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Polysecure 4: Pulling It Together

Final part of a 4 part in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern

After sitting with this book for a while, I’ve realised that I wasn’t really reading it as a guide to polyamory.

I was using it as a lens to re-examine my relationships – past and present.

There were moments that resonated strongly, and others that raised more questions than they answered. But in working through them, something shifted.

I began by trying to understand attachment theory.

I ended up questioning whether I even trust the frameworks I’m using to understand myself – especially where neurodivergence overlaps with ideas of “security” and “insecurity”.

I started to notice the role of the nervous system.

What it feels like to be calm with someone. To feel safe. And how unfamiliar that sometimes is.

I found myself reinterpreting my marriage – not just as monogamous, but as emotionally closed. Possibly codependent. Possibly something else entirely.

And I’ve started to see my current relationships differently too.

Not in terms of labels – primary, secondary, poly or not – but in terms of how they feel. Whether there is openness. Whether there is safety. Whether there is space for me to exist as I am.

The book also touches on the idea of having a secure attachment to oneself.

There’s a common phrase: that you can’t love others until you love yourself. I don’t think that’s quite true. I think you can love others without self-love – but it’s more likely to become entangled, or dependent.

What feels more accurate is this:

It’s much harder to form secure, stable attachments with others if your relationship with yourself is unstable.

And that extends beyond attachment theory.

It touches gender. Sexuality. Identity.

If parts of ourselves are hidden, suppressed, or rejected… then any connection we build with others rests on unstable ground.

So perhaps this is what I’m left with.

Not answers.

But better questions.

What does safety actually feel like?
What am I still misreading about myself?
And what would it mean to build relationships – with others, and with myself – that don’t require me to disappear in order to belong?

Other posts in this series:

• Polysecure 1: Attachment vs Neurodivergence – Am I Misreading Myself?
• Polysecure 2: What Does It Feel Like to Be Safe With Someone?
• Polysecure 3: Was My Marriage Codependent, or Just Closed?

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Polysecure 3: Was My Marriage Codependent, or Just Closed?

Part 3 of 4 in a short series reflecting on Polysecure by Jessica Fern

One section of the book introduces a way of thinking about relationships along two axes:
sexual openness and emotional openness.

“Take what helps and dismiss the rest.”
(p.110)

That line reminded me of an Al-Anon slogan, and I liked it immediately. It feels like permission to think, rather than instruction to conform.

But the model itself led me somewhere uncomfortable.

I realised that my marriage was closed – not just sexually, but emotionally.

And perhaps what I am experiencing now is not just sexual freedom, but the recovery of emotional freedom.

“In monogamous couples… sharing deep or romantic emotions with others can be considered cheating.”
(p.111)

That was a revelation.

Emotional monogamy wasn’t something I had ever really understood.

Looking back, I think my mother may have been similar. Faithful in a sexual sense, but emotionally open with others, without clear boundaries.

I recognise that in myself.

I have shared deep emotions with friends. My husband found that more upsetting than anything sexual – and I never really understood why.

Now I think I do.

“A considerable amount of the mono-romantic ideal can actually be codependency in disguise.”
(p.118)

That lands.

Years ago, I read Codependent No More by Melody Beattie and began to understand how entangled I was in my marriage. I’ve described it as feeling like a planet orbiting a volatile star – buffeted by solar storms, trapped in gravity, unable to escape.

But my husband once said something that surprised me.

He felt it was a binary star system. Two bodies pulling on each other. Draining each other. Both trapped.

That… also fits.

“True intimacy does not come from enmeshment, but from two differentiated individuals sharing themselves.”
(p.133)

I lost a large part of myself in my marriage.

Things I loved – reading, writing, piano, even something as simple as enjoying Star Wars or Star Trek – were gradually squeezed out. They weren’t shared, so they became unwelcome.

My interests didn’t belong in the home.

My body didn’t quite belong either.

My gismos, gadgets, and books weren’t welcome… so in many ways, I wasn’t welcome.

Now that I live alone, there is space again. Space for those parts of me to exist.

So I’m left with a question I can’t quite resolve:

Was my marriage codependent?

Or was it simply… small?

Closed in ways I didn’t even recognise at the time.

And if I didn’t recognise it then…

What else might I still be misreading now?

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