It seems that there's a whole category of women (when it comes to online dating), who feel that the way to establish a love relationship is by proving to a man that they have breasts. Not necessarily NSFW, but they do tend to send photos which basically focus on that part of the body. And then they seem to expect a man to be utterly captivated and ecstatic.
Maybe that works for neurotypical men? I know some men that it would certainly affect strongly. But as a demisexual and sapiosexual male, that approach has always bewildered me.
I mean, I pretty much •assumed• you had breasts! I know not every woman does, but the vast majority do. And there's nothing wrong with that; I like them as much as any straight man. But shouldn't it matter who the breasts are ATTACHED to? What kind of person they are? What kind of connection there is between a man and a woman on an emotional and intellectual basis?
I honestly don't understand the idea of a relationship based purely on physical compatibility and nothing more. Okay, maybe I'm being a little too harsh. I know personality matters for everyone, not just demis. But...it's SO confusing! It's like living in a world where maybe 50 to 75% of potential mates are actually incredibly alien from a mental and emotional point of view. And they don't seem to be able to understand demisexuals, demisexual males in particular. I guess we pretty much violate the cliches of what a male is and wants.
Hope that wasn't too inappropriate.
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