politics and elsewhere, is the notion that admitting a mistake is a sign of weakness.