@endali Let’s be honest, the surest sign that you are bisexual is that you’re having these doubts about yourself.
All joking aside, it’s OK. I’ve been with my straight, cis female partner for 20 years this year, and I only figured out I was bisexual five years ago. I’ve had all manner of doubts about my own sexuality, beginning with “why am I even thinking about this in the first place?”
The truth is—while we can never truly no the future—I am in a happy monogamous marriage; Lord willing, I will never have another sexual partner, which means I will go through my whole life never being with someone who is t a woman. Nevertheless, I am #StillBisexual. And so are you.
Understanding my own sexuality has made me a better partner. It has made my sex life better even though that sex life continues to be with a single person. And it has made me a better person, as I have come to understand my queerness not just as a sexual orientation, but as a lens through which to view the world.
I’m sorry you’re having these doubts and feelings about yourself. The only thing I can say with certainty is that you are enough. You are good enough; you are bi enough. Nobody gets to define your sexuality but you—not the people around you, not people online, not your partner, not your sexual history, and not even your sexual future.